Quote: (01-02-2012 01:39 AM)CJ Wrote:
I hope the concepts listed below will serve as reminders to all of us in the coming year.
1. Anytime I've asked a question here about a specific girl that I hadn't banged yet, I didn't end up banging her.
- By no means am I advocating not using the vast resources and knowledge available on this forum, but generally speaking if you can't solve the puzzle of unlocking her pussy yourself, you're not going to succeed this time. Identify where you went wrong and adjust in the future.
2. Never hastily dismiss anyone's advice.
- Especially from some of the vets on this site. Something that may seem silly to you, might actually work if you try it. Myself, I thought Roosh's "what if I drugged your drink" routine was just too sketchy to work, but I trust his advice so much, that I used it. It worked.
3. Never stop grinding.
- You might be up to your elbows in pussy and prospects, feeling like God's gift to women, you can't do anything wrong and everything you've studied about game has come together. Then suddenly a few weeks later, you can't get anyone to bang and you're back at square one, what happened? You got lazy, you stopped approaching like a machine and relied on your fuck buddies to satisfy your hunger, rather than that of new pussy, as-yet undiscovered by your dick.
4. If you're not in the mood, don't go out.
- Seems simple enough, but there's times I'd force myself to go out. You can guess how often I got laid on those nights. If you're not in a social mood, there's really no sense in wasting money at the bar. Your approaches (if you even make any that night) will be half-assed and do you no favors. Instead, stay in and either study game or just do something completely unrelated.
5. Don't waste time at a crappy venue.
- If you're just out drinking with the boys, trying to have a good time it doesn't matter where you go. However, if you are serious about trying to get some pussy you need to be in the right venue. If there's a lack of girls, you're getting rejected too much, the girls all seem to have super bitch shields up, or for any other reason the vibe just sucks, you need to leave as quickly as possible and move to another venue. Why waste your time, working harder in the hopes that you'll make something happen when the deck is already stacked against you.
6. It doesn't matter what your opener is.
- So many guys get caught up on not knowing what to say to 'break the ice', honestly it really doesn't matter. Believe me, I've said the craziest things and still got girls to bang me, I've also used lines that worked really well on one girl, and then got me a cold shoulder with the next. Hell, I'd bet many 'great pick up lines' aren't even really heard in full, but if you're giving off a good vibe, and the girl thinks you might be interesting, she'll give you a couple minutes. That being said, it's what you say immediately after your opener, when you have her full attention for a moment, that really counts.
7. The more I go out, the more I prefer to go out alone.
- Years ago I posted a topic asking for advice on going out 'dolo'. Truth be told, it's all the confidence you have in your game and in yourself. You'll know when you're ready. Maybe if I had more reliable wings I'd think otherwise, but these days I really don't want any slapdick friend of mine saying or doing something stupid, and creating another unnecessary obstacle between me and getting a bang. I know Roosh posted a blog about this, and now I fully understand. When I go out with friends, I often have to distance myself from them for awhile, and then go make my approaches so they don't try to weasel in on the action.
8. Never turn down a sure thing.
- I know this has been said before, but I bring it up again because so many guys pass on the sure thing early in the night because they think they can do better, or maybe they think they can get more numbers. To them I ask how many times they've had sex with a phone number? Even if you think you have a shot with the best looking girl in the place, if you have a sure thing, and she's mildly attractive, you owe it to your dick to bang her. There's not a single sure thing that I lost out on in 2011 that my penis wasn't angry at me for not banging, if for nothing else than the new experience.
9. After you bang a girl, don't hesitate to cut her loose.
- With the type of girls I try to bang, generally there isn't time to play all the typical games that women normally do. I always go for the one night stand, because it's just easier to prey upon the impulsive nature of women. So, many of the games that these girls want to play have to wait until after sex. As soon as they start, just ignore her. I honestly see no reason to put up with any shit from a girl you've already banged. You've already won, you have your notch, move on without thinking twice. For the love of God, don't get attached no matter how good she was in bed.
10. Your friends don't want to be like us.
- As hard it that sounds to believe, most guys don't want to get into game. Sure every man (at least every real one) wants to sleep around a bit, but for various reasons most guys don't have the dedication required to get into game. When you try to 'help' or 'fix' a friend that is either struggling with women, or the bitch in his relationship, you're just wasting your time. While it may not seem logical to you, your friends will always rationalize the situation they're in. If they really want to learn about game from you, they'll ask. Make them show that minimal amount of interest and dedication, regardless of how excited you are to show off your skills.
11. Staying in the game will eventually take a mental toll on you.
- I'm not saying this is good, nor bad, but I'm just stating a fact, especially for any guys that are just getting into this. You become colder, you care less about anyone's feelings (not just women), and you may become unable to develop deep, "meaningful" relationships with anyone. Even if you got into game to meet "the one" if you go through enough women to get to her, you'll never see her like you would have had you met her at the start. Not that that's a bad thing, because in all your relationships you'll always have the upper hand. My brother warned me about this years ago, and now I see what he meant. This is the price you will eventually pay, it is a fair trade-off in my opinion though.
