On this Thanksgiving 2017, I want to list some of the things that I am thankful for. I'm doing this because gratitude is a habit and an attitude, and makes you more successful. Its not always easy, but things that are worth doing are not often easy. Also, to lead others to this habit.
As background, this is the second Thanksgiving I will spend alone. I separated from my wife a little over a year ago, and she has alienated my children from them. I am facing a gargantuan divorce settlement/alimony. I'm in my late 40s. I have had some health issues. I've been to two funerals this year. I totaled my car and then bought a lemon that replaced it. So I have a lot of stuff to feel miserable about if I chose to. But I won't allow myself to. I don't know if this is because of my inner will, the force of habit, or what Christians call grace (meaning a gift that one cannot take credit for).
1. Thankfulness/optimism. I'm thankful I am thankful and have an optimistic outlook on life. I'm not sure why I have it. I do read voraciously and have learned from others' example, so perhaps I subconsciously absorbed this habit.
2. This forum. - There are a million things on this forum to be thankful for. I have improved my game and a million tiny things from the things I have read on this forum. I'm +7 in the last 2 months even though I'm closer to 50 than 40, about 40 lbs overweight, drive a car that is breaking down, live in the suburbs (poor logistics), and don't even own a sofa, just a loveseat (long story - divorce). So what is your excuse?
Through this forum I have improved my nutrition, sleep habits, online techniques, started TRT, and a lot of things I don't even remember.
3. My job. I worked for a Fortune 500 company for 11 years and jumped to a growth company. The failure of my marriage caused me to reevaluate my relationship with my employer. I'm much happier at my new company.
4. Friends from this forum. I have made friends with guys on this forum who are 40+, divorced, and have gone through things I have such as messy divorces, alienation from their children, caring for aging parents, etc.
5. Old friends. After my divorce, I connected with some friends from before my marriage. I am thankful for the perspective these men offered me without an expectation of anything in return. Invariably they told me "it will get better," and for me it has just started to.
6. Business contacts. This was an unexpected benefit. Bit of a long story but here goes. Business contact invites me to a business meet and greet at a swanky restaurant for happy hour - drinks and heavy hors'doeoerves. I figure as long as I'm here and paying for parking, I'll invite a chick I met online for a first date. I run into another business acquaintance there and show them the pictures (she was about 25, my contacts 38-50 and married). Instant social proof. First guy invites me to his box at the local NFL team a few weeks later. Second guy offers me a personal recommendation to his former employer in connection with an unrelated opportunity where I might double my salary. All because of game.
7. Nutrition. Through this forum and other bloggers like Cernovich, I've lost about 30 pounds this year. Right now I'm drinking a smoothie and when I finish I will have had my 5 servings of vegtables and fruits already. Also taking supplements like ACV, zinc ZMA, N-acetly stysteine, lecithin and a bunch others. I'm standing on the shoulders of those who came before me.
8. Bonus - Speaking of lecithin, which I take for bigger loads, another aspect of life that is better is sex. All 7 of the girls I have been with have given BBBJ. Not only that, but either as a generational thing or due to my stronger frame, all have approached sex as if they want to impress me. The sex is better on a whole another level. One girl was sucking me off and when I told her I was close she looked at me and smiled as if to say watch me swallow it all; her confident smile turned to worry when she realized how large my lecithin-backed load was, but she took it all without spilling a drop. Another girl had average technique and combined a hand job with oral, but when I told her I was close she put my cock in her mouth so as to not waste a drop. Stuff like this didn't happen to me before I was married, even though I drove a nicer car then, was younger, had more hair and no gray, etc.
9. The ability to help others. I have had various opportunities to help other people either through coaching them or giving them advice. Other than psychic benefit, I received nothing in return. But you can't put a price on the well being this gives you, and I am perhaps most thankful for these opportunities.
So I challenge you to take a moment and purposefully consider what you have to be thankful for. It doesn't matter if you have more or less than me. What matters is your attitude and your habits. A substantial portion of my success, especially incremental from a year ago, is from the attitudes I chose to adopt. Some of these are unconscious, but you have to consciously examine your attitudes and decide if you want keep approaching life a certain way.
