I'm a little pissed off and disappointed at what just happened.
I met a chick online from Latvia last year. I've been talking to her sporadically every 1-2 times a month to maintain interest level while I was working on my finances to return back on a multi country trip back to Europe. Interest levels appeared very high (fast replies, long messages, questions, etc) until like 2 weeks ago. I booked my flight to Latvia and Poland a few months back and I'm suppose to be flying out tomorrow night. I've been flirting with her for a while now and we even made plans to hang out when I arrive. In fact, she insisted on coming to the airport to see me when I arrived or to see me the following day because we had a lot in common and a strong connection (at least I thought). Her social media appears clean, no attention whoring, no guys shown, etc. when I was screening her. Everything appeared fine and dandy until late last night while I was doing some work.
I received this message from her:
"Hei ! How are you? Somehow Im not getting your messages, just saw them in my email ! Are You ready for Your trip? Im a bit busy with work, but will definately make a time for you. Maybe even if it will be possible introduce you to my friends and i guess now my boyfriend I recently started to see theough one of my childhood friend?
Btw, it is cold here! Pack some warm clothes!"
When I saw that I was like wtf! You tell me this now? After I booked a flight to fly half way around the world to see you and then you decide to get a boyfriend. Needless to say I'm kind of pissed right now.
I wasn't sure if I read her message right because of her English so I tried to casually clarifying it and asked her if she's sure its alright with her boyfriend that she hangs out with another guy and this was her response.
"One time yes and then we can hang out some day together and show u around"
I'd probably be even more pissed if it weren't for the fact that I also was talking to several other girls and have another girl lined up in Poland. I'm pretty sure she was single up until like a few weeks ago when I noticed her behavior changed a bit. I suspected there was a guy in the picture but this confirms it.
So now I'm not exactly sure how to proceed with her.
Option 1: Cut her loose and move on
Option 2: Meet up with her and try to escalate things
Option 3: Meet up with her, show her a great time and what she is missing out on but remain platonic and get her to introduce me to her friends and then game her friends.
Option 1: I don't think option 1 is really an option because it seems like a total waste because I can still use her to get into her social circle and hook up with her friends plus its always good to befriend a local so they can take care of you and show you around. Plus it makes me look butt hurt and just reinforces that she made the right decision.
Option 2: I'm really debating this. On the one hand, it doesn't seem like they are really serious. I don't even think I would consider them a couple yet as they probably just went out 2-3 times so I think I can still get her but at the same time my moral compass is spinning like crazy. I don't like getting involved with girlfriends with boyfriends but in this case, it sounds like it just happened. I'm not sure what to do with this second option. I think if I hang out with her one on one and I can show her a better time and exhibit higher value I can pluck her away from him but now this raises the question, if she is willing to hook up with me while having a boyfriend, what's to stop her from doing the same if I was the boyfriend? My respect for her would be diminished.
Option 3: This seems like a safe option. I still demonstrate high value and show her a good time while get integrated into her social circle and then work on her friends when she introduces them to me. In addition, I can also use her friends to make her jealous by showering them with attention while ignoring her. Also if her friends take a liking to me, I will have handled pre-selection, making me the more attractive option. Bonus points if she has hot friends and I hook up with them. I'm pretty sure this will drive her crazy and make her have second thoughts about the other guy.
Also there is one more issue that is kind of bugging me. She wanted to introduce me to her new boyfriend. WTF! Why the **** would I want to meet him? I don't even know how I would react in that situation or if its even a good idea. It's like a double edged sword. On one hand, I can get my ass kicked or feel like **** watching them make out and stuff but on the other hand, its an opportunity to covertly tool the guy and demonstrate higher value by being chilled and relaxed and extra friendly to the guy. I'm pretty sure if she tries to set this up, its some sort of **** test to see which one of us is more alpha and help her make a decision. If I can remain calm, and relaxed while having a fun time I'll outclass him especially if he gets jealous or emotional but at the same time, he can also do the same thing to me. In either case, it doesn't seem like a good choice especially considering my level of game, however the experience would be invaluable for the future and I would have a reference point on how to act for future cases. I've never been in a situation like this before.
What do you guys think? Should I cut my loses and move on, or still try with this broad while gaming other chicks as well?
