[johnbarley]

My problem is that I always end up feeling bad about it later. As a result, I've stopped really trying to bang girls who I have no more than a fleeting interest in?

Pretty beta, huh?

Maybe it's a result of having grown up with only a sister, mom, and grandmother and no males.

[Vicious]

(11-15-2011 07:03 AM)johnbarley Wrote:  

My problem is that I always end up feeling bad about it later. As a result, I've stopped really trying to bang girls who I have no more than a fleeting interest in?

Pretty beta, huh?

Maybe it's a result of having grown up with only a sister, mom, and grandmother and no males.

I believe this is an effect of mainly growing up dating women that haven't been the type of manipulative bitches that makes a man jaded. So congratulations on your (so far) positive experiences.

It is also a product of old-school upbringing that women can't enjoy sex just for the hell of it, for some it's parental anxiety others just don't have the self-esteem to think that they are good lovers. No matter the cause this is something that goes away with age and experience, believe me. I've been in the exact same position you are in 15 years ago. It makes me mad thinking about all the muff I missed out on because I wanted to "do the right thing" and be a good guy. Well guess what happened when I started caring...

[johnbarley]

(11-15-2011 07:52 AM)Vicious Wrote:  

(11-15-2011 07:03 AM)johnbarley Wrote:  

My problem is that I always end up feeling bad about it later. As a result, I've stopped really trying to bang girls who I have no more than a fleeting interest in?

Pretty beta, huh?

Maybe it's a result of having grown up with only a sister, mom, and grandmother and no males.

I believe this is an effect of mainly growing up dating women that haven't been the type of manipulative bitches that makes a man jaded. So congratulations on your (so far) positive experiences.

It is also a product of old-school upbringing that women can't enjoy sex just for the hell of it, for some it's parental anxiety others just don't have the self-esteem to think that they are good lovers. No matter the cause this is something that goes away with age and experience, believe me. I've been in the exact same position you are in 15 years ago. It makes me mad thinking about all the muff I missed out on because I wanted to "do the right thing" and be a good guy. Well guess what happened when I started caring...

Hmmm, guess I haven't dated any manipulative bitches. Guess I should find one to break the spell. I was terrible with women in my adolescence and early 20's so that should give me enough reason to hate them.

I don't think it comes from an idea about women not enjoying sex. The guilt comes from actual experiences where the girl gets unhinged, e.g. pleading, attempts to commit suicide.

I'm not young. I'm 30 years old. In the past I'd ditch girls, ignore emails, calls, etc. Now it just seems like too much trouble for a lay.

[Vicious]

(11-15-2011 09:04 AM)johnbarley Wrote:  

Hmmm, guess I haven't dated any manipulative bitches. Guess I should find one to break the spell. I was terrible with women in my adolescence and early 20's so that should give me enough reason to hate them.

I don't think it comes from an idea about women not enjoying sex. The guilt comes from actual experiences where the girl gets unhinged, e.g. pleading, attempts to commit suicide.

I'm not young. I'm 30 years old. In the past I'd ditch girls, ignore emails, calls, etc. Now it just seems like too much trouble for a lay.

ERROR.
DOES NOT COMPUTE.

I'm surprised you're not seeing this yourself.

[Alpha]

I had a girl tell me she'd kill herself if I broke it off with her. I told her that slitting her wrists was too messy and she should consider ODing.

She's fine. Happily married now (though I'm not sure I can say the same for him).

[Deluge]

(11-15-2011 09:23 AM)Alpha Wrote:  

I had a girl tell me she'd kill herself if I broke it off with her. I told her that slitting her wrists was too messy and she should consider ODing.

You passed that shit test with flying colours. On another note: bitches be crazy. I wonder what percentage of women have personality disorders.

[Jevioso]

(11-15-2011 07:03 AM)johnbarley Wrote:  

My problem is that I always end up feeling bad about it later. As a result, I've stopped really trying to bang girls who I have no more than a fleeting interest in?

Pretty beta, huh?

Maybe it's a result of having grown up with only a sister, mom, and grandmother and no males.

Well, it's really a result of not thinking. When you pump and dump a girl, you pump and dump her for a reason, and the reason is that's the value she has in your life. It would be a disservice to her, if you let her have the illusion that she was more valuable to you than what she actually was, and it would prevent her from ever finding a guy who she would be more valuable to.

[Caligula]

This is just another way of pedestalising women. You think they're fragile creatures who will not be able to handle you ditching them. They'll get over it.

What will make it harder for them to get over it is you misleading them about your intentions over a longer period and THEN ditching them.

[Timoteo]

I went through this stage too. I passed on pussy from girls I didn't have much interest in, because I didn't want to deal with potential drama afterwards. I regret it. If women feel they are independent and equals, they have to live with the decision to fuck a man without expectations. I don't expect anything from her, so she has no reason to expect anything from me. If she does, that's on her. All I owe her is a good fucking - to do my damndest to make sure I tear up that pussy.

[Caligula]

You'll be surprised at how easily most (normal) girls handle this with no drama.

Acting beta, however, makes drama more likely.

[Docter]

(11-15-2011 09:40 AM)P Dog Wrote:  

(11-15-2011 09:23 AM)Alpha Wrote:  

I had a girl tell me she'd kill herself if I broke it off with her. I told her that slitting her wrists was too messy and she should consider ODing.

You passed that shit test with flying colours. On another note: bitches be crazy. I wonder what percentage of women have personality disorders.

being a woman is a personality disorder