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11-06-2011, 11:25 PM
Anyone have any advice for dealing with girls that seem interested but when you try to talk to them seem to clam up? Most of my game relies on getting the girl to start talking, and since I'm a pussy if I have to sustain the smalltalk on my own I eventually blank on shit to say, panic, and eject.
Now I know the most obvious answer to this is "she obviously wasn't interested", but in this case I didn't get that "I don't like you so I'm going to be a conversational dullard until you give up" vibe.
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11-06-2011, 11:36 PM
I think build more comfort first is definately the right idea, and I also think that the reason why girls are nervous around you or they "clam up" is because you feel nervous. Remember the girl will feel whatever you feel inside of you first. So if you are confindent and is having fun then the girl will be exicited and will also feel like having fun, if you are sexual the girl will be sexual etc.
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11-07-2011, 12:55 AM
Shy girls are a tough. I would just move on to girls who don't have problems expressing themselves.
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11-07-2011, 01:18 AM
^^ this goes back to the roosh post about choosing the best prospects.
Having dealt with a shy chick who was not giving me a clear go ahead or straight up rejection, I would say in the end it wasn't worth it.
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11-07-2011, 01:23 AM
Ask for her opinion on Netflix subscriptions and cat food. She probably doesn't get out much.
Seriously, use an opinion opener that involves adopting an animal. If a shy girl isn't responsive to a story involving warm fuzzies, its going to be hard warming her up to you. Move on. (Unless you find rapport comparing your Netflix queues.)
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11-07-2011, 01:44 AM
I like how you guys are dismissing a shy girl because she's shy.
Call her out on it in my opinion, in a joking way that you think it's cute/endearing.
If your primary goal is to place your penis into a vagina, I agree with the above sentiment of moving on, but I personally like shyer girls as company.
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Shy Girls
11-07-2011, 02:13 AM
Why else would we be even doing this if it wasn't to place penis into vagina? I got LJBF'd by more women than I care to count. Why stick around with the shy girl you get very little to no feedback from when there's a perfectly good slut lurking around the corner?
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11-07-2011, 02:28 AM
Edited to avoid pointless arguing.
to each his own, silent scope.
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11-07-2011, 03:01 AM
I like shy girls in principle because I'm repulsed by the other end (loud overconfident types), but that still doesn't mean jack shit. I can usually relate to them well in conversation and so on, but I'm a naturally touchy person and it frustrates me when they're cold and clammed up. They never express any affection. If they did and just said "I like you but I'm shy so let's not rush" I'd be fine with it, but that never happens.
Still, some do open up eventually. I think the hardest part is not ending up in the friendzone while you wait.
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11-07-2011, 03:17 AM
I dunno, my experience has always been it's the extroverted girls that do the most friendzoning. And extroverted girls tend to get on my nerves.
Ultimately I think it's her shyness bouncing back at me and throwing me off. I usually don't have trouble getting people to open up with chitchat.
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11-07-2011, 10:58 AM
Why is everyone dismissing a shy girl? being shy does not mean that she is not into intimacy, which is something else.
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11-07-2011, 12:56 PM
Alcohol works best with shy girls in my experience. The drinks have to be deceptively strong, otherwise these girls often stop themselves. Share a long island with her.
As for the OP: You just need to come across as a fun and care free guy. Unless you're ridiculously good looking, girls won't generally clam up.
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11-07-2011, 04:27 PM
Well, then according to circular logic I must be ridiculously good looking. Excellent....
In retrospect most of my dalliances with introverted girls involved alcohol. And the single teetotaler exception was just absolutely brutal, every attempt to physically escalate would get just so far before the "oh crap I'm a slut if I'm doing this" reaction put the brakes on shit.
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11-07-2011, 04:34 PM
Could be your physical escalation then. It could be that you A) go straight to heavier touching too quickly or B) she's not comfortable with you yet
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12-17-2011, 09:45 PM
You may often find that some shy socially awkward girls turns out to be easy fucks and freaks in bed once you've invested in them. Just beware the likely depression, cutting and personality disorders >.< Screen for that shit carefully early on.