I met a chick online from Latvia last year. I've been talking to her sporadically every 1-2 times a month to maintain interest level while I was working on my finances to return back on a multi country trip back to Europe. Interest levels appeared very high (fast replies, long messages, questions, etc) until like 2 weeks ago. I booked my flight to Latvia and Poland a few months back and I'm suppose to be flying out tomorrow night. I've been flirting with her for a while now and we even made plans to hang out when I arrive. In fact, she insisted on coming to the airport to see me when I arrived or to see me the following day because we had a lot in common and a strong connection (at least I thought). Her social media appears clean, no attention whoring, no guys shown, etc. when I was screening her. Everything appeared fine and dandy until late last night while I was doing some work.
I received this message from her:
"Hei ! How are you? Somehow Im not getting your messages, just saw them in my email ! Are You ready for Your trip? Im a bit busy with work, but will definately make a time for you. Maybe even if it will be possible introduce you to my friends and i guess now my boyfriend I recently started to see theough one of my childhood friend?
Btw, it is cold here! Pack some warm clothes!"
When I saw that I was like wtf! You tell me this now? After I booked a flight to fly half way around the world to see you and then you decide to get a boyfriend. Needless to say I'm kind of pissed right now.
I wasn't sure if I read her message right because of her English so I tried to casually clarifying it and asked her if she's sure its alright with her boyfriend that she hangs out with another guy and this was her response.
"One time yes and then we can hang out some day together and show u around"
I'd probably be even more pissed if it weren't for the fact that I also was talking to several other girls and have another girl lined up in Poland. I'm pretty sure she was single up until like a few weeks ago when I noticed her behavior changed a bit. I suspected there was a guy in the picture but this confirms it.
So now I'm not exactly sure how to proceed with her.
Option 1: Cut her loose and move on
Option 2: Meet up with her and try to escalate things
Option 3: Meet up with her, show her a great time and what she is missing out on but remain platonic and get her to introduce me to her friends and then game her friends.
Option 1: I don't think option 1 is really an option because it seems like a total waste because I can still use her to get into her social circle and hook up with her friends plus its always good to befriend a local so they can take care of you and show you around. Plus it makes me look butt hurt and just reinforces that she made the right decision.
Option 2: I'm really debating this. On the one hand, it doesn't seem like they are really serious. I don't even think I would consider them a couple yet as they probably just went out 2-3 times so I think I can still get her but at the same time my moral compass is spinning like crazy. I don't like getting involved with girlfriends with boyfriends but in this case, it sounds like it just happened. I'm not sure what to do with this second option. I think if I hang out with her one on one and I can show her a better time and exhibit higher value I can pluck her away from him but now this raises the question, if she is willing to hook up with me while having a boyfriend, what's to stop her from doing the same if I was the boyfriend? My respect for her would be diminished.
Option 3: This seems like a safe option. I still demonstrate high value and show her a good time while get integrated into her social circle and then work on her friends when she introduces them to me. In addition, I can also use her friends to make her jealous by showering them with attention while ignoring her. Also if her friends take a liking to me, I will have handled pre-selection, making me the more attractive option. Bonus points if she has hot friends and I hook up with them. I'm pretty sure this will drive her crazy and make her have second thoughts about the other guy.
Also there is one more issue that is kind of bugging me. She wanted to introduce me to her new boyfriend. WTF! Why the **** would I want to meet him? I don't even know how I would react in that situation or if its even a good idea. It's like a double edged sword. On one hand, I can get my ass kicked or feel like **** watching them make out and stuff but on the other hand, its an opportunity to covertly tool the guy and demonstrate higher value by being chilled and relaxed and extra friendly to the guy. I'm pretty sure if she tries to set this up, its some sort of **** test to see which one of us is more alpha and help her make a decision. If I can remain calm, and relaxed while having a fun time I'll outclass him especially if he gets jealous or emotional but at the same time, he can also do the same thing to me. In either case, it doesn't seem like a good choice especially considering my level of game, however the experience would be invaluable for the future and I would have a reference point on how to act for future cases. I've never been in a situation like this before.
What do you guys think? Should I cut my loses and move on, or still try with this broad while gaming other chicks as well?