[Sewage2016]

I just wrapped up a weekend with a Brasiliera with my two kryptonite features - bubble butt and that Carioca sensuality. I am late forties and she is thirty, soft and feminine. The thing is I just couldn’t finish. We were into the second hour of starts and stops and she finished three times. I just couldn’t be bothered although I am highly attracted to her. It was almost like I didn’t care to nut while I really enjoyed the process. She was delighted for a while but seemed to get self-conscious as you’d imagine. I am wondering what gives?

This has happened to me several times the past few months. Any clues?

Sewage

[the-dream]

I'm fairly sure that ancient Chinese and Indian tradition advocates that and says that a man should be rarely ejaculating at your age.

[RatInTheWoods]

As you get older, it gets hard to blow, but also you mature into realising that it's better to enjoy 3 hours of great sex, than 6 seconds of ejaculation.

Welcome to the old timers club mate.

[ThriceLazarus]

@The Dream

Seconding this.

According to my Ancient Chinese Magic texts a healthy man of 40 shouldn’t loose himsef more than once every three days.

If you really enjoyed the process, why not find a way to deepen that? The Multiorgasmic Man is a good starter text, give it a look and see what you think. A PDF should be easy to find.

[Atlanta Man]

I rarely achieve climax during most sexual encounters, even with extremely attractive women. The only thing that can make me climax is if the woman an absolute degenerate, extremely attractive, tight, and I am not wearing a condom. I can have 3-4 hour pound town sessions with no climax regularly-it makes women feel insecure too. It started around my early to mid 30's....

[BlastbeatCasanova]

I understand that as guys age they lose sensitivity and it gets harder to climax. An older friend of mine who rarely busts pounds girls for hours, so much that it causes him back pain.

Out of curiosity, are those that are having trouble climaxing circumcised or intact?

[questor70]

I'm also late 40s and I think the idea that guys nutting means you're losing lifeforce is BS. If you go forever and don't nut you're basically blue-balling yourself. By all means make it last, but if you're not able to nut you've got an issue of some kind.

BTW, there are studies that show that women actually want sex to last shorter than you'd imagine. It's not the duration that matters, per se. It's the intensity and variety. Women can and do get bored if a guy is just pumping away repetitively with no end in sight.

If you want to see what extended low-intensity sex looks like watch the pathetic couples cams on Chaturbate where they spend more time turning to look at computer monitors than actually fucking. And as you'd expect, the guys are constantly losing wood.

Just because P is in V doesn't mean you're delivering the goods.

[Nightcrawler]

Late 40's here. I can't blow anymore unless it is *very* tight and insanely good. Otherwise, I'll pound for 3 hours, pull out and finish it myself and make her look like she fell into a giant can of white paint.

I'm good with the current state of things.

[Winston Wolfe]

A big factor for me is the sexual chemistry with a girl. I have had a hard time finishing with very attractive girls, but I have also had times where I could barely hold it in with less attractive girls, simply because they were great in bed.

[monsquid]

Death gripping during masturbation can and does reduce sensitivity. Good news is that you can restore sensitivity by not jerking off, takes about 3 weeks for noticeable change. One nut is enough for me nowadays. When I was younger 2 was the minimum. From my experience girls seem to get tired after 2. Pushing for 3rd at 4AM is a chore for her no matter how much she likes you. At the same time if you can't nut at all, like OP said, they get self conscious because they think they're not attractive enough.

I seem to do better if a girl gives me head for a good 10 minutes before going into P in V. A strong emotional connection and eye contact are also what make me nut fast.

[RoastBeefCurtains4Me]

At 54, I fail to cum about 1/3 of the time. I really prefer to cum every time. Most times, I find it is best to go at least two days between fucking, to maximize my chances of cumming. Of course, this means no fap as well. It's funny because I have no problem if I do fap, and I can finish 2-3 times a day if I want. However, with actual sex, it's harder to finish.

It's true that if I can't cum, then I can pound them for a long time, and change positions and everything else. However, if I can cum, it's usually under 10 minutes. I can get in a few positions in that time, but if I start getting ready to cum, I don't try to hold it off. I go for it. If I try to hold it off, I often find I don't get another chance.

It's kind of a relief to know it's more common than I realized.

[nairobian]

(04-14-2019 07:56 PM)Atlanta Man Wrote:  

I rarely achieve climax during most sexual encounters, even with extremely attractive women. The only thing that can make me climax is if the woman an absolute degenerate, extremely attractive, tight, and I am not wearing a condom. I can have 3-4 hour pound town sessions with no climax regularly-it makes women feel insecure too. It started around my early to mid 30's....

Nut control via cardio,some say yoga is key! It helps as once you keep up a steady rhythm she will continue to orgasm continuously and may even pass out-be careful!

[questor70]

(04-18-2019 07:22 PM)Nightcrawler Wrote:  

Late 40's here. I can't blow anymore unless it is *very* tight and insanely good.

Improve the quality of your women and/or quit porn/masturbation because you're desensitized. Guys saying they're "cool" with this sorry state of affairs is like women saying they're "cool" faking orgasms because they think they aren't very orgasmic. It's a far cry from where it could be whether you realize it or not.