"Am I An Asshole For Refusing To Support My Wife Through Her Diagnosis After Her Infidelity?"
Guy moves out and initiates divorce. Then the wife gets cancer. He says he doesn't want to help with her care. The responses are a mix of white knight cucks, batshit sjw women telling him he's being "sexist", and some woke guys telling him he's right. Scrolling down the responses, actually a lot of people are telling him he's right.
We all know the correct answer here - get the fuck out and let the woman marinate in the consequences of her own bad decisions. But because of muh feminist divorce laws, he could still be on the hook for alimony. Here's some advice by a commenter
The guy has a point. Fake some compassion, throw her a bone and game the feminist-industrial divorce system.
Lots of lessons in this story about feral married women taking "girl vacations", proper boundaries and divorce in America. Bad situation for the guy all around. As for the woman - I hope that vacation cock was worth it.
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She recently went away with her friend for a girls trip. The first two days after she came back everything was fine, and on the third we went to dinner with this friend and her boyfriend. Dinner went well, came home and went to bed. Wife woke me up in the middle of the night crying saying there was something she had to tell me. Long story short, she had cheated on me the entire trip and her friend had cheated on her boyfriend as well, apparently the dinner together caused her to have an attack of conscience because she messaged my wife after I had fallen asleep telling her that she was going to come clean to her partner and my wife had to tell me as well or she would.
Guy moves out and initiates divorce. Then the wife gets cancer. He says he doesn't want to help with her care. The responses are a mix of white knight cucks, batshit sjw women telling him he's being "sexist", and some woke guys telling him he's right. Scrolling down the responses, actually a lot of people are telling him he's right.
We all know the correct answer here - get the fuck out and let the woman marinate in the consequences of her own bad decisions. But because of muh feminist divorce laws, he could still be on the hook for alimony. Here's some advice by a commenter
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I was married for 20 years and divorced because of her infidelity, and it was very similar to your situation in that we got along great and I think she just did it for the thrill. Still, I was staring at seven years of paying her >$1,000 a month plus six figures in a lump sum settlement even through she has a great job and cheated on me. It worked out for me because, basically, I was able to convince her through amicable and well-timed negotiation that my solution (quick, clean dissolution, no alimony, one attorney to handle the paperwork) was just the right way to go.
So, my asshole advice is this ... if you are the one who will suffer most in a divorce, use a feigned reconciliation over her cancer to your advantage and exploit the trust you engender to negotiate a clean split where you pay no alimony, keep your retirement and other assets and get your fair share of the house equity; key to this is you must make her feel comfortable enough to not get an attorney, even if you have one. If you are the one who will gain in a divorce, then you need to push it through ASAP (you can still be amicable) while she is preoccupied with her cancer.
Either way, talk to an attorney yesterday. As soon as she does, an amicable, clean split on your terms will be impossible.
I know this may sound horrible to some, but depending on your personal situation, how you manage this split could easily be the defining factor in your quality of life for the rest of your life. You have to take it seriously and yes you have to be what many people would consider an asshole. That said, if you do this right, you could get what you want in the split and still come out on the other side looking like a good guy -- supporting your ex in her time of need -- if that is important to you.
tldr: Hire an attorney ASAP, tell him/her everything and do what he/she says; fake compassion to the cheater to manipulate her into proceeding without her own attorney.
The guy has a point. Fake some compassion, throw her a bone and game the feminist-industrial divorce system.
Lots of lessons in this story about feral married women taking "girl vacations", proper boundaries and divorce in America. Bad situation for the guy all around. As for the woman - I hope that vacation cock was worth it.