So I have a small dilemma. Me and this girl have been talking nearly every day since Mexico, she has been saying she cannot wait to see me as she is coming to Europe (in a week). I told her today to buy the ticket to fly to see me in 2 weeks for a week. She said where can I get lodging nearby, I told her wtf you’re staying at mine, she said I would need to pay you, I don’t want to distrupt you. I told her don’t be silly and she was like okay I’ll stay with you.

She’s rich for Mexican standards but a ticket costs £100 return. She hasn’t replied to my last message for a while but I have a feeling she’s not going to buy the tickets to see me even though we’ve been planning this, she says she will definitely see me in December instead.

What should I do? Keep pushing her to buy the tickets? I don’t even mind buying them for her if money is a problem for her. Or is she trying not to see me, I don’t know what this girl wants to do. I wanna see her and bang her brains out again for 7 days, I want her to fly to me like we agreed.

Pump you breaks real quick and tuck that boner away for a second.

You're not the one flying, she is, so it's on her.

There's no need to rush her, remember, you've banged her already, YOU'RE the prize.

No need to follow up, she'll message you back soon, and then gauge your conversation, casually drop in a text asking if she got tickets yet.

Also, why are you opposing her getting her own place? Last I checked you live with your parents in a small apartment in a somewhat ghetto area?

I think you should suggest a nice place she can stay near you, and you pay for her ticket home. That way the costs will be a wash and break even.

Quote: (09-13-2018 03:32 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Pump you breaks real quick and tuck that boner away for a second.

You're not the one flying, she is, so it's on her.

There's no need to rush her, remember, you've banged her already, YOU'RE the prize.

No need to follow up, she'll message you back soon, and then gauge your conversation, casually drop in a text asking if she got tickets yet.

Also, why are you opposing her getting her own place? Last I checked you live with your parents in a small apartment in a somewhat ghetto area?

I think you should suggest a nice place she can stay near you, and you pay for her ticket home. That way the costs will be a wash and break even.

No Kaotic she is coming to my university in Italy. I will have my own place there. She is just acting weird when the day comes to buy the tickets but has been telling me for 2 months she wants to see me. Man I haven’t got laid with anybody since with her in Mexico 2 months ago, That has been a problem. I feel like I am relying on her to have sex and I need to break that, she has also deleted all pictures of her with guys on social media and keeps uploading ones with me, she also mentioned moving to Europe permanently but I think that’s insane, I still don’t know this girls true intentions after all that time

Oh well that's a different story.

Well like said, just wait and see at this point.

Another way is a sales tactic or urgency, of telling her, she needs to let you know soon if she's buying tickets, because you've got other shit to do or other vacations planned. (do this within a conversation you're already having, not seperate.

Two months isn't a long time in not having sex, but you do sound frustrated.

You're right, you can't rely just one her.

Why aren't flirting with girls on campus and day gaming? You're young and in the perfect scenario! Hell even fire up Tinder or Bumble and you can get laid on campus.

If she moves to Europe thats on her own, that's not on you, while still crazy, I have a feeling that having her close by soone or later will become annoying or boring to you.

This girl bought her tickets and is going to see me in a week, no more worries. This is crazy, how I got a tinder girl from Mexico coming to visit me in Italy. It’s going to be a good start to my university year

Dude you need to calm the fuck down before you scare her away ...

I fell in love with a girl like that before.

Its crazy, almost the same story as me. I lost my virginity at 18 with a Mexican girl in Mexico.

Every since then, I romanticized the place like you wouldn't believe. I kept going back to Mexico from the U.S. all the time just to see this girl. I fell "In love" because she had a nice firm ass and it was the first girl I have ever been with. The sex was great.

I maintained a long term relationship for 2 years until I was 20. I was so in love that I wanted to marry her at the time, but I was only 18 living with my parents and working at McDonald's haha and just getting ready to go to college. There was no way in hell I was ready financially to start a family with her. So I told her to wait for me for a couple of years until I got my finances in order and she agreed at the time also. Long story short, after 2 years of Long distance relationship of me going to Mexico every six months to see her, she cheated on me with a broke ass Mexican dude in his 30s and married him 3 weeks later after meeting him. That was that. I was devastated at the time.

