Quote: (12-04-2011 09:46 PM)Phil Asheo Wrote:
Quote: (12-04-2011 08:51 PM)Timoteo Wrote:I only disagree with the last part. Men should save their pride and just stop messaging women online. Realize that when you mass message these women you (and I when I use to do it) are part of the problem. If you were an average to below average looking guy and got messages from hundreds of women wanting to boink you, even if some of these girls you'd normally date you'd outright ignore for the interest of time. Its not like most men online are getting pussy anyways so you're not missing/losing any sex by not messaging women. In fact you're only making it more difficult for yourself and other men in your situation.
masterh...I think you should also try different sites also. And only free ones - there's no point in paying when you really don't have to. Some sites are truly geared more towards dating and serious relationships. Others are social networking sites that can be for whatever you want, be it dating, hooking up, friendships or serious relationships. Some are geared just for straight fucking. It's true that the talent level online won't have tons of chicks at the high end of the attractiveness scale, and those that are are largely in it for the attention. Online takes some work and attention, so do it in concurrance with your offline gaming. Online game is key for foreign or out-of-state chicks, if that's what you're into. The one thing YOU control is how tight and complete your own profile is. Make sure your messages reflect the kind of man you are. The rest isn't necessarily up to you, because chicks don't always know what the fuck they want. Some DO know what they want, and more often than not, it won't be YOU (I don't mean that as an insult to you...that goes for almost EVERY dude online). Online, chicks on very much in the position of sitting back and being picky and selective. We as men can't do a thing about that. When you finally get to the point where one is sitting across from you, do your damndest to put yourself in a position where you can take it out on her pussy.
women as a collective put up a barrier for men to get sex which is why they hate women who dress slutty and oppose prostitution. Ironic, the same group who won't give "creepy" men sex for free oppose allowing other women giving it to them for money.
What can men do, at least stop offering your dick on a platter to women and they will be forced as a collective to make more approaches to men. If all men stopped approaching women and acting so desperate women's pussy would go dry and they'd be force to do all our hard work. It is our desire as men to control the outcome of the dating scene which is self destructive and precisely why we have NO control.
I never recommended MASS messaging women. Men should be selective too. And plenty of guys get ass from online gaming. I think men that either don't have the patience, or simply haven't been successful assume NO men are having success doing it. If it's not your thing, cool, but one problem I see with your response is that you have to remove your pride from the equation. Even when gaming in person, you can't make it personal (even though that can be difficult...we're human). Men are always going to approach women, be it online or off. It's not about desperation - it's natural. It's what we do. You don't want to ACT desperate or SHOW desperation, but it's all about knowing HOW to approach women. There are no guarantees of outcome, but you work to maximize your chances.
"The best kind of pride is that which compels a man to do his best when no one is watching."
