Quote: (12-13-2012 04:49 PM)Sphere Wrote:
You're very kind but I think it is cowardly of me. I don't run into very many quality girls in most of the rest of my life. I tease and flirt but there's no pressure because I don't want most of them. There's a few at the gym that I would break in half given the chance. But I don't make the chance happen. I am at the gym to work out hard and people notice me there (I'm the older dude with the grey pony tail who lifts heavy shit like someone half his age) so if someone wanted to make trouble for me for hitting on them it would be pretty easy. There would be no mistake about who it was etc. Still, I'm an opportunist by nature and I'm not stirring that pot like I should. I'm still waking up from too many years of marriage and LTR.
Take the pressure off of yourself then. Find ways to talk to them without hitting on them. I find it helps if you find ways to talk to the men in the gym too, then you just come across as a friendly person interested in others.
Most gyms have televisions, so if someone is standing around for a minute watching something in between exercises just start talking to them like you would anybody else. During the NCAA BBall tourney last year I started talking the chick on the treadmill next to me by asking her if she filled out a bracket and how she was doing in it.