Hey everybody. I'm freshly divorced and I'm ready to go get shot down 10-20 times a night until I figure out the game. My problem is which girls to approach. You can bet if I see a drunk girl I'll be all over it. My concern is approaching girls in groups or whatever without worrying about them having a boyfriend around the corner. Do I just approach every hot girl in the place before moving on to the next bar/club? What about a table full of girls and guys and I get a couple of looks from a girl with a guy on each side of her? Do I bite the bullet and take a chance on an ass-whooping? Give me honest advice please. If you say it's cool, I'll take advice from someone more seasoned than myself. But don't send me in to get an ass-whooping if you wouldn't do it.
Which girls to approach at bars/clubs
Quote: (05-23-2009 12:34 AM)Jeepers Wrote:
Hey everybody. I'm freshly divorced and I'm ready to go get shot down 10-20 times a night until I figure out the game. My problem is which girls to approach. You can bet if I see a drunk girl I'll be all over it. My concern is approaching girls in groups or whatever without worrying about them having a boyfriend around the corner. Do I just approach every hot girl in the place before moving on to the next bar/club? What about a table full of girls and guys and I get a couple of looks from a girl with a guy on each side of her? Do I bite the bullet and take a chance on an ass-whooping? Give me honest advice please. If you say it's cool, I'll take advice from someone more seasoned than myself. But don't send me in to get an ass-whooping if you wouldn't do it.
Gotta bite the bullet. If you don't, you'll never learn. Don't be afraid of rejection and work on your game, that's pay. I would first try it with most obvious low-hanging fruit like girls in larger groups, drunker girls etc. to boost confidence and see what works for you and then move to more quality targets. Set your bar low but then raise it every time you feel a certain level too easy for you.
Go for it. Just because you approach a table of either all girls or girls/guys so what? Play it cool. Just make some small talk with everyone at the table but keey an eye on your target. Let her know your interested. If there are guys next to her what their manaerisms. Most guys will probably tense up with another guy talking to theiir chick. If he doesn't seem to care, either he isn't worried about her cheating or he doesn't care because they are just friends. Just play it out gradually till you get a feeling for it.
Stay away from the drunk girls. They can come with an entire set of unique problems that will undermine your need to get laid.
Quote: (05-26-2009 02:15 PM)Trotter Wrote:
Stay away from the drunk girls. They can come with an entire set of unique problems that will undermine your need to get laid.
Good point. Now that I think back to my early twenties... I did come close to a couple of bar fights over a drunk chick. I guess it wasn't sociably acceptable to tell a girl "excuse the fuck out of me". But if a girl is gonna tell me to get the fuck away from her after saying "hello", sometimes curse words slip out. Maybe that's a good reason to concentrate on day-gaming instead of bar-hopping.
Haha..
I'm not terribly experienced, but I'd say evaluate the situation a little. If it doesn't look like she has a "boyfriend" then don't worry about it too much. Sometimes in bars, I'll see a girl making out with one guy in one side of the room, only to go make out with another guy, in full view of the first guy she made out with prior. You have to learn to notice when a man and a woman are a couple vs. a girl running around flirting and making out with guys vs. a girl sitting at a table with a guy, with no visible evidence of affection between them.
If she's with a guy(s), try to befriend the guy first or engage the both of them equally. For example, I was out at this bar in Delaware a few nights ago, and this amazingly hot young college girl was surrounded by these 5 middle aged dudes. It was obvious they were all gaming her at the same time (what fags). To make a long story short, I opened one guy and sort of isolated him from the group, befriended him. For what ever reason, he thought I was cool, and he introduced me to the rest of his friends, and then the girl. I almost made out with that girl... at one point I was holding her by the hips and playing with her hair. It was very obvious to everyone there that I was touching her intimately. Now granted, they were all standing up. I'll admit that seated sets are harder, but just try anyway.
I'm not terribly experienced, but I'd say evaluate the situation a little. If it doesn't look like she has a "boyfriend" then don't worry about it too much. Sometimes in bars, I'll see a girl making out with one guy in one side of the room, only to go make out with another guy, in full view of the first guy she made out with prior. You have to learn to notice when a man and a woman are a couple vs. a girl running around flirting and making out with guys vs. a girl sitting at a table with a guy, with no visible evidence of affection between them.
If she's with a guy(s), try to befriend the guy first or engage the both of them equally. For example, I was out at this bar in Delaware a few nights ago, and this amazingly hot young college girl was surrounded by these 5 middle aged dudes. It was obvious they were all gaming her at the same time (what fags). To make a long story short, I opened one guy and sort of isolated him from the group, befriended him. For what ever reason, he thought I was cool, and he introduced me to the rest of his friends, and then the girl. I almost made out with that girl... at one point I was holding her by the hips and playing with her hair. It was very obvious to everyone there that I was touching her intimately. Now granted, they were all standing up. I'll admit that seated sets are harder, but just try anyway.
Id work my way to the bar scene if your older and coming off a marriage. I like Hotels, especially when your near a tourist destination city---even if you live in that city. Book a 4 star near the international airport--find out the place the airlines dump flight crews and has lots of seminars, corporate training and wedding parties are the best.
Most places have outdoor smoking only these days. Bum smokes to break ice, if in town for business. Most Women want to spend their free time "touring", but not with co-workers! Its easier to get a few dates under your belt with a Women that will be far away in a few days. So no chance of going wuss boy gagga over them.
I love that I live in Vancouver. Its summer and the downtown hotels have tourists--Olympics this winter. Hotel lobbies lots of lingering women looking at brochures for something to dream about doing! Bar lounges early evening, local business women--girls night out meeting place, etcetera. Hotels are awesome! Priceline usually can get good rates--hell you don't even need too be a guest. Just lie about were your from. In Vancouver I'll say Kelowna is my home! Very rare that they know anything about other cities in your state/province- be a nice guy who is offering an just friends adventure! Then hit bars/clubs.
Most places have outdoor smoking only these days. Bum smokes to break ice, if in town for business. Most Women want to spend their free time "touring", but not with co-workers! Its easier to get a few dates under your belt with a Women that will be far away in a few days. So no chance of going wuss boy gagga over them.
I love that I live in Vancouver. Its summer and the downtown hotels have tourists--Olympics this winter. Hotel lobbies lots of lingering women looking at brochures for something to dream about doing! Bar lounges early evening, local business women--girls night out meeting place, etcetera. Hotels are awesome! Priceline usually can get good rates--hell you don't even need too be a guest. Just lie about were your from. In Vancouver I'll say Kelowna is my home! Very rare that they know anything about other cities in your state/province- be a nice guy who is offering an just friends adventure! Then hit bars/clubs.
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