I'm 29 now, older and wiser I learned that:

1. Long distance relationships don't work.

You don't see her, nor do you touch her, nothing. Women are emotional beings, if you abandon a woman she will fuck the next guy who comes up to her and consoles her and makes her feel good. You can't just assume she will not cheat on you during the time you don't see her. All it takes is one guy with some good game to come up to her and its game over. I vowed never again to get into another long term relationship.

2. I wasted valuable time where I could have been chasing other girls, but I was consumed by her.

If I could do it all over again, I would have just enjoyed my time and moment with her whenever I did see her and just leave it at that. I was going crazy about the fact that I wanted to marry her that I wasted 2 years of trying to be loyal, getting finances together, etc... All while she was over there fucking another dude.


Looking back I kind of laugh at how in love I was of that girl. I do see her sometimes, she has 3 kids now but her ass isn't what it used to be. She tries to hide from me also whenever she finds out I'm in her town. Probably embarrassed I guess, who knows.


What I suggest you do is to stop worrying about this girl. You're still very young so you have lots of time to get your life in order. Like another user said, this is just puppy love. If you still want to have a long term relationship, do it, but treat her as your 2nd option. Go out with other girls in your country and talk to other women. The more you meet other girls the more you will realize that the girl in Mexico is nothing special. And if you do happen to go back to Mexico and still want to see her, then fuck her again and leave it at that and enjoy the moment.

Now if you're really serious about actually seeing your future with her, then I suggest you start getting your finances in order ASAP. Don't promise her anything you won't be able to do. Its not the road I would take since you said you only met her 3 weeks, but if you really want to then do it.


The whole ex-boyfriend thing is a huge red flag though. Fuck that! I would next her ass and talk to other women. Buy Roosh's game book and approach women.

Quote: (09-15-2018 01:56 PM)Parras Wrote:  

I fell in love with a girl like that before.

Its crazy, almost the same story as me. I lost my virginity at 18 with a Mexican girl in Mexico.

Every since then, I romanticized the place like you wouldn't believe. I kept going back to Mexico from the U.S. all the time just to see this girl. I fell "In love" because she had a nice firm ass and it was the first girl I have ever been with. The sex was great.

I maintained a long term relationship for 2 years until I was 20. I was so in love that I wanted to marry her at the time, but I was only 18 living with my parents and working at McDonald's haha and just getting ready to go to college. There was no way in hell I was ready financially to start a family with her. So I told her to wait for me for a couple of years until I got my finances in order and she agreed at the time also. Long story short, after 2 years of Long distance relationship of me going to Mexico every six months to see her, she cheated on me with a broke ass Mexican dude in his 30s and married him 3 weeks later after meeting him. That was that. I was devastated at the time.

I'm 29 now, older and wiser I learned that:

1. Long distance relationships don't work.

You don't see her, nor do you touch her, nothing. Women are emotional beings, if you abandon a woman she will fuck the next guy who comes up to her and consoles her and makes her feel good. You can't just assume she will not cheat on you during the time you don't see her. All it takes is one guy with some good game to come up to her and its game over. I vowed never again to get into another long term relationship.

2. I wasted valuable time where I could have been chasing other girls, but I was consumed by her.

If I could do it all over again, I would have just enjoyed my time and moment with her whenever I did see her and just leave it at that. I was going crazy about the fact that I wanted to marry her that I wasted 2 years of trying to be loyal, getting finances together, etc... All while she was over there fucking another dude.


Looking back I kind of laugh at how in love I was of that girl. I do see her sometimes, she has 3 kids now but her ass isn't what it used to be. She tries to hide from me also whenever she finds out I'm in her town. Probably embarrassed I guess, who knows.


