I thought I would do a quick comparison and a rehashing of Sweden while it is still fresh in my mind.
I will admit the first weeks back in Canada were intense. I had not realized what a bubble Swedes (and Norwegians) are living in. The social safety net was never that noticeable in Sweden, until it exists no longer. While Canada has a pretty good social system, you are free to fall a lot further here, far enough until you are so far gone that all there is left is a disfigured hulk of a human. I have lived in one of the rougher parts of the city for over a decade and it never really hit me until recently. There is a massive amount of hustle and desperation in North America, much more than I ever seen in Sweden (or most of Europe for that matter).
For this I can say that Sweden is on the right path. The place made me want to have babies. For some strange reason (probably due to boredom) I found myself much more care free in regards to getting a girl pregnant. If it happened, it happened. Even though myself I was not ready to deal with the responsibility of having a child, the idea of having a family in Sweden made sense and tripped a little primal switch in my brain.
I have some friends there that have kids and they have all packed the family out to little villages a few minutes outside Malmo. These places are almost Stepfordesque. The moms are hot, the dads handsome and hardworking, the kids are all kids with great teeth and blonde hair and big blue eyes. There are Audi’s and Volvos in the drives and there are no pubs to be seen. Life is good, but do not dare to ask for anything out of the ordinary or wish for anything exciting to happen. It won’t.
North America is just more bad ass. There is a spirit of making shit happen and to constantly try for bigger and better. There is potential to make money, and an equal potential to get ripped off. This has taken some getting used to for me as I took on a contract when I came back and therefore have sunken tens of thousands of dollars of my own money to make it happen. What if I get screwed over (I have seen it happen too often to not think of it as a possibility)? This kind of thing is well protected in a place like Sweden, and besides it just would not happen.
My transition with women in Sweden went from unsure at the beginning to the point of hype at times. I met some amazing women and even fell in love for what is likely the first time. Living this kind of life I was often unsure of the ability to love a woman, but suddenly I found myself in an incredible situation with an amazing woman.
I don’t think that Swedish women have anything more in their personalities that make them better then Canadian women, but I would be lying if I said there was nothing there. They have a certain innocence and naiveté to them that can be endearing at times and frustrating at other times. They are certainly among the most beautiful women in the world and the way that they stupidly float through potentially dangerous situations is shocking. For educated women who have some of the best genes I have come across, they sure do make some stupid decisions (likely due to living in the Swedish bubble).
One thing that is hard to get used to back here in North America is the attitude and defense the women have. Vancouver here has a reputation for being extremely cliquey; meaning getting to know people outside of the social circle is difficult. I have already experienced that a few times here, and found that no matter the attraction there are too many hurdles to jump over to get girl and to build attraction after the initial meet is hard. Pushing for sex the same night works the best here; however in my (recent) experience even though the friends are pushing the girl onto me, she is very hesitant to leave her friends.
Girls here complain about finding good guys, and guys here complain about finding good girls. The truth is that the girls only hook up with the bad boys and the guys either put in some hard work (rare) or are left to deal with the teasing and flakiness of the women. Even with hard work its still a shit place to find a quality girl that I would be willing to share a future with. In that matter, Swedish women are superior.
In Sweden I never slept with a woman who was in a relationship. I met lots who were, built attraction and I could see there was desire, but they all remained committed to their men. It was a little frustrating in the sexual sense, but it was encouraging to see that women of this calibre were not running around desperately trying to find a higher status man.
Sweden was good to me. I have a certain attachment to the place now, even though I will likely never call it home. The weather, lack of good skiing, and the potential boredom are the main reasons, although I will try my hardest to be in Sweden every May for the rest of my life. Spectacular.
I will admit the first weeks back in Canada were intense. I had not realized what a bubble Swedes (and Norwegians) are living in. The social safety net was never that noticeable in Sweden, until it exists no longer. While Canada has a pretty good social system, you are free to fall a lot further here, far enough until you are so far gone that all there is left is a disfigured hulk of a human. I have lived in one of the rougher parts of the city for over a decade and it never really hit me until recently. There is a massive amount of hustle and desperation in North America, much more than I ever seen in Sweden (or most of Europe for that matter).
For this I can say that Sweden is on the right path. The place made me want to have babies. For some strange reason (probably due to boredom) I found myself much more care free in regards to getting a girl pregnant. If it happened, it happened. Even though myself I was not ready to deal with the responsibility of having a child, the idea of having a family in Sweden made sense and tripped a little primal switch in my brain.
I have some friends there that have kids and they have all packed the family out to little villages a few minutes outside Malmo. These places are almost Stepfordesque. The moms are hot, the dads handsome and hardworking, the kids are all kids with great teeth and blonde hair and big blue eyes. There are Audi’s and Volvos in the drives and there are no pubs to be seen. Life is good, but do not dare to ask for anything out of the ordinary or wish for anything exciting to happen. It won’t.
North America is just more bad ass. There is a spirit of making shit happen and to constantly try for bigger and better. There is potential to make money, and an equal potential to get ripped off. This has taken some getting used to for me as I took on a contract when I came back and therefore have sunken tens of thousands of dollars of my own money to make it happen. What if I get screwed over (I have seen it happen too often to not think of it as a possibility)? This kind of thing is well protected in a place like Sweden, and besides it just would not happen.
My transition with women in Sweden went from unsure at the beginning to the point of hype at times. I met some amazing women and even fell in love for what is likely the first time. Living this kind of life I was often unsure of the ability to love a woman, but suddenly I found myself in an incredible situation with an amazing woman.
I don’t think that Swedish women have anything more in their personalities that make them better then Canadian women, but I would be lying if I said there was nothing there. They have a certain innocence and naiveté to them that can be endearing at times and frustrating at other times. They are certainly among the most beautiful women in the world and the way that they stupidly float through potentially dangerous situations is shocking. For educated women who have some of the best genes I have come across, they sure do make some stupid decisions (likely due to living in the Swedish bubble).
One thing that is hard to get used to back here in North America is the attitude and defense the women have. Vancouver here has a reputation for being extremely cliquey; meaning getting to know people outside of the social circle is difficult. I have already experienced that a few times here, and found that no matter the attraction there are too many hurdles to jump over to get girl and to build attraction after the initial meet is hard. Pushing for sex the same night works the best here; however in my (recent) experience even though the friends are pushing the girl onto me, she is very hesitant to leave her friends.
Girls here complain about finding good guys, and guys here complain about finding good girls. The truth is that the girls only hook up with the bad boys and the guys either put in some hard work (rare) or are left to deal with the teasing and flakiness of the women. Even with hard work its still a shit place to find a quality girl that I would be willing to share a future with. In that matter, Swedish women are superior.
In Sweden I never slept with a woman who was in a relationship. I met lots who were, built attraction and I could see there was desire, but they all remained committed to their men. It was a little frustrating in the sexual sense, but it was encouraging to see that women of this calibre were not running around desperately trying to find a higher status man.
Sweden was good to me. I have a certain attachment to the place now, even though I will likely never call it home. The weather, lack of good skiing, and the potential boredom are the main reasons, although I will try my hardest to be in Sweden every May for the rest of my life. Spectacular.