[Roosh]

They had been dating for seven months when she got sick. They were a kidney match and he gave her one.

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A young woman suffering from kidney failure has found a replacement organ – from the boyfriend she met on dating app Tinder.

Cheyenne HanLee, 22, met her boyfriend Gavin Teragawa more than two years ago on Tinder when she swiped right on his profile after he 'super-starred' her.

She had already been diagnosed with kidney failure but says she was 'in denial' about what it meant.

Seven months after they started dating Cheyenne became seriously ill.

Gavin took her to the doctor for blood tests and she disclosed that she had kidney failure.

In a heartwarming act of kindness, Gavin saved her life by donating a kidney to her.

Cheyenne, from Santa Ana, California said: 'I never thought I would have found Gavin through this dating app, and now we are here and he's giving me his kidney – it's kind of crazy.'

Gavin added: 'She had a nice smile and talked a lot, which made it easy.'

When Cheyenne and Gavin first started talking, Cheyenne was in denial over how sick she was.

She explained: 'When I first got Tinder, I didn't believe that I was sick because my illness is invisible. No one else, including myself, could see that I was sick but I could feel it.'

After Cheyenne became seriously ill, Gavin took her to the hospital to have her bloods taken.

Cheyenne was told she was surviving on a dangerously low 2 per cent kidney function.

'Most people don't live to that point, I would have died in a few days if I didn't go to the hospital when I did,' Cheyenne explained.

Gavin added: 'When I took her for the blood test, the doctor told us to come straight to the emergency room, that's when I found out how bad it was.'

Cheyenne didn't believe it when she was first diagnosed with kidney failure in 2015, despite having had the symptoms for years. She had collapsed during dinner with friends, leading to the diagnosis before she met Gavin - but that did not stop her from being in denial.

She said: 'I was healthy and young, I thought I was invincible.'

After being diagnosed, Cheyenne soon started dialysis, which meant for ten hours every night – up until her transplant – she had to hook herself up to her peritoneal dialysis machine to remove toxins from her body.

The machine essentially acted as her kidneys.

She said: 'I was really depressed and didn't do anything every single day. Haemodialysis made me so exhausted, I wouldn't be able to function afterwards.

'After I started peritoneal dialysis, I felt a little better and sought out a support group, learning about kidney disease has helped me a lot.'

Cheyenne was told she needed a transplant very soon, and that was when Gavin stepped in.

He explained: 'I already knew I wanted to get tested at that point, but I couldn't really do anything for a while because there's a process to get on the transplant list.'

Cheyenne added: 'I was really sick; we didn't talk about the transplant – I just thought I was going to die.'

Once Cheyenne was more stable, Gavin went through the process of being tested and realized he was a match for Cheyenne.

Cheyenne at first didn't want Gavin to donate but her condition wasn't getting any better and she had little luck with other potential donors.

And so they agreed that Gavin would donate his kidney.

Gavin said: 'When people ask the question of why I'm doing this, I tell them it's not a question of why, but rather, how can I not?

'I don't think I'm special, I think anybody in my position would do the same thing.'

Cheyenne disagrees: 'I don't think so, I think he's special.'

On October 24 2018, Cheyenne and Gavin travelled to the Sharp Memorial Hospital in San Diego for the kidney transplant, which was a success.

'Regular 22-year-olds aren't supposed to suffer like she has – I'll do anything to make it a little better for her,' Gavin said.

After the successful transplant, Cheyenne said: 'I can't put into words how it feels to have Gavin's kidney. He literally saved my life.'

Although the transplant was a huge event in their relationship, Cheyenne and Gavin don't think it'll affect them as a couple.

Gavin said: 'Beforehand, if she had broken up with me, I'd still do it. If she breaks up with me after, that will still be fine.

'It's not about the relationship – it's about giving her a good life and being healthy and happy.'

Cheyenne added: 'I can't put into words how grateful I am to him. It's a big life change, I went from being tired doing laundry to how I am now – it's not normal, but it's as normal as I'll get.

'I'm really happy, I haven't done dialysis in 21 days and I don't need to be on life support anymore, all because of him.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article...Xktna6xGso

They do seem like a nice couple, and I didn't pick up on any slut signs from her. I'd just be pissed if I gave a kidney to a girl and the relationship didn't work out.

[Jetset]

I'm not going to rip the guy for saving a girlfriend of seven months. More than a few people marry faster than that.

Definitely going to rip the guy for getting serious with a Tinder match.

[Caduceus]

Is there someone who can provide some medical insight into this ?
Isn't a failing kidney a sign that you indulged in bad habits in life ? Such as excessive drinking/alcoholism ?
Or can it be hereditary/genetic ?

[Roosh]

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Isn't a failing kidney a sign that you indulged in bad habits in life ? Such as excessive drinking/alcoholism ?
Or can it be hereditary/genetic ?

I think you're referring to the liver. Excessive alcoholism or hepatitis infection can require a liver transplant, but usually later in age.

The girl seemed to have a hereditary problem not related to lifestyle.

[RoastBeefCurtains4Me]

Damn! When they get married, he's really going to be offended when she divorces him and cleans him out!

