Made a stupid mistake. Now having breakdowns everyday. Any advice highly appreciated.
05-02-2016, 04:07 AM
I made a seriously stupid mistake related to immigration recently. Now I am stuck in India and at a risk of losing my job. This has been the most stressed three weeks of my life in the last decade or so.
Background:
I was born in India and am a citizen of India. I have been living in Canada since 2009.
Career-wise I have done pretty decent in life. Recently I finished a PhD from a top Canadian university and landed a high-paying job in Canada in the finance sector.
Girls-wise I have done pretty horribly all my life. I have been reading up on game for a few years but seriously started approaching only in October 2015. If you follow The Approach Thread, you might have seen some of my posts there. I was making decent progress with daygaming and was getting numbers and dates regularly.
A month ago I came to India to visit family on a vacation. What I didn't realize was that my Canadian visa had expired. Working in Canada requires me to hold a valid work permit, which I have. But it turns out, that once you leave the country (even for a vacation), you need a valid entry visa to come back. My entry visa had expired last year.
As a result, I wasn't able to fly back to Canada and resume my job. I had to apply for a new entry visa in India. As government processes go, this is no different and is taking ages to process. It's already been 3 weeks since I applied and I haven't heard back from them.
Meanwhile my boss has been cool with it and has let me work remotely, but I'm not sure how long that's going to last.
I'm just afraid that I will lose my job and will have to stay in India for a long time. And that will be horrible because:
a) I can't make the kind of money in India that I can working at a financial hub such as New York/London/Toronto.
b) Gaming in India is close to impossible. Perhaps if you are already good at game you can pull some girls at a nighclub here, I don't know. But it's a horrible country to be in when you are still learning. Daygaming is impossible because most girls walking on the street are ugly, so if you want to do 10 approaches you will have to walk for 4-5 hours to find 10 girls worth approaching. Also, the culture is not very progressive, which means talking to girls randomly on the streets is looked down upon and will be considered as harassment. The only thing you can do is social circles game, but that takes time to set up and doesn't provide a conducive environment for learning, because if you fuck up, you will be officially the creep of the circle, as opposed to cold approaching where coming off as creepy is no issue whatsoever since you are probably never going to meet the girl again anyway.
Even if my job remains safely in my hands, there are some more immediate practical concerns. For example, I rent an expensive apartment in Toronto, which I have paid the rent for until June end. If this thing doesn't get resolved by then I will have all my stuff in the apartment which my landlord can legally just throw away.
In short, I am freaking out because:
1) I don't want to lose my job.
2) I don't want to lose my progress so far and also the chances of future progress with game.
3) I dont want to lose all my stuff that's lying in my apartment in Toronto currently.
4) I keep feeling like an absolute retard for messing things up like this. I have a PhD. How can I forget about a stupid visa!?
I have been having breakdowns every day. Every morning I check my visa status and fall into a depression spiral when I see no updates. Earning money, getting in shape, and getting good with women have been three of my most important goals for the last year or so. India is not very conducive for making progress in any of them.
I will really appreciate if anyone has advice on:
a) how to do damage control after this mistake, and
b) how to maintain mental peace in this situation.
Background:
I was born in India and am a citizen of India. I have been living in Canada since 2009.
Career-wise I have done pretty decent in life. Recently I finished a PhD from a top Canadian university and landed a high-paying job in Canada in the finance sector.
Girls-wise I have done pretty horribly all my life. I have been reading up on game for a few years but seriously started approaching only in October 2015. If you follow The Approach Thread, you might have seen some of my posts there. I was making decent progress with daygaming and was getting numbers and dates regularly.
A month ago I came to India to visit family on a vacation. What I didn't realize was that my Canadian visa had expired. Working in Canada requires me to hold a valid work permit, which I have. But it turns out, that once you leave the country (even for a vacation), you need a valid entry visa to come back. My entry visa had expired last year.
As a result, I wasn't able to fly back to Canada and resume my job. I had to apply for a new entry visa in India. As government processes go, this is no different and is taking ages to process. It's already been 3 weeks since I applied and I haven't heard back from them.
Meanwhile my boss has been cool with it and has let me work remotely, but I'm not sure how long that's going to last.
I'm just afraid that I will lose my job and will have to stay in India for a long time. And that will be horrible because:
a) I can't make the kind of money in India that I can working at a financial hub such as New York/London/Toronto.
b) Gaming in India is close to impossible. Perhaps if you are already good at game you can pull some girls at a nighclub here, I don't know. But it's a horrible country to be in when you are still learning. Daygaming is impossible because most girls walking on the street are ugly, so if you want to do 10 approaches you will have to walk for 4-5 hours to find 10 girls worth approaching. Also, the culture is not very progressive, which means talking to girls randomly on the streets is looked down upon and will be considered as harassment. The only thing you can do is social circles game, but that takes time to set up and doesn't provide a conducive environment for learning, because if you fuck up, you will be officially the creep of the circle, as opposed to cold approaching where coming off as creepy is no issue whatsoever since you are probably never going to meet the girl again anyway.
Even if my job remains safely in my hands, there are some more immediate practical concerns. For example, I rent an expensive apartment in Toronto, which I have paid the rent for until June end. If this thing doesn't get resolved by then I will have all my stuff in the apartment which my landlord can legally just throw away.
In short, I am freaking out because:
1) I don't want to lose my job.
2) I don't want to lose my progress so far and also the chances of future progress with game.
3) I dont want to lose all my stuff that's lying in my apartment in Toronto currently.
4) I keep feeling like an absolute retard for messing things up like this. I have a PhD. How can I forget about a stupid visa!?
I have been having breakdowns every day. Every morning I check my visa status and fall into a depression spiral when I see no updates. Earning money, getting in shape, and getting good with women have been three of my most important goals for the last year or so. India is not very conducive for making progress in any of them.
I will really appreciate if anyone has advice on:
a) how to do damage control after this mistake, and
b) how to maintain mental peace in this situation.
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