I have been going out consistently since October last year, approached about 800 girls, gotten 70ish numbers, been on 10 dates + some 5-6 instant dates, gotten laid once, got a *near* lay once, and got a make out once.
When I started out, small successes would make me excited and I felt that I was always improving. Getting phone numbers, going on instant dates, or even cold approaching and having a good 10-minute long interaction were all new to me, so I felt good about doing it.
Then I got laid from a cold approach early July this year. It made me feel like a king for a week. But soon things turned to shit. I started setting a higher bar for myself and phone numbers and instant dates stopped making me feel good.
Now every time I go out I want to see signs that I am improving and failing to see that in the last two months I feel kind of lost.
Not sure exactly how anyone of you will help me without knowing me or meeting me in person, but I will write down some details about me. If anyone has any suggestions or would be up for meeting/doing a Skype call with me that will be much appreciated.
Details:
I turned 30 two weeks ago, live in Toronto, am 5'10", on the skinny side (that's a whole different story... I've been lifting weights consistently for about 2.5 yrs now... have seen some results but they aren't too impressive). I grew up in India, moved to Canada about 7-8 yrs ago, and have a *slight* Indian accent. I look avg and I have been working on my fashion for a while and dress reasonably well now. All of this is based on feedback I've got from others.
I do mostly daygame. Out of the 800 approaches mentioned above, around 200 were in nightclubs and bars and 600 on the streets and malls in the day time. This is roughly what happens when I approach:
20% of the times the girl will just say "I am in a rush" or "I am busy" and keep walking. Or perhaps entertain me for 1-2 sentences and then leave.
70% of the times I will have a longer interaction. She will stay for a bit, chat with me, then say she has a boyfriend or make some other excuse for not giving me her number.
Less than 10% of the times she will give me her number but most of those numbers don't lead to anything. I think around 70% of the numbers I get don't even reply to the first text and 30% just fizzle out after a few texts.
I have an incredibly hard time getting a girl out on a date. A lot of the dates that I do end up having are just spur-of-the-moment dates, i.e., I will approach a girl, go for a quick instant date, and then bounce her to a proper date to a bar.
I don't think I have learnt a lot of "game" skills so far. The only skill that I *have* learned are:
1) Being comfortable approaching.
2) Teasing her.
3) Passing shit tests.
There are things I could potentially work on, such as:
1) Smile more.
2) Speak louder.
3) Eliminate accent.
4) Show more emotions. Many people that know me in real life have said I have a "robotic" demeanour.
5) Persist more.
But I can't figure out what exactly it is right now that's stopping me from getting the results I want. Inner game-wise nothing much has changed from the past. I have always felt like I am an awesome person who sucks with women and I still feel the same. In every aspect of life other than game I feel confident, but when I approach a girl my default mindset is that she is not attracted to me.
Let me know if you have any more questions.
When I started out, small successes would make me excited and I felt that I was always improving. Getting phone numbers, going on instant dates, or even cold approaching and having a good 10-minute long interaction were all new to me, so I felt good about doing it.
Then I got laid from a cold approach early July this year. It made me feel like a king for a week. But soon things turned to shit. I started setting a higher bar for myself and phone numbers and instant dates stopped making me feel good.
Now every time I go out I want to see signs that I am improving and failing to see that in the last two months I feel kind of lost.
Not sure exactly how anyone of you will help me without knowing me or meeting me in person, but I will write down some details about me. If anyone has any suggestions or would be up for meeting/doing a Skype call with me that will be much appreciated.
Details:
I turned 30 two weeks ago, live in Toronto, am 5'10", on the skinny side (that's a whole different story... I've been lifting weights consistently for about 2.5 yrs now... have seen some results but they aren't too impressive). I grew up in India, moved to Canada about 7-8 yrs ago, and have a *slight* Indian accent. I look avg and I have been working on my fashion for a while and dress reasonably well now. All of this is based on feedback I've got from others.
I do mostly daygame. Out of the 800 approaches mentioned above, around 200 were in nightclubs and bars and 600 on the streets and malls in the day time. This is roughly what happens when I approach:
20% of the times the girl will just say "I am in a rush" or "I am busy" and keep walking. Or perhaps entertain me for 1-2 sentences and then leave.
70% of the times I will have a longer interaction. She will stay for a bit, chat with me, then say she has a boyfriend or make some other excuse for not giving me her number.
Less than 10% of the times she will give me her number but most of those numbers don't lead to anything. I think around 70% of the numbers I get don't even reply to the first text and 30% just fizzle out after a few texts.
I have an incredibly hard time getting a girl out on a date. A lot of the dates that I do end up having are just spur-of-the-moment dates, i.e., I will approach a girl, go for a quick instant date, and then bounce her to a proper date to a bar.
I don't think I have learnt a lot of "game" skills so far. The only skill that I *have* learned are:
1) Being comfortable approaching.
2) Teasing her.
3) Passing shit tests.
There are things I could potentially work on, such as:
1) Smile more.
2) Speak louder.
3) Eliminate accent.
4) Show more emotions. Many people that know me in real life have said I have a "robotic" demeanour.
5) Persist more.
But I can't figure out what exactly it is right now that's stopping me from getting the results I want. Inner game-wise nothing much has changed from the past. I have always felt like I am an awesome person who sucks with women and I still feel the same. In every aspect of life other than game I feel confident, but when I approach a girl my default mindset is that she is not attracted to me.
Let me know if you have any more questions.
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