[Paracelsus]

(12-17-2018 07:09 PM)RoastBeefCurtains4Me Wrote:  

Damn! When they get married, he's really going to be offended when she divorces him and cleans him out!

I've heard of getting the house and contents, but this is just next level.

[Caduceus]

What's he gonna do if one day his future wife or son/daughter needs a kidney ?

"Sorry son, I already gave mine to a Tinder girl years ago."

[bk19xsa]

Only issue I have is that the girl is a 5, maybe a 6, if she has a hot body which I can't make out from the video. Maybe she is recovering from her procedure and therefore doesn't seem to look great in the video.

The guy is decent looking and he could get matched on Tinder with better looking chicks. Since, Tinder gives girls a lot of options, this Asian chick locked down this guy who is at least 2 SMV points above her and the guy might have initially gone for the hookup. After that she just played her female cards and the guy is now giving himself up literally to the girl.

Kudos to him that he has done a noble act. Just hope its not out of being a simp or a beta. Also, he should now demand the chick to start getting in shape steadily, get the hideous glasses off, make great sandwiches or chow-mien and give him tons of sex, with the bladder breaks kept to a minimum with the new kidney.

[Rocha]

(12-17-2018 06:45 PM)Caduceus Wrote:  

Is there someone who can provide some medical insight into this ?
Isn't a failing kidney a sign that you indulged in bad habits in life ? Such as excessive drinking/alcoholism ?
Or can it be hereditary/genetic ?

Can be hereditary/genetic. There is also dyalisis in many Pediatrics Units.

With nowadays dialisys technologies (and specially in Western countries) her life certainly was not at stake. If she even was prescribed peritoneal dyalisis at home is because the doctor know that it is not an acute situation of life and death to get a transplant, otherwise she would be doing in a Clinic/Hospital, 3 to 4 days per week, 4 to 5 hours per session.

Yes, it is a treatment which limitates the normal life of the patient, not compatible with many work schedules, and also with side effects, mostly the exhaustion of the patient after the treatment, but not like it was 20 or 30 years ago. Mostly older people are the users of dyalisis treatments, and if they can endure it, certainly also a younger person can.

The kidney transplant in itself (even with a compatible one) is not a guarantee of recurring issues later.

That is why I think the guy premeditated himself here. And I sincerely hope he never has kidney issues in the future for some broad he met in tinder. Though I recognize the noble gesture on his part....

...The human species is made with two kidneys for a reason, they can work in alternancy mode, when one is malfunctioning the other acts has a backup.

Edit: Just read the whole piece and this is the part that puts me off.

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'After I started peritoneal dialysis, I felt a little better and sought out a support group, learning about kidney disease has helped me a lot.'

Cheyenne was told she needed a transplant very soon, and that was when Gavin stepped in.

If she really needed a transplant very soon, she would not be doing peritoneal dialisys at home.

He was played in my opinion.

[Uprising]

Props tot he guy for doing a good thing as a human being.

With that being said, this will change the nature of the relationship because it wasn't like they were married for a long time before this happened or something. There will always kind of be a power play present, where the girl might feel guilty about leaving him if she no longer wants the relationship, whereas he might feel resentful if she acts a certain way towards him or if she leaves him.

All the best to them to though. It makes me grateful I don't have any major medical problems that come from genetics alone, in which I have no control over.

[Caduceus]

(12-17-2018 07:36 PM)Uprising Wrote:  

With that being said, this will change the nature of the relationship because it wasn't like they were married for a long time before this happened or something.

Where does it say the couple is married or going to marry ?

[MongolianAbroad]

I wonder how many times this has happened the other way around. I've never seen a story like this.

"Have dick, need kidney." I feel like the death rate for that one would be pretty high. The opposite, on the other hand, would have a much higher success rate.

Male privilege and all that.

[Ocelot]

But seriously, he's done a very noble thing and I wish them the best. It'll absolutely suck for him if she dumps him after this. He's going to suffer health problems himself and has (presumably?) significantly reduced his own lifespan.

(12-17-2018 07:28 PM)bk19xsa Wrote:  

Only issue I have is that the girl is a 5, maybe a 6, if she has a hot body which I can't make out from the video. Maybe she is recovering from her procedure and therefore doesn't seem to look great in the video.

Someone's gotta marry all those 5s and 6s too, the bigger problem by far is that they met on tinder.

[Buck Wild]

(12-17-2018 07:45 PM)Spaniard88 Wrote:  

I wonder how many times this has happened the other way around. I've never seen a story like this.

"Have dick, need kidney." I feel like the death rate for that one would be pretty high. The opposite, on the other hand, would have a much higher success rate.

Male privilege and all that.

Exactly--this dude is a simp if only because if the genders were switched he'd be six feet under. No way in hell a woman donates an organ to a guy she meet on Tinder half a year ago.

Hope it works out for them, but I'm pretty sure his betatude will ultimately do them in.

Hypergamy doesn't care.

[Belgrano]

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She had already been diagnosed with kidney failure but says she was 'in denial' about what it meant.

When Cheyenne and Gavin first started talking, Cheyenne was in denial over how sick she was.

