[Riker]

I feel like I am very susceptible to oneitis. I've had 11 bangs and have had onetis for 4 of them, but the other 7 where not higher than 6s so that doesn't say much.

So far while having oneitis for this girl, I've been with a fb I knew before her and made a new fb after the oneitis was in full effect. Funny thing is that I'm gaming other girls to willfully fight the oneitis and see if I can think less about this chick. But I get guilty feelings about it.

The beta urges are so strong to buy her a flower or tell her I love her but I know this would be really bad! She's gaming me really well too... you know how roosh says you should match her affection over texts but not initiate it or surpass it? Well twice I slipped and when setting a date I said "I want to see you" and she responded with "I really want to see you too!"

Last time I saw her after 5 days of not seeing her I lost a bit of self control and said "I missed you" and she told me she missed me too (awww how sweet) and I think I saw a bit of pleasant surprised at the show of affection.

One thing that I noticed is that she hasn't initiated any dates or text messages though she's agreed to all my mine and responded to all the texts. Maybe I should wait about a week and a half or something before texting her again and see if she texts first?

I feel like I'm really girly... I mean after picking up that other chick instead of feeling boss I felt a bit empty and just felt like I wanted to be with the oneitis girl. My rationalization hamster sometimes tells me to just show her more affection cause if it turns her off and she doesn't want to see me than its actually a good thing.

Maybe I should just pick and arbitrary number like what Roosh said, 25 notches, and then let myself fall into "oneitis" if I really want to. The thing is by 25 notches I feel like I'll lose my soul and become a cold heartless player. Which is probably a good thing! Just now I'm so used to being how I am, a oneitis prone romantic beta. I should probably think about all the pussy I've missed out on by being this way and push forward in my gaming ways.

[Amour Fou]

Hehe are Venezuelans that good?

[Riker]

Ha yea.... I make jokes about stuff to make light of the situation, like we were leaving her place in the afternoon cause she had to go to class and I'm like "why don't I stay over, cook you dinner, set candles, put rose peddles on the bed..." We both laughed at that.

My brother is getting married this weekend and my whole family is here so I joked about inviting her so she could meet my whole family.... she's like "yea...." and I'm like "yea right hahaha" and we both had a laugh.

Just got to keep being alpha and seeing other girls!!!!!!! ahhhhhhhhhh

[StraightMackin]

funny thing is i do the same, i go after other girls just to avoid one-itis.
i also see that it helps alot, having girls on the side makes your confidence skyrocket
you dont feel as nervous if you have more than one, one-itis although seems like a good thing
in reality is a bad thing for you in the long run like getting married to someone you hate
you wont find out your perfect partner unless you try all the other girls out there so one-itis
is really really bad for a man as a man you should practice your right as a man and be with
as many women as possible and society accepts unlike women who have to keep it a secret

women are like money, the more you have, the more you make.

dont put all your eggs in one basket. have as many options as possible.

the more girls you have, the higher the chance that sex will happen.

[endobendo]

is "I want to see you" too needy? roissy had a post about how " i want " is better than saying "we should" or "we need to"

[StraightMackin]

i want to see you is too needy

in my opinion, i never ask a girl, it always backfires.
if you have to ask a girl chances are it wont happen.
youll soon become the chaser not the guy being chased.
and you gotta be chased in order for her to PUT OUT.

[Riker]

The thing is... I am chasing. Its funny cause I think we both know this and we both know we are playing games but we are having a blast doing it! I love it that she's playing the game with me, I think if she just put out and acted all in love with me it wouldn't have the same spark I have with her now.

I saw her wednesday, and thursday cause we went to get the morning after pill together (7 bucks in Argentina, super cheap!) and today (friday) I sent her this text since I was near her place.

"Is 3 days in a row too much? I'm in your neighborhood"

She replies "No its not too much....... but I'm really tired, about to take a nap.... want to join me? "

I told her I was with my brother (true) and that I'd go over in a couple hours and wake her up. I come over and we walk around talking for a bit, end up at her place, have amazing sex, and then separate cause she was going to hang with some friends and so was I.

Is funny cause while we were walking she brings up "It would be awesome to take a round trip with you through the US" I say "With me huh?" and she notices she showed too much intestest and says "Yea.... with you and maybe someone else" and I say "Yea maybe a girl... we could all party" and she says "yea or a guy.." and I say "Yea all 4 of us could party together" kind of implying a big foursome hahahaa. Its like we're both playing the game of who shows more interest and we're both negging and backpedaling our signs of interest and really having fun doing it.

Man this girl is so awesome. Now after seeing her 3 days in a row I'm going to go ahead and freeze her and wait 5 days before I send another text.... I think thats good, keeping things unpredictable. I'm thinking of pulling a http://www.rooshv.com/the-dick-move and not respond to her text in 24 hours just to get that out of the way but I'm not sure. I probably shouldn't get all technical and try and follow all the PUA rules and stuff but I'm pretty beta at heart so maybe its a good idea.

[Amour Fou]

If things start to get too comfortable and predictable, the sparks will fade and she will lose interest. It is human nature.

You can try being more random and unpredictable.

But the thing is, if you seem planned and calculated while doing these things, she'll probably notice and be turned off by it. It is hard, but the idea is to be geinuinly spontaneous.

Do you see yourself in a monogamous LTR with this girl?

Aren't you jaded by monogamous LTRs?

Just asking.

[Riker]

(11-19-2011 01:10 AM)Amour Fou Wrote:  

If things start to get too comfortable and predictable, the sparks will fade and she will lose interest. It is human nature.

You can try being more random and unpredictable.

But the thing is, if you seem planned and calculated while doing these things, she'll probably notice and be turned off by it. It is hard, but the idea is to be geinuinly spontaneous.

Do you see yourself in a monogamous LTR with this girl?

Aren't you jaded by monogamous LTRs?

Just asking.

Not really, though I definitely think I need to be with more girls before I get in one. I think an open relationship could work but I don't know, seems kind of tough to do.