I'm not complete as a person, far from it, but I am thankful for the journey and the progress I have made with the help of many of you.
As background, this is the second Thanksgiving I will spend alone. I separated from my wife a little over a year ago, and she has alienated my children from them. I am facing a gargantuan divorce settlement/alimony. I'm in my late 40s. I have had some health issues. I've been to two funerals this year. I totaled my car and then bought a lemon that replaced it. So I have a lot of stuff to feel miserable about if I chose to. But I won't allow myself to. I don't know if this is because of my inner will, the force of habit, or what Christians call grace (meaning a gift that one cannot take credit for).
1. Thankfulness/optimism. I'm thankful I am thankful and have an optimistic outlook on life. I'm not sure why I have it. I do read voraciously and have learned from others' example, so perhaps I subconsciously absorbed this habit.
2. This forum. - There are a million things on this forum to be thankful for. I have improved my game and a million tiny things from the things I have read on this forum. I'm +7 in the last 2 months even though I'm closer to 50 than 40, about 40 lbs overweight, drive a car that is breaking down, live in the suburbs (poor logistics), and don't even own a sofa, just a loveseat (long story - divorce). So what is your excuse?
Through this forum I have improved my nutrition, sleep habits, online techniques, started TRT, and a lot of things I don't even remember.
3. My job. I worked for a Fortune 500 company for 11 years and jumped to a growth company. The failure of my marriage caused me to reevaluate my relationship with my employer. I'm much happier at my new company.
4. Friends from this forum. I have made friends with guys on this forum who are 40+, divorced, and have gone through things I have such as messy divorces, alienation from their children, caring for aging parents, etc.
5. Old friends. After my divorce, I connected with some friends from before my marriage. I am thankful for the perspective these men offered me without an expectation of anything in return. Invariably they told me "it will get better," and for me it has just started to.
6. Business contacts. This was an unexpected benefit. Bit of a long story but here goes. Business contact invites me to a business meet and greet at a swanky restaurant for happy hour - drinks and heavy hors'doeoerves. I figure as long as I'm here and paying for parking, I'll invite a chick I met online for a first date. I run into another business acquaintance there and show them the pictures (she was about 25, my contacts 38-50 and married). Instant social proof. First guy invites me to his box at the local NFL team a few weeks later. Second guy offers me a personal recommendation to his former employer in connection with an unrelated opportunity where I might double my salary. All because of game.
7. Nutrition. Through this forum and other bloggers like Cernovich, I've lost about 30 pounds this year. Right now I'm drinking a smoothie and when I finish I will have had my 5 servings of vegtables and fruits already. Also taking supplements like ACV, zinc ZMA, N-acetly stysteine, lecithin and a bunch others. I'm standing on the shoulders of those who came before me.
8. Bonus - Speaking of lecithin, which I take for bigger loads, another aspect of life that is better is sex. All 7 of the girls I have been with have given BBBJ. Not only that, but either as a generational thing or due to my stronger frame, all have approached sex as if they want to impress me. The sex is better on a whole another level. One girl was sucking me off and when I told her I was close she looked at me and smiled as if to say watch me swallow it all; her confident smile turned to worry when she realized how large my lecithin-backed load was, but she took it all without spilling a drop. Another girl had average technique and combined a hand job with oral, but when I told her I was close she put my cock in her mouth so as to not waste a drop. Stuff like this didn't happen to me before I was married, even though I drove a nicer car then, was younger, had more hair and no gray, etc.
9. The ability to help others. I have had various opportunities to help other people either through coaching them or giving them advice. Other than psychic benefit, I received nothing in return. But you can't put a price on the well being this gives you, and I am perhaps most thankful for these opportunities.
So I challenge you to take a moment and purposefully consider what you have to be thankful for. It doesn't matter if you have more or less than me. What matters is your attitude and your habits. A substantial portion of my success, especially incremental from a year ago, is from the attitudes I chose to adopt. Some of these are unconscious, but you have to consciously examine your attitudes and decide if you want keep approaching life a certain way.
I'm not complete as a person, far from it, but I am thankful for the journey and the progress I have made with the help of many of you.
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