[bez]

Finished work early today and decided to go into the city to buy some new t-shirts,underwear,browse a couple bookstores and make myself approach at least one girl on the street.
It was an overcast day with occasional showers,so not exactly a happy vibe out there.
I noticed that most of the women on the street seemed to be in a hurry.
I'll be totally honest here...today i was very nervous.I dont know why but i was.
I had done a few laps of the main shopping areas and just could not make myself approach cold on the street.
I decided to go and have one drink to calm the nerves at a pretty trendy bar that i sometimes go to on the weekends(usually always cute girls there,even during the day as they serve classy brunch/lunch/nibbles before the afterwork drinkers/party people roll in)
Ghost-town.one scotch and dry and back to hit the pavement.
Two more laps and i did not even seen a single girl i would actually want to bang let alone talk to.
I decided today was not my day and headed to the train station to go home.
There is a cute blonde that works in a salon on the corner of my street and i noticed she was there today as i walked past.
Walked home and felt pretty disappointed in myself for not even trying one approach so i thought "fuck this,pick your nuts up and go and talk to the blonde"
I changed and walked back down there with a rough strategy in mind but they had closed for the day and had left.


My question is:
Are some days just bad days for approaches or was i just being a pussy?
Was it the weather?
Im confused,i felt loads of confidence yesterday and approached a couple girls that didnt turn into numbers or anything but it felt good and easy to just step to them.

[Johnnyboy]

Not everones in a great mood when the weather is shitty, but it seems to me like you let the weather get to you and get you out of the mood. you werent "on" it seems. shame about the hair salon though, was she a stylist or a counter girl? how were you planning on swinging that one?

[bez]

(10-12-2011 12:17 AM)Johnnyboy Wrote:  

Not everones in a great mood when the weather is shitty, but it seems to me like you let the weather get to you and get you out of the mood. you werent "on" it seems. shame about the hair salon though, was she a stylist or a counter girl? how were you planning on swinging that one?

I dont know what her position is at the salon.
My plan was to go in and ask if they cut mens hair also as i was getting inconsistent results at my usual spot(lies.my usual spot is perfect every time) and then if the vibe was right ask her what time she finished and would she like to get a drink with me across the street?

[bez]

All clouds have a silver lining.
Cute asian girl that i thought was a cold case just texted me to reschedule for a drink next week.

[Johnnyboy]

(10-12-2011 01:11 AM)bez Wrote:  

All clouds have a silver lining.
Cute asian girl that i thought was a cold case just texted me to reschedule for a drink next week.

love that shit.

[bez]

I would like to hear some theories on this from some heavily experienced playas too if you guys can drop some knowledge on this.
We have fairly inconsistent weather here even in the middle of summer and if shit weather has an effect on approachability then i could probably pick my days a bit better.I will try regardless as i need some more rejections to improve but i would prefer to step up on the better days if thats the case.

[Giovonny]

(10-12-2011 12:01 AM)bez Wrote:  

Are some days just bad days for approaches or was i just being a pussy?

Both. Sometimes the environment is a little despressing. Sometimes we are not inspired by the location and surrondings.

But, even then, you need to be strong enough to not let things like weather and surrondings effect your vibe and confidence. You might get shot down by 10 chicks on a rainy day in a shitty town but you still gotta feel good about yourself and keep pushing. Let nothing effect your Inner Game.

It was a bad day for approaching but you could have made it a good day by just talking to a few cuties and maybe making a connection and getting a solid number.

Maybe you could have "warmed up" by talking to some less attractive girls, older women, etc.

Maybe use the "Fake Phone Call Move" to turn a cold approach into a warm approach.

(10-12-2011 12:01 AM)bez Wrote:  

Was it the weather?

The weather didn't help but you still could have pushed through that rainy day funk. Again, your Inner Game should be strong in any weather. But, I admit, it takes time to develop.

(10-12-2011 12:01 AM)bez Wrote:  

Im confused,i felt loads of confidence yesterday and approached a couple girls that didnt turn into numbers or anything but it felt good and easy to just step to them.

We have good days and we have bad days. Forget the bad ones. Think about what you can learn from them and then quickly forget them. No one is perfect 100% of the time. Sometimes its might be what you ate, how you slept, the weather, your oufit, the stars, who knows???

Don't over think the bad days. Learn from the them, make adjustments, and move on. Tommorrow is a fresh start.

[Gmac]

Mood and lack of quality women will absolutely affect you... but it also could be the location you picked. Instead of being so picky with the women you talk to, you should have approached some of those you were on the fence with. It would have warmed you up so you'd be ready to go by the time you found one that you were absolutely interested in. Force yourself to talk to people, it's the only way to improve. Once the first one is out of the way, it always gets easier.

[Screwston]

I agree that the first approach is crucial to get shit started. I love the feeling even if I get shut down hard. Makes me think "ok let's do this. This bitch is crazy if she doesn't like me".

[bez]

Thanks for replying Gio and Gmac.
Today is even worse weather-wise(totally raining cats and dogs)but i might head into the city and try again anyway since i rarely have time off work during mid-week.
I was trying to throw myself in the deep end yesterday so ill take your advice and do my best today.
I think ill visit my friend at his new studio to shoot the shit with him and get in a chatty mood before i hit the streets.

[Giovonny]

Street Gaming in the rain is a tough one. What about malls, university libraries, coffee shops, book stores, etc.

When it rains, I usually just focus on working out, cooking, and improving myself.

But, fuck it, do what you gotta do. Rain Gaming is a good training exercise.

Just get some eye contact and say..

"This weather is crazy huh?
"This is fun hah?"
"This is depressing"
"I love the rain"
"God I hate the rain"
"This makes me wanna get a drink/smoke a j"
"You better get an umbrella girl"
"You're getting all wet girl"

Something like that. Just go have fun. It only takes one girl to give you that little twinkle in her eye and you will think its a beautiful day for Gaming!

[bez]

(10-12-2011 03:22 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

But, fuck it, do what you gotta do. Rain Gaming is a good training exercise.

Just get some eye contact and say..

"This weather is crazy huh?
"This is fun hah?"
"This is depressing"
"I love the rain"
"God I hate the rain"
"This makes me wanna get a drink/smoke a j"
"You better get an umbrella girl"
"You're getting all wet girl"

This is exactly the angle i was gonna roll with today,i will take an umbrella to share with any cuties that happen to be crossing the road at the same time.

I will report back this evening.

[Neo]

(10-12-2011 01:26 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

you should have approached some of those you were on the fence with. It would have warmed you up so you'd be ready to go by the time you found one that you were absolutely interested in.

This is good advice. Especially with day game, the prospect pool can be really hit or miss. You just have to keep experimenting with different spots until you find one that consistently has cute girls. What Gmac wrote is what I do. It's easy to head out, find just average girls, and then approach nobody. However a couple things result from this.

1) You don't improve.
2) You feel like you went out for nothing.

If a girl is average, but doable and she's like the only decent girl I've seen since I've been out I'll approach. I did it yesterday in a clothing score, and the girl turned out to be really cool and receptive as well. I was on the fence with her and just went for it even though she seemed closed off, but she wasn't at all. You never really know, just have to force yourself to do it.