[Ribbed]

Genuinely interested in this question so would appreciate some thought out responses.

How do you guys feel about other women (looking at it as your future WAGS) getting game, set and matched by other people? Does it bother you in any way that someone successfully played your woman, and has some sort of victory over you in the form of once having enjoyed your woman?

This is something that bothers me whenever I start a serious relationship. I enjoy NSA fun (not got much game yet...), but at the same time it does bother me that someone I have something with, whether it be a lot or not, has been played, or fucked and chucked (for want of a better term) by someone else. It is something I don't want to bother me, and I'm working on it.

Break this one down for me. Am I looking at it the wrong way? (as if women are innocent sitting ducks?)

[OGNorCal707]

I don't understand why you care that a woman you "have something with, whether it be a lot or not, has been played, or fucked and chucked (for want of a better term) by someone else."

This makes no sense to me, unless we're talking about a female that you really care about a good friend or something, it shouldn't have any barring on you. Even if you were close to them, short of rape, violence, or something else, I don't see why it should matter that a girl got "pumped and dumped". Especially, if just some girl that you are trying to fuck.

Really you need to understand how cold the game is, and how most attractive women in mainstream American society aren't these fragile little flowers, getting shattered by these cold hearted players.

A lot of these women are the players, "PROTECT YO NECK SON!" you need to watch out for your own shit, so that you're not the one getting played.

[Caligula]

Would bother me if it was my sister, cousin or someone else very close to me.

I don't care about a girl's past as long as she's sane and not obviously damaged by it.

[mofo]

Interesting

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(01-03-2012 06:26 PM)mofo Wrote:  

Become more focused on your life, your path, your goals and then it won't bother you. It is what's helped me.
Try to accept her past or don't ask her about her sexual history at all if it bothers you so much or do not get into a serious relationship.

I can tell you understand my situation because these are the same conclusions ive come to. Id rather have the attitude of NorCal rather than hiding away from it. But then again, I guess it comes with some practice and busy with other things.

[Parlay44]

One man's trash is another man's treasure. If you're looking to date a virgin you better hit up the grade schools these days. Even then it's 50/50

[MrLemon]

All men and all women can be played in various ways, sexually, financially, whatever. It's like falling in the mud. It happens. Stop fussing over it.

[Stitch]

Actually, my current girl has been played in the past, and it really bothers her, but it doesn't bother me. She's nice, fun, spectacular in the sack, and a realist, which is presently working out pretty well. I'm presently very much hoping that my soon-to-be-ex-wife gets played like hell, but I don't have much worries there; she's basically asking for it.

[mofo]

Interesting

[La Familia]

If you're with her for the fun, then it shouldn't matter. It is bothering you because you are pedestalizing her to some level--I've been there, and it does blow chunks to have that in the back of your mind. I'll second what mofo said about focusing on yourself and building your inner game, as it will lead to an indifference attitude stemming from your confidence.

Why does the question matter? Ask yourself that. Ultimately, worrying about her sexual past will result in some sort of slip up in your game, and she'll lose attraction towards you.

Instead, think about how you're going to be THAT guy who her future bf worries about when he asks himself your original question. Game on.

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(01-03-2012 08:35 PM)La Familia Wrote:  

If you're with her for the fun, then it shouldn't matter. It is bothering you because you are pedestalizing her to some level--I've been there, and it does blow chunks to have that in the back of your mind. I'll second what mofo said about focusing on yourself and building your inner game, as it will lead to an indifference attitude stemming from your confidence.

Why does the question matter? Ask yourself that. Ultimately, worrying about her sexual past will result in some sort of slip up in your game, and she'll lose attraction towards you.

Instead, think about how you're going to be THAT guy who her future bf worries about when he asks himself your original question. Game on.

Some of the points made in this thread have been penny drop moments for me. It's definitely a case of pedestalizing her, and wrongly so most of the time. I've got this attitude that someone else has enjoyed the pleasure, whilst i'm enjoying something special with this girl. As has been mentioned above, it is wrong to think that girls are innocent participants. The cold nature of the game appeals if not only because it protects your own emotions by not giving a fuck in the first place.

I'm still young and i'm still learning who i am/want to be, my last relationship broke down partly because of it and now that i am out of the relationship rat race i'm practicing keeping it on the low down (with those girls i get close to); as you said letting it show does act as a turn off for her. I'm more at ease than i was, but it is still at the back of my mind; where it shouldn't be.