"When I first got Tinder, I didn't believe that I was sick because my illness is invisible."

Cheyenne didn't believe it when she was first diagnosed with kidney failure in 2015, despite having had the symptoms for years. She had collapsed during dinner with friends, leading to the diagnosis before she met Gavin - but that did not stop her from being in denial.

Should have gotten that Darwin Award.

[CaptainChardonnay]

Maybe she sucks really good dick.

[Thot Leader]

Anyone remember the story of the guy who donated an organ (or maybe it was bone marrow) to a female friend, then proposed to her, then she said no? I can't find it on the interwebs.

[[email protected]]

When are you going to finally settle down with a nice girl, rvf? Pride only hurts.

[Thersites]

(12-17-2018 07:30 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

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Can be hereditary/genetic. There is also dyalisis in many Pediatrics Units.

With nowadays dialisys technologies (and specially in Western countries) her life certainly was not at stake. If she even was prescribed peritoneal dyalisis at home is because the doctor know that it is not an acute situation of life and death to get a transplant, otherwise she would be doing in a Clinic/Hospital, 3 to 4 days per week, 4 to 5 hours per session.

Yes, it is a treatment which limitates the normal life of the patient, not compatible with many work schedules, and also with side effects, mostly the exhaustion of the patient after the treatment, but not like it was 20 or 30 years ago. Mostly older people are the users of dyalisis treatments, and if they can endure it, certainly also a younger person can.

The kidney transplant in itself (even with a compatible one) is not a guarantee of recurring issues later.

That is why I think the guy premeditated himself here. And I sincerely hope he never has kidney issues in the future for some broad he met in tinder. Though I recognize the noble gesture on his part....

...The human species is made with two kidneys for a reason, they can work in alternancy mode, when one is malfunctioning the other acts has a backup.

Edit: Just read the whole piece and this is the part that puts me off.

Quote:

'After I started peritoneal dialysis, I felt a little better and sought out a support group, learning about kidney disease has helped me a lot.'

Cheyenne was told she needed a transplant very soon, and that was when Gavin stepped in.

If she really needed a transplant very soon, she would not be doing peritoneal dialisys at home.

He was played in my opinion.

Lets not forget the author of the article may play around with the timeframe or detail to make it feel good story. If the guy is healthy and not stupid, his remaining kidney should be able to live a long and happy life.

[The Lizard of Oz]

Men who imagine that they hate the world as it is -- the way it looks, sounds, feels and tastes right now, as 2018 winds down -- and who believe that they "hate technology" and what it's "done to us", should watch this video and recognize the meanings of what they're seeing. Look at the sleek, silent, and beautiful devices that populate the screen; the humble well-designed blood pressure monitor, the peritoneal dialysis machine with its grey tubes and precision pumps, the surgical face masks worn and discarded without a second thought. Just as much as the airy interior of a shruggingly luxurious Southern California house with its couches and modern chairs, and the laughably happy dachshund running around and chasing a perfectly sized spiky and bouncy ball -- these objects serve both literally and metaphorically as extensions of the human being; we infuse them with ourselves, with our bodily fluids and our brains and hearts.

You thought that "technology" was something distinct from us, indeed something foreign and alienating; but as you listen to the half Asian, 100% Californian, and 1000% American, voices of these two millennials -- who both possess the rare quality of gentleness equally, he in its masculine and she in its feminine form -- you see that it was always the other way around: that what is called technology is just our way of making everything around us more like us, more human, seamless with our minds and with the bodies that encase and embody them. There is a great coziness and homeyness -- Gemütlichkeit, to use a superb German word for which we lack an exact English analog -- that permeates every scene in this short video, in the living room, in the bedroom, in the hospital, and on the San Diego beach where even the Pacific Ocean seems gentled and tamed by humanity and the extensions of its reach. When it comes to matters of plain life and death -- or, which is the same, of the plain and patient work of the human being to control the materials which surround it and of which it is made -- the chatter of boredom and alienation falls away, as if by magic; and we see the world as it really is, drawing ever closer to us, becoming more like us, in our image and our likeness, with every passing moment. There is no sight more beautiful.

[Rush87]

I bet you that super star was because he ran out of regular likes.

[Transsimian]

OLD NEWS!


Gavin is a better man than I am. I made a moderate sacrifice for someone, and ended up getting badly burnt, so I'd probably be too jaded now to do what he did.

There are positives in it for him. His GF would never get drunk, she'd never catastrophise about small stuff, because she's lived through worse.

I think people are being harsh about the looks thing. There's nothing bad with dating down a point or two if they are a good match everywhere else. I'm just surprised her tiredness and frustration the illness gave her didn't scare him off.

[Foolsgo1d]

I believe if you had a date with the specimen Transsimian posted you might wake up in a bath full of ice.

[alexanderjack]

Beta level : 100,000 ...lool

[Oak]

(12-17-2018 10:04 PM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:  

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My T dropped just reading that.

I hope the pacific ocean is never be 'tamed' by the bugmen, even after thousands of tonnes of plastic have been dumped into it as a result of your precious technology.

Some eyebleach for those who value dignity and independence over coziness and comfort: