There's been at least three instances where I've gotten a girl back to my place but I couldn't even get to first base. I should mention that all of these chicks are Vietnamese in Saigon, Vietnam. The culture is much more conservative over here.
girl #1: wouldn't let me sit directly across from her, but she was ok with me sitting beside her while watching a movie. She had her hands crossed too which tells me she's closed off. When I tried to move closer to her, she said she felt uncomfortable with me coming so close to her. Never saw her again!
girl #2: Pulled this chick on the same day over from the supermarket. Met her online. Once back to my place while I was cooking dinner, she started to mop my floor. I'm like wtf. Then after I put on a movie, she isn't sitting close to me but slowly I start to close the distance and start to touch her arm. Then like a few minutes later, she gets up, goes to my fridge and comes back with some yogurt, except now she's sitting on a chair beside the bed. After she's done eating, tells me she has to go and shortly after leaves. This happened yesterday.
girl #3: This happened today like an hour ago. Today was our third date. On the previous two dates, I had already physically escalated with her to the point of hand holding, shoulder cuddling, hand on her thighs. I thought I would have gotten far with this one. After lunch, I put on a movie, I slowly slide beside her but her arms are crossed. I get our thighs touching side by side but her arms are still crossed. All throughout out she's playing with her phone, going on facebook and switching back to watching the movie, playing on her phone. I gradually start to touch her forearm and then when she got up for a second, I tried to put my arm so that it would cup her shoulder and try to cuddle with her. She freaked out and said what are you doing blah blah blah. Removed my arm and told me to go watch the movie. Several minutes passed, I try to talk with her again and turn to face her, but she is like go watch the movie. After a few more attempts like this, I freeze her out. I start texting on my phone asking a buddy for advice. She of course see's this going on. Tries to get my attention, but I brush her off for the first 1-2 attempts then show her some more attention. It gets no where, she just says go watch the movie.
Eventually the movie finishes, she has to leave soon but now I just flick through the tv channels on tv to something in english. She doesn't understand and now we start talking more. She tells me she should go, I tell her it's still early and she has plenty of time. I try to escalate again, this time she's more receptive, I end up holding her hand now, my other hand cupping her shoulder, we start exchanging glances and making eye contact, and I feel she's almost ready to be kissed. I'm like a minute away from making my move on her when her phone rings. It's some guy I believe (she told me an old colleague from her university days), they talk for like 10 minutes or so. Then once the call is over, she gets up says she has to go on to work, puts her belongings on, and then leaves. As she is getting her motorbike ready, she asks me what I'm doing on women's day and if I'm free. I tell her it's her turn to cook this time. She laughs and says I should do it. Soon, we say goodbye and I'm left with a set of blue balls.
The previous girls that I've gotten together with, allowed me to get close to them, cuddle with them, then I simply turn their cheeks towards me, or if they are looking at me, I just go for the kiss. I don't really have too much trouble once we start making out but my sticking point is from when she arrives at my place to actually getting that first kiss that is the issue.
Am I simply supposed to cave man these chicks who have their arms crossed or pull their hands and arms away when I reach for them or is there something else I'm missing. What do you do if a chick won't sit beside you, even if you tell her to come sit there? Do you simply kick her out? Try again a few minutes? Move closer to her? I'm lost at this point and I don't want to lose more future prospects with my lack of experience with this area.
girl #1: wouldn't let me sit directly across from her, but she was ok with me sitting beside her while watching a movie. She had her hands crossed too which tells me she's closed off. When I tried to move closer to her, she said she felt uncomfortable with me coming so close to her. Never saw her again!
girl #2: Pulled this chick on the same day over from the supermarket. Met her online. Once back to my place while I was cooking dinner, she started to mop my floor. I'm like wtf. Then after I put on a movie, she isn't sitting close to me but slowly I start to close the distance and start to touch her arm. Then like a few minutes later, she gets up, goes to my fridge and comes back with some yogurt, except now she's sitting on a chair beside the bed. After she's done eating, tells me she has to go and shortly after leaves. This happened yesterday.
girl #3: This happened today like an hour ago. Today was our third date. On the previous two dates, I had already physically escalated with her to the point of hand holding, shoulder cuddling, hand on her thighs. I thought I would have gotten far with this one. After lunch, I put on a movie, I slowly slide beside her but her arms are crossed. I get our thighs touching side by side but her arms are still crossed. All throughout out she's playing with her phone, going on facebook and switching back to watching the movie, playing on her phone. I gradually start to touch her forearm and then when she got up for a second, I tried to put my arm so that it would cup her shoulder and try to cuddle with her. She freaked out and said what are you doing blah blah blah. Removed my arm and told me to go watch the movie. Several minutes passed, I try to talk with her again and turn to face her, but she is like go watch the movie. After a few more attempts like this, I freeze her out. I start texting on my phone asking a buddy for advice. She of course see's this going on. Tries to get my attention, but I brush her off for the first 1-2 attempts then show her some more attention. It gets no where, she just says go watch the movie.
Eventually the movie finishes, she has to leave soon but now I just flick through the tv channels on tv to something in english. She doesn't understand and now we start talking more. She tells me she should go, I tell her it's still early and she has plenty of time. I try to escalate again, this time she's more receptive, I end up holding her hand now, my other hand cupping her shoulder, we start exchanging glances and making eye contact, and I feel she's almost ready to be kissed. I'm like a minute away from making my move on her when her phone rings. It's some guy I believe (she told me an old colleague from her university days), they talk for like 10 minutes or so. Then once the call is over, she gets up says she has to go on to work, puts her belongings on, and then leaves. As she is getting her motorbike ready, she asks me what I'm doing on women's day and if I'm free. I tell her it's her turn to cook this time. She laughs and says I should do it. Soon, we say goodbye and I'm left with a set of blue balls.
The previous girls that I've gotten together with, allowed me to get close to them, cuddle with them, then I simply turn their cheeks towards me, or if they are looking at me, I just go for the kiss. I don't really have too much trouble once we start making out but my sticking point is from when she arrives at my place to actually getting that first kiss that is the issue.
Am I simply supposed to cave man these chicks who have their arms crossed or pull their hands and arms away when I reach for them or is there something else I'm missing. What do you do if a chick won't sit beside you, even if you tell her to come sit there? Do you simply kick her out? Try again a few minutes? Move closer to her? I'm lost at this point and I don't want to lose more future prospects with my lack of experience with this area.
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I think she's put me into the potential bf category.
