Hello,
Getting back into game after more or less a year long hiatus since breaking up with a gf. I've never been great at game but with the time off, my skills are definitely worse than they already were. Have a few questions re: when the girl says "What are your intentions" when number closing.
Approach:
Was at a coffee shop on a campus today and a girl sat beside me with her friend. Her friend stepped away and I immediately used the elderly opener and asked: "Excuse me, is that a good watch?"
She seemed receptive to conversation and we talked about watches etc for a few min. I then transitioned the convo to a few other things (like our fields of study and added a few light-hearted jokes). At around the 5 min mark, I had to leave to get to class so I said:
Me: "Hey, I gotta head to class. It was nice talking to you and I'd like to continue it later."
She immediately had a look of hesitation on her face.
Her: You mean as friends?
Me: You seem hesitant...
Her: "I just want to know what your intentions are..."
I was slightly rattled at this point but not terribly
Me: "I enjoyed talking to you and would like to talk to you again and go from there. Tell you what, I'll text you and you can decide whether or not you want to respond."
Got her number but I'm not thinking anything will happen.
Questions for you experienced gamers:
I know that you can't make someone like you with a flip of a switch by doing x,y,z so maybe there's nothing I could have done in this situation because she already was adverse to seeing me as a potential suitor at the beginning or maybe the convo didn't go as well as I thought it did but...
1. Would it be right to say that more times than not, if a girl hesitates when you ask for the number, you're out of luck?
2. Is it more likely that you're done with the above combined with "as friends"?
3. With what frequency does a girl ask "what your intentions are" in this situation if she was possibly interested? 90/10?
4. Assuming that she was interested after asking the above, what is the best response? Do what I did and be somewhat non-committal or be extremely direct and say because you want to meet with her later on for a date?
Thanks again.
Getting back into game after more or less a year long hiatus since breaking up with a gf. I've never been great at game but with the time off, my skills are definitely worse than they already were. Have a few questions re: when the girl says "What are your intentions" when number closing.
Approach:
Was at a coffee shop on a campus today and a girl sat beside me with her friend. Her friend stepped away and I immediately used the elderly opener and asked: "Excuse me, is that a good watch?"
She seemed receptive to conversation and we talked about watches etc for a few min. I then transitioned the convo to a few other things (like our fields of study and added a few light-hearted jokes). At around the 5 min mark, I had to leave to get to class so I said:
Me: "Hey, I gotta head to class. It was nice talking to you and I'd like to continue it later."
She immediately had a look of hesitation on her face.
Her: You mean as friends?
Me: You seem hesitant...
Her: "I just want to know what your intentions are..."
I was slightly rattled at this point but not terribly
Me: "I enjoyed talking to you and would like to talk to you again and go from there. Tell you what, I'll text you and you can decide whether or not you want to respond."
Got her number but I'm not thinking anything will happen.
Questions for you experienced gamers:
I know that you can't make someone like you with a flip of a switch by doing x,y,z so maybe there's nothing I could have done in this situation because she already was adverse to seeing me as a potential suitor at the beginning or maybe the convo didn't go as well as I thought it did but...
1. Would it be right to say that more times than not, if a girl hesitates when you ask for the number, you're out of luck?
2. Is it more likely that you're done with the above combined with "as friends"?
3. With what frequency does a girl ask "what your intentions are" in this situation if she was possibly interested? 90/10?
4. Assuming that she was interested after asking the above, what is the best response? Do what I did and be somewhat non-committal or be extremely direct and say because you want to meet with her later on for a date?
Thanks again.