What's up guys, my life aside from my sex life is currently pretty good. My career has always been my most important focus.

I have this super wide view of my career, it's like a means to an end just me anxiously waiting to just get to where I need to be. I get so focused that everything else just flies by.

Anyway, before I realize it I wake up and don't put any time in w women or relationships and thus don't have sex.

Now it's been a couple months since I last banged. Honestly the ONLY thing that bothers me is that specific fact, the thought of not having sex in a couple months triggers this feeling of being a failure.

TBH I could do without it bc once I get it I'm just like WTF no big deal there, however it's just that thought that bugs me.

Has anyone else experienced this? And how have you dealt with it?

I'm pretty sure most guys go through a similar period all the time when they're single. Good on you for working on your career, don't worry about getting laid too much.

I had this phase in my life some years ago. Have to say that it was the unhappiest days of my life. Indulged in some heavy shit to compensate.
Don't do the same I did, keep focus on your goals and try to do as much sport as possible.

Quote: (08-17-2016 10:11 PM)angryfuckface Wrote:  

TBH I could do without it bc once I get it I'm just like WTF no big deal there, however it's just that thought that bugs me.

Has anyone else experienced this? And how have you dealt with it?

If your sex life is so important to you, allocate a certain amount of time to go out and "Hunt".

Otherwise, it's just a thought that bugs you, as you've said. Don't feed the thought, close the door and eventually you'll stop thinking about it.

I'm basically in the same situation. I do not date American women at all. Just go on 3 or 4 nice vacations a year and go wild then. I understand what you mean about feeling like a failure. I to sometimes feel the same way. But, in the end focusing on yourself is more important.

Fap one off.

Does your career prevent you from taking a couple hours a night a couple days a week to go on a date? If so, I hope it is really worth the mental stress you are going through.

When I am super busy, I just use online game. Okc, pof, and tinder. Spam some messages on your lunch break, only takes a few minutes, and don't worry about dating a bit down if all you are looking for is sex. This will keep you from going crazy until you have time to focus on higher quality women.

Going months without sex is unnatural, so it is good that it makes you feel off. Just means your normal.

Try sexless years!

Did that when I was younger. Would not recommend.

Porn. thank me later.

There´s only one thing sure - it won´t last forever.

Quote: (08-18-2016 12:02 AM)Repo Wrote:  

Does your career prevent you from taking a couple hours a night a couple days a week to go on a date? If so, I hope it is really worth the mental stress you are going through.

When I am super busy, I just use online game. Okc, pof, and tinder. Spam some messages on your lunch break, only takes a few minutes, and don't worry about dating a bit down if all you are looking for is sex. This will keep you from going crazy until you have time to focus on higher quality women.

Going months without sex is unnatural, so it is good that it makes you feel off. Just means your normal.

The problem is that I go to the gym after work then go home. So I don't have a lot of "out" time.

I used to do the online thing, and I think I just maxed it out. I also got sick of the low quality. So recently I've been making an initiative to get back into some old social circles and try to crush some of the puss I've known for a while.

I think it will happen I just have to get back in the groove and probably make more time to go out, making it more of a priority now that I'm in a good place with my career.

As for going months without sex as not being "Normal" I don't know if that's true or not.

Another factor that I am pretty sure is a negative is that I work on the computer all day with numbers and stuff so like I don't get my juices flowing much to even get horny enough to have my animal brain overtake my logical brain.

I need to figure out a way to do that. I remember a couple years ago my friend gave me a male enhancement pill like 72HP i think it was called, and that got my juices flowing pretty good. Maybe I have to do something like that.

Everything is a hack tho like you mentioned about online and spam messaging.

Now I just have to figure out how to hack for higher quality and without using online channels

Philippines.

I lift heavy weights in order to channel libidinous energy into something else.

I've found that running helps burn off that excess energy

Everything is an excuse and where there's a will there's a way.

The answer is willpower.

Im currently at it. Life goes on in the end.

Quote: (08-18-2016 08:53 AM)angryfuckface Wrote:  

The problem is that I go to the gym after work then go home. So I don't have a lot of "out" time.

You identified the problem, I'll identify the solution.

Get up early and go in the mornings. I prefer to train at night but I had to make the same change, otherwise I also wouldn't have time to have much of a life during the week. You are not alone.

Without digressing and talking about the additional benefits of getting up at the same time every day and going to the gym, imagine the benefit freeing up your evenings could have on your social life, and your sex life.

One night a week to go to a salsa class, one night a week for online dating hookups, one night a week to attend a meetup (meetup.com - choose one that chicks go to), two nights a week to do whatever the fuck you want. Then it's the weekend.

You sound quite young. Develop positive habits and routines. Don't neglect your social life/circle.

Give it a try for a month. Report back.

Edit: In fact not neglecting your social life/circle doesn't go far enough, take active steps to build it now and it will reward you many times over in the months and years to come.

Riding the same boat.

And its not that bad. Sometimes what makes me realize that hooking up is overrated, is hooking up.

I slay this woman and realize just how little value some of these broads add to my life.

Its at that point that i long for the quiet nights alone. And the mornings i can walk into the office with a clear mind.

Granted, distractions are good once in a while. And a healthy balance is important in everything we do.

But at the end of the day remember this; women are a side benefit of a life well navigated. They are never the primary goal.

Quote: (10-08-2016 12:57 PM)Uhondo Wrote:  

Riding the same boat.

And its not that bad. Sometimes what makes me realize that hooking up is overrated, is hooking up.

Ya ok but it has its place in Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

If I go through sexless months I kinda hope that not having sex is indeed the issue which makes me feel down at times. Also continuing stress doesn't help.

Some more experienced people, does a lack of sex indeed makes one unhappy?

Of course sex doesn't make one ecstatic all day long but I do have a desire for intimacy.

Call up and ex, tell her you have been thinking about her lately, invite her over and fuck her.

Back when I was 19-21, I had multiple month dry spells. I never got laid much so it wasn't a big deal. When I did get laid the girls were average at best. I was new to the game and didn't have much experience. I would jerk off a few times a week and go on with my life.

Now, if I go more than a couple weeks without sex, I start to lose my mind. All I can think about is grabbing pussy. It affects other aspects of my life.

I think the best way to mentally deal with sexless months is to get laid. You seem like a busy guy OP. Start swiping right on Tinder while you're taking a shit. You're stuck sitting on the toilet, you might as well multitask.

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