Recently, I've had a lot of success opening and hooking pairs/small groups, but I've noticed a problem. In the pair (or sometimes 3-4 girl group), I'll open everyone and get a reaction. Things will be going well in the first minute or two, and then I'll start indicating which one I'm more interested in (target). I'll generally do it subtly, by being warm and fun to everyone, but only flirty to the one I'm interested in.
The problem comes up when the target is reacting well, but ends up making eye contact with her friend/friends (the other), or notices some body language on them. She'll shut down a bit, then back off and the other will pop back up and begin really engaging me.
Depending on how much the target shuts down, I'll either smoothly eject or hang around for a few more minutes and try to pull her back in. Sometimes, I'm able to pull it back out of the fire by disqualifying the other for some stupid reason (I don't date brunettes, etc.), but often I just find myself out of luck.
Basically, it feels like the other girl calls "dibs" and the hotter friend backs down out of deference. Because if I later find the target alone, I can often resume things without her shutting down. And I could do well with the other, I just don't care.
How do you guys handle/avoid this? I'm sure there's some sub-communication I'm giving off that isn't right, or I'm not establishing my interest quickly enough. What am I missing?
The problem comes up when the target is reacting well, but ends up making eye contact with her friend/friends (the other), or notices some body language on them. She'll shut down a bit, then back off and the other will pop back up and begin really engaging me.
Depending on how much the target shuts down, I'll either smoothly eject or hang around for a few more minutes and try to pull her back in. Sometimes, I'm able to pull it back out of the fire by disqualifying the other for some stupid reason (I don't date brunettes, etc.), but often I just find myself out of luck.
Basically, it feels like the other girl calls "dibs" and the hotter friend backs down out of deference. Because if I later find the target alone, I can often resume things without her shutting down. And I could do well with the other, I just don't care.
How do you guys handle/avoid this? I'm sure there's some sub-communication I'm giving off that isn't right, or I'm not establishing my interest quickly enough. What am I missing?