12. No girl is unapproachable.
- At least not at the college and dive bars I frequent. The girl you think is the best looking one in the bar, should be the first one you approach, and if you're not comfortable with that, then your inner game still needs work. Someone is banging that girl, why shouldn't it be you? Unless her boyfriend/husband is right there, and you know they're together for sure (they're kissing, holding hands, wearing rings), then you owe it to not just your dick, but to your ego to go and approach that girl.
Nice post. I wanna throw my 2 cents in here....
1. Yep, if you had to ask the question, you probably already blew it, and we all know, once you blow it, you're most likely not gonna get it back.
2. I've had to learn this the hard way many times. I would read something one of the big dogs would right and dismiss it only to find out later on they were probably right. At the same time, one person's advice doesn't work for everyone. I guess it just depends on your personality. But more times than not, you're gonna find that a lot of things that Roosh or Mixx say may seem a little far fetched, only to find out it works.
3. Yep, damn dry spells. I find myself getting unmotivated too often, especially here in Miami, when I strike out too many times and just feel like saying fuck it. You can't do that though, you gotta perservere.
4. Only time I'm gonna go out if I'm not in the mood isn't going to be to pick up women, it's gonna be to go out and try and cheer up with my boys.
5. I go out a lot just to have fun with friends, but when I'm trying to pick up, if the place sucks I try and leave. This doesn't always work though depending on your logistics. In MIA, you have a hook up at a spot, you're kinda stuck there. Maybe you can change to another spot and pay that $20-30 cover, but once you pay that cover, you're not trying to go somewhere else and pay another $20-30. Not to mention if you don't have a car it can be real hard getting place to place, and if you're riding with friends, you have to convince them. In Aspen, everything is within walking distance and there are no covers. If I don't feel a spot, it takes me 3 minutes to walk to the next.
6. True that. One of my favorite openers is making eye contact and immediately walking up to the girl and saying, "What's your name?" So simple, yet works like a charm. I remember gaming with Roosh in Vitoria and one of his openers was, "It's really cold in here, I wish I would have brought my sweater." Or something to that extent. As long as you don't say something totally retarded, you it shouldn't matter much what your opener is.
7. Personally I like to go out with friends more than rolling dolo. But once I get to a spot or find a girl I want, I'll break away from my friends and hit it up dolo, or if it's a group I'll introduce my friend after talking for a minute or two. Depending on where you are it can be hard to find 2 or 3 cute DTF girls together. My friend and I had a real hard time finding 2 cuties together that seemed down in Aspen. We'd always have to end up saying, "Sorry dude, I see the one I want and she's alone, you're on your own."
8. Dude, I've known this, but I've always taken it for granted. This last trip I took it bit me in the ass, but actually ended up working out, though it shouldn't have. I was at a party and a girl walked if that I wanted to hook up with. She came in with some other Brazilian girls, one of which I knew she wasn't good friends with and also happened to be real cute. I'm gonna call her girl b. I introduce myself to girl b, we talk for maybe 5 minutes and I go to leave and she gives me this look like she wants to follow me, so I say, "Vem!" (Come). She keeps following me around, this one would have been easy. But I had my mind set on hooking up with girl a, so I start talking with her and the other girl gets angry and leaves. I end up going to girl a's house, but she starts giving me a bitchy attitude and I get nothing. Should have just gone with the sure thing with girl b. I still ended up pulling girls a and b a couple days later though, but that shouldn't have happened. I'd say it was an exception to the rule. From now on, I'll never turn down a sure thing.
9. I agree with this unless it's a girl you're really into and want a LTR with, but even then you still have to act this way, like you don't care. Start acting like she's your everything, and believe that you'll be nothing to her in a couple months time.
10. True
11. Damn it's taken its mental toll on me here in MIA. I went from slaying all the time to being lucky to get one bang a month.
12. This is basically what got me into gaming. I had an Argi girl that I would have never dreamed of approaching come up and approach me. Before this I was just too shy. I didn't have a lot of confidence. All my friends growing up got the nice pussy, but for some reason I just didn't get it often, even though I hung out with all the dudes that did. I was just too shy. I had girls that liked me, but I either didn't act on it or blew it after a month or two. Finally I started dating this Argi girl and realized, "If I can have this girl, I can have any girl." I started approaching much more and it boosted my confidence. I went from 5 years ago, never approaching women and only hooking up with girls I met in my friend circle, to 3 years later being in Brazil and kissing a girl within 30 seconds of meeting her without even knowing her name.
I like this post dude, +1 from me.
