Quote: (04-21-2019 11:17 AM)nomadbrah Wrote:
Quote: (04-21-2019 10:55 AM)Vladimir Poontang Wrote:
Quote: (04-21-2019 10:52 AM)Roosh Wrote:
Acute grief can't be solved. Just refrain from hurting yourself.
Either spend time with your family or be alone in your apartment or in park where you can grieve. You're in for a hard road, though the first week is the roughest.
My condolences.
I feel so neutral. I've had moments when I cry for just a few seconds then suddenly stop and feel ok. Otherwise I feel so calm. I'm so worried that at some point I'm going to freak out. I've had panic attacks in the past and I'm concerned that I might have one. And it feels like such a normal day. I feel very capable of being stoic, but when I think of my mother I feel like I'm going to have to carry something that I can't carry.
Roosh you're so calm and if I didn't read your blog or hear about it I'd never guess about your situation. How can you continue a blog and make videos like that? I just mean how do you deal with it and still present yourself as you usually do?
Sorry for your loss Vladimir.
Losing a sibling must be even worse than losing a parent.
Don't feel like you need to react in any specific manner. You're doing good. You're reacting like a man and like God intented you to react. This is not something you should think about. You're stoic and by being that, you will get through the shock and be able to participate in the funeral and the wake. This is important that you participate and listen to friends, family and priest. Their words will bring meaning.
Tell them that you appreciate that they talk about her. Tell them that you want them to talk about her. It's important that you talk about her. It will help heal, but most people think they should act like it didn't happen out of care for you. The reverse is true. The more you talk, the more she lives on and the easier you will get through the grief.
Be prepared to be hit hard after the funeral and ritual mourning is over. It will probably last for a long time and you'll feel everything you don't feel now. This is when you'll need someone to talk to, but most people will think "you should try to get over it". That's not what you want. Let people know that you will be mourning for at least one year and that they should talk to you about it and your sister for that entire time.
If you want, you can always write to us here. I don't know you, but I know where you're at and I'll listen to you if you want.
She had plenty of problems, and I just wish she'd tried harder. I'm not angry at her. I just told her a few minutes ago that it was hard and that I understand.