What I suggest you do is to stop worrying about this girl. You're still very young so you have lots of time to get your life in order. Like another user said, this is just puppy love. If you still want to have a long term relationship, do it, but treat her as your 2nd option. Go out with other girls in your country and talk to other women. The more you meet other girls the more you will realize that the girl in Mexico is nothing special. And if you do happen to go back to Mexico and still want to see her, then fuck her again and leave it at that and enjoy the moment.

Now if you're really serious about actually seeing your future with her, then I suggest you start getting your finances in order ASAP. Don't promise her anything you won't be able to do. Its not the road I would take since you said you only met her 3 weeks, but if you really want to then do it.


The whole ex-boyfriend thing is a huge red flag though. Fuck that! I would next her ass and talk to other women. Buy Roosh's game book and approach women.

Your story is a reflection of what mine could be if I would continue it. It’s pretty much aligned exactly the same. Thanks for them points you really opened my brain, I know all along though that it’s not a good idea.

Redpilluk you’re right, I need to become calm and i know how to do that - through abundance. Luckily i move to university tomorrow so this is the time to get out of this rut - then I will host my Mexican chica and enjoy it good - then possibly cut it off kindly somehow after because 7 months is way too long to not see her, she will be with another Juan by then and I know this. How i will let the relationship fade I honestly don’t know, whether upfront or not.

No need to try and make the relationship fade - just explore your options and meet other girls too

Don't be in a rush - enjoy the ride. You never know what is going to happen.

As long as you aren't handicapping yourself for other opportunities while you're at uni, there's nothing to worry about. The regret most people have isn't being in an LDR, it's not being able to enjoy the bountiful young pussy. That's the mistake I made for my first 2 1/2 years. Regardless, you're already far more knowledgeable about how things really work than I was back then.

You can have your cake and eat it too.

Quote: (09-13-2018 03:49 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

Quote: (09-13-2018 03:32 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Pump you breaks real quick and tuck that boner away for a second.

You're not the one flying, she is, so it's on her.

There's no need to rush her, remember, you've banged her already, YOU'RE the prize.

No need to follow up, she'll message you back soon, and then gauge your conversation, casually drop in a text asking if she got tickets yet.

Also, why are you opposing her getting her own place? Last I checked you live with your parents in a small apartment in a somewhat ghetto area?

I think you should suggest a nice place she can stay near you, and you pay for her ticket home. That way the costs will be a wash and break even.

No Kaotic she is coming to my university in Italy. I will have my own place there. She is just acting weird when the day comes to buy the tickets but has been telling me for 2 months she wants to see me. Man I haven’t got laid with anybody since with her in Mexico 2 months ago, That has been a problem. I feel like I am relying on her to have sex and I need to break that, she has also deleted all pictures of her with guys on social media and keeps uploading ones with me, she also mentioned moving to Europe permanently but I think that’s insane, I still don’t know this girls true intentions after all that time

She could potentially be the love of your life. She is acting like a girl in love and showing you genuine actions, not just words. Why are you being sneaky? Is it because you do not feel ready for a relationship?

She seems to be doing sacrifices to make you happy. If you're not interested, just cut it and bang other chicks. She seems worth it, tho.

Quote: (09-16-2018 11:19 AM)jmane Wrote:  

She could potentially be the love of your life. She is acting like a girl in love and showing you genuine actions, not just words. Why are you being sneaky? Is it because you do not feel ready for a relationship?

She seems to be doing sacrifices to make you happy. If you're not interested, just cut it and bang other chicks. She seems worth it, tho.

And this is why women aren't allowed on the forum

No Mikestar not just abundance, my meme had a very clear message. At 18 your high sex drive is turning you all soft and needy and making you care about a girl you don't even know that well too much. You need to kill that sex drive through any means possible to stay clear headed.

Quote: (09-16-2018 03:46 PM)RedPillUK Wrote:  

Quote: (09-16-2018 11:19 AM)jmane Wrote:  

She could potentially be the love of your life. She is acting like a girl in love and showing you genuine actions, not just words. Why are you being sneaky? Is it because you do not feel ready for a relationship?

