[endobendo]

anyone have an easier time ejaculating from masturbation than sex? with masturbation i can pretty much ejaculate at will but with sex i cant even get off sometimes.

[Chad Daring]

Are you cut or uncut?

[endobendo]

(10-06-2011 07:33 PM)Chad Daring Wrote:  

Are you cut or uncut?

cut

[Chad Daring]

I have the exact same issue.

I'm cut too.

From what I've read and figured, its a combination of anxiety from stress (I used to super psych myself out about dick size and body appearance) AND nerve damage from the circumcision.

I've gotten over the anxiety and the last few girls I've banged felt better, but it was still kind of "dulled"

[_DC_]

I recommend fucking more attractive girls, preferably close to as hot as the ones you beat off to.

[Roosh]

Have you tried raw dog?

[Deluge]

I'm uncut, sometimes when I'm close to cumming my hard on suddenly gets really soft, like half hard. And I need to build it back up again. Never happened when jerking off

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(10-06-2011 09:05 PM)Roosh Wrote:  

Have you tried raw dog?

yes i mostly raw dog. it could be anxiety like chad daring said. but mine for different reason. i only recently started banging and had anxiety about not lasting long enough. could this anxiety ironically be causing the opposite problem

or it could be nerve damage like also chad daring said

[Parlay44]

Stop jerking off to porn first off. Especially if you have access to pussy.

You might be desensitizing your cock by jerking off too much.

Also could be mental. The fantasy girls you jerk off to in porn greatly overshadow the real girls you're fucking.

You're just bored and need to kick it up a little. Try doing kinkier things with your girl.

Talk dirty, try some anal, role play, toys, watch porn with her, s&m, have a threesome ...etc.

Also try some lube. Some girls don't get as wet as they should. Even a little bit helps.

[Caligula]

This would happen to me with the first bunch of girls I fucked. It was all nerves, even if I didn't feel that nervous. I was self-conscious and focused on what they were thinking, how it was for them, etc. Then it became a vicious cycle where I'd worry beforehand that it would happen and it almost always did at that point. One girl was a good sport and let me have a go four days in a row where it happened every time.

What helped back then was taking it slow and having a long foreplay session.

It went away with experience. I started getting into the mindset that the girl was there for my pleasure, and stopped worrying about what she was thinking. That made it better for all concerned!

[endobendo]

would you guys say its normal to last the same amount of time while jerking off and with sex? or is one typically shorter than the other

[Dash Global]

(10-07-2011 07:19 AM)endobendo Wrote:  

would you guys say its normal to last the same amount of time while jerking off and with sex? or is one typically shorter than the other

Its all mental. If I want to I can bust a but in 3 minutes. Both sex and masturbation. (female cant be to loose though) Or I can block it out / slow down and bust one in 30 minutes. Never tried anything over 30 minutes. I usually dont like waiting to get my nut. 10 minutes pop #1, then 3 minutes break and 10 minutes later pop#2

[Stitch]

I generally have two "windows"--one is fairly quick, but if foreplay takes a while I seem to enter a state of long-term stamina, particularly if I'm concerning myself with her pleasure, as it were. Once I get into that state, I have to make a conscious decision to focus on my own enjoyment and even then it can take a while.

That's not necessarily a bad thing, though. Having sex last as long as you want it to has its upsides, and as mentioned above, sometimes if it's taking a while I've had the woman get "concerned" and try even harder, which can be fun.

As for endobendo's question, I'd say it varies. Jerking off is a bit more under your control so you could back off when you wanted, but you also have immediate feedback and can focus on what you enjoy more, so it could be faster too.

[amistod]

pull out method? get close then just finish it yourself on to her back..

[Pusscrook]

(10-06-2011 07:28 PM)endobendo Wrote:  

anyone have an easier time ejaculating from masturbation than sex? with masturbation i can pretty much ejaculate at will but with sex i cant even get off sometimes.

Sounds like you've conjured up varied amounts of images while masturbating, thereby limiting your ability to bond with women sexually . I mean , after all, you control the entire scene , so this may be a simple case of conditioning. I think Parlay44 gave some great advice by suggesting "Stop jacking off to porn", since these films will bamboozle your brain into a distorted sense of reality and have you thinking you have tons of "sex fiends" at your beckon call. Don't know how old you are, but when I was just about to hit my 20's , I realized I had became quite reclusive from jacking off all day long.

[Pilgrim37]

Sober.....pretty quick...and then repeat

3 beers...all night long

Masturbation....under your control with timing,pressure ,scenario etc...dangerous ,as it can be better orgasm than real fucking

[Moma]

Did you find that not wanking had you on edge and suffering from terrible insomnia? I had a period of abstinence back in the days that went for months where no amount of weight lifting could divert my attention. I couldn't study (spent all day sneakily drawing punany comic strips) and it got to a point where I would leer at some broken down overweight old granny.

Does anyone else suffer from a raging distraction from wank abstinence?

In London, in my area, they sneered heavily on wankers.