She seems to be doing sacrifices to make you happy. If you're not interested, just cut it and bang other chicks. She seems worth it, tho.

And this is why women aren't allowed on the forum

No Mikestar not just abundance, my meme had a very clear message. At 18 your high sex drive is turning you all soft and needy and making you care about a girl you don't even know that well too much. You need to kill that sex drive through any means possible to stay clear headed.

Almost seems like you are against marriage and against couples forming at a young age and.... and hence advising pro degeneracy to a kid.

The only thing that can save society is women from 18 getting married and pregnant with an honorable man who will provide for them.

So she is seeing me tomorrow, this is it. 5 days in Italy, I have accommodation time and money.

So how do I ensure I have the best 5 days with her, how would you guys do it? I am thinking to go to Milan with her for one day too and spend the last night there.

Quote: (07-17-2018 09:38 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

You're a young dude, this is puppy love, this ain't love, this is infatuation.

Long distant relationships DO-NOT-WORK period.

Summarizing kaotic. Just move on man, you are young and the stress, energy and money you invest in long distance relationship is not worth it. Work on your game and the women you encounter in person will give you more satisfaction that planned skype meetings and expensive flights. You are 18, these things come and go. There are girls you can bang or fall in love with all around the world. Don't waste your time.

Quote: (09-20-2018 08:13 AM)Mikestar Wrote:  

So she is seeing me tomorrow, this is it. 5 days in Italy, I have accommodation time and money.

So how do I ensure I have the best 5 days with her, how would you guys do it? I am thinking to go to Milan with her for one day too and spend the last night there.

Do some touristy things, do some local things.

Every chick wants pics at the famous places, but she wants the "local" tour also.

You can give her both, and your dick also.

Quote: (09-21-2018 08:13 AM)OCZ Wrote:  

Quote: (07-17-2018 09:38 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

You're a young dude, this is puppy love, this ain't love, this is infatuation.

Long distant relationships DO-NOT-WORK period.

Summarizing kaotic. Just move on man, you are young and the stress, energy and money you invest in long distance relationship is not worth it. Work on your game and the women you encounter in person will give you more satisfaction that planned skype meetings and expensive flights. You are 18, these things come and go. There are girls you can bang or fall in love with all around the world. Don't waste your time.

Now hold on, read the entire thread - Mike understands now what this really is and he's just enjoying the ride for now. Nothing wrong with that !

Kaotic - I did exactly that. I have 1 more day with her and it has been the best adventure of my life. All we do is sightsee museums and the city, eat, fuck, sleep and repeat.

She turned me from an amateur wimp at sex to a goddamn champion, we are literally fucking like rabbits, I would say ranging from 4-7 times a day. Yesterday I showed her a park at night time which we broke into and she gave me head in public. Today I got her drunk for the first time since 1 year. Today I realised how important it is to give a girl a good fuck, afterwards she was just obsessed with me, kissing me every 2 seconds in public, giving me head in the toilet. Man.... this is a dream. I never knew a girl could ever be this horny.

Apart from sex we are always talking about something interesting, sharing stories about ourselves, our family, world topics. We don’t get bored. We realise we both have flaws but we just enjoy the moment, we established we aren’t boyfriend and girlfriend but if we are on each other’s soil we both have a home with each other.

To top it all of this is all happening in Italy - where the architecture is jaw dropping, food one of the best on the planet and it’s hot.

Tomorrow we are going to Milan for the last day, it’s going to be a crazy goodbye

Mike this brings a smile to my face brother!

Glad you're having fun but understanding you're keeping it casual.

That "when I'm with you, I'm with you, when I'm not, I'm not" mantra is great to have.

It brings you both back down from Cloud 9 to more realistic expectation.

Enjoy your last day with her and send her off with a bang!

Quote: (09-24-2018 06:40 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

Today I realised how important it is to give a girl a good fuck, afterwards she was just obsessed with me, kissing me every 2 seconds in public, giving me head in the toilet. Man.... this is a dream. I never knew a girl could ever be this horny.

Atta boy Mike!!!

I still think about that same moment when it happened to me... Nothing like it.

I am interested in her response to you when you laid down the boundaries of the relationship. As I have a similar situation I have created , but have not laid down the —When I am with you we are together but when apart we are free. How did you bring it up ? and handle the response?

Quote: (09-26-2018 08:01 AM)dsutmdo Wrote:  

I am interested in her response to you when you laid down the boundaries of the relationship. As I have a similar situation I have created , but have not laid down the —When I am with you we are together but when apart we are free. How did you bring it up ? and handle the response?

We didn’t know establish any terms clearly, just vaguely. I just told her how our situation is bound to hurt us over time but if we have no expectations of each other then it can work. I also told her when we are in the same place at the same time it’s just us, no one else.

Yesterday was the last day and I have to admit something. I cried like a bitch. It all started when I asked her about her ex (the one in her background) - I couldnt hold it in for any longer. She started getting angry and then I exposed her, I pinned her down on the bed and went psycho, I told her you think I’m a stupid gringo? You think I didn’t know your “best friend” was your ex? Don’t play with me. Then I fucked her as hard as I could, I was really angry and I fucked her like I hated her, smacking her ass and pulling her hair whilst telling her you lied to me. She loved it so damn much.

After this she literally opened everything up to me and confessed that she did not cheat but she spoke to him. I told her where I’m from boys and girls don’t make good friends because it’ll end up more than that. She agreed and said she will stop having guy friends. She also told me why she used tinder - she said she only used it once for me because that’s when she broke up with her bf (I believe her) so that gave me a clear head. We then talked about our relationship and the future for us (which we never do) and I told her this philosophy of not having expectations. This is the moment where I cried like a bitch, that never happened to me in my life. Then she ended up crying for a good hour, saying she doesn’t want me to leave and she wants to spend forever with me, how I am a special guy in her life.

After that intense hate fuck she literally kissed me every 2 seconds in public, kissing my hand, caressing me non stop. We had an amazing time then had sex again, she is just an addictive girl. I have never met someone so affectionate and caring. I gave her a rose and she put it in water and took it on the airplane home, every morning she would bring me water when I was thirsty, she would make the bed nicely and keep things clean. The passion between us was always extraordinary, I have to be honest sleeping in the bed alone and not feeling her now it feels like something is missing.

And what happens now? She wants to visit me again for Xmas. I think it’s a good idea, then I will visit her in the summer - but when I’m here I’m here, I won’t forget that. I have my own life and now it’s back to reality.

Addictive girls can be dangerous, don't let her be your drug.

You enjoyed your time together, that's that.

When she comes around again, enjoy your time together again.

You shouldn't of opened up like that about relationships and calling her out on her ex.

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I just told her how our situation is bound to hurt us over time but if we have no expectations of each other then it can work.

This is how it should've ended.

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I also told her when we are in the same place at the same time it’s just us, no one else.

This is what should've been added.

You've got passionate Latina and you lost your virginity to her, you guys are like fire and gasoline.

Once she goes home and things start to settle down you'll be okay.

But its mandatory you go game other chicks and get some different flavors that are out there.

This girl can take a back seat until she visits you again, but don't have high expectations since you guys are long distance.

Long distance doesn't usually work for long. I say either marry her soon or leave her.

This is something I know but the fact of the matter is I really don’t know what to do.

If she comes to visit me for Xmas she will meet my family - 1 step closer to marriage.

Then again if I cut it off with her I will break her heart - but I know she will find another guy

I want to see her a couple times a year and keep it casual but I just don’t know if I can handle it, when she’s gone like right now I miss her too much and my game deteriorates. I can’t lie I fell deep and getting out is hard. To me it feels like she is the only girl in the world I have a connection with.

The thing is next year I want to do the smart choice and go to Colombia, but she expects me to come to Mexico, I doubt I can do both.