[Mikestar]

Arafat scarf, you have a very good point. So the plan was to travel with her anyway, to Yucatan and also to her mansion in Morelos - all for ourselves. So I might go travelling with her for about 3 weeks like that, then after I return to Mexico City I’ll live seperately in an Airbnb and maybe a few days at her families house if I have to. Her mother is actually wanting me to stay at hers and her parents are not home often, privacy is not a problem.

But then if I stay longer that leaves me with a lot of time, if I go on let’s say 5-10 day trips to Guadalajara, or a place like that how would a girl react? She’s not stupid and she knows what I would wanna do in Guadalajara. But that would be like her coming to see me in England, then taking a trip to various cities and fucking guys on the way, so how do I make it seem plausible to go on trips like that?

[arafat scarf]

(02-23-2019 12:57 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

Arafat scarf, you have a very good point. So the plan was to travel with her anyway, to Yucatan and also to her mansion in Morelos - all for ourselves. So I might go travelling with her for about 3 weeks like that, then after I return to Mexico City I’ll live seperately in an Airbnb and maybe a few days at her families house if I have to. Her mother is actually wanting me to stay at hers and her parents are not home often, privacy is not a problem.

Why would you have to stay at her family's house? You're a young guy, but you're still your own man. It's a nice gesture, but it shouldn't matter what her mother wants with regard to your living accommodation. If you want to stay for personal reasons, that's cool, but I told you why I don't think it's the best decision if you want to maximize your chances of keeping it going with the girl.

Three weeks of travel and constant exposure is a long time and can put a lot of strain on the vibe and relationship you've got going. Have you traveled with her that long before? At the very least, you need to find a way to plan the trip so that you can bail if things are starting to sour. I'll leave you to sort it out, but this might be a hot stove you'll have to touch to learn the lesson.

(02-23-2019 12:57 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

But then if I stay longer that leaves me with a lot of time, if I go on let’s say 5-10 day trips to Guadalajara, or a place like that how would a girl react? She’s not stupid and she knows what I would wanna do in Guadalajara. But that would be like her coming to see me in England, then taking a trip to various cities and fucking guys on the way, so how do I make it seem plausible to go on trips like that?

She may not like it, but that shouldn't matter too much.

It's not about 'plausability'... Are you a man half way around the world who wants to explore and experience with his own eyes or are you a man trying to keep a girl's affections through appeasement? At your age, I didn't have the wisdom to draw on, I was the latter kind of guy, and I deprived myself of a lot of great experiences.

If she would want to do the same as you and go to the UK, travel around and sample other dudes. You simply withdraw the currency you trade in - the attention, energy, and resources of a high value guy.

The loss would hurt, but it shouldn't be a huge deal: I mean, you are talking to other girls, right? Because I guaran-fuckin'-tee that she's got other dudes hitting her up.

In the event that she pulls the Latina celosa shit and pointedly ask you about meeting other girls on the trip, I would say something to the effect of:

Well what if you meet another guy while I'm gone? Maybe some guy sings you a Luis Miguel song at a party and you fall in love! ... I'm not thinking about that, and it's not in my plans. I'm happy with you. I want to see another part of the country'.

If she presses you, give her a shrug and tell her that you've already told her how you feel.

[Mikestar]

(02-23-2019 01:50 PM)arafat scarf Wrote:  

(02-23-2019 12:57 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

Arafat scarf, you have a very good point. So the plan was to travel with her anyway, to Yucatan and also to her mansion in Morelos - all for ourselves. So I might go travelling with her for about 3 weeks like that, then after I return to Mexico City I’ll live seperately in an Airbnb and maybe a few days at her families house if I have to. Her mother is actually wanting me to stay at hers and her parents are not home often, privacy is not a problem.

Why would you have to stay at her family's house? You're a young guy, but you're still your own man. It's a nice gesture, but it shouldn't matter what her mother wants with regard to your living accommodation. If you want to stay for personal reasons, that's cool, but I told you why I don't think it's the best decision if you want to maximize your chances of keeping it going with the girl.

Three weeks of travel and constant exposure is a long time and can put a lot of strain on the vibe and relationship you've got going. Have you traveled with her that long before? At the very least, you need to find a way to plan the trip so that you can bail if things are starting to sour. I'll leave you to sort it out, but this might be a hot stove you'll have to touch to learn the lesson.

(02-23-2019 12:57 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  

But then if I stay longer that leaves me with a lot of time, if I go on let’s say 5-10 day trips to Guadalajara, or a place like that how would a girl react? She’s not stupid and she knows what I would wanna do in Guadalajara. But that would be like her coming to see me in England, then taking a trip to various cities and fucking guys on the way, so how do I make it seem plausible to go on trips like that?

She may not like it, but that shouldn't matter too much.

It's not about 'plausability'... Are you a man half way around the world who wants to explore and experience with his own eyes or are you a man trying to keep a girl's affections through appeasement? At your age, I didn't have the wisdom to draw on, I was the latter kind of guy, and I deprived myself of a lot of great experiences.

If she would want to do the same as you and go to the UK, travel around and sample other dudes. You simply withdraw the currency you trade in - the attention, energy, and resources of a high value guy.

The loss would hurt, but it shouldn't be a huge deal: I mean, you are talking to other girls, right? Because I guaran-fuckin'-tee that she's got other dudes hitting her up.

In the event that she pulls the Latina celosa shit and pointedly ask you about meeting other girls on the trip, I would say something to the effect of:

Well what if you meet another guy while I'm gone? Maybe some guy sings you a Luis Miguel song at a party and you fall in love! ... I'm not thinking about that, and it's not in my plans. I'm happy with you. I want to see another part of the country'.

If she presses you, give her a shrug and tell her that you've already told her how you feel.

That's some very good advice for me, she won't even press me like that. I'll just enjoy it my way and book a cheap room near her house so I can come over to her house anytime, that way its a perfect solution.

[whiteknightrises]

There's a slight chance that the first girl you ever date will be your girlfriend, wifey, whatever

There's a much higher chance you'll get played big time because you don't know what you're doing

3rd world girl off Tinder - that European passport probably looks pretty good

Fuck a few more girls and see how you feel

[ksbms]

I can see a potential for this thread to develop into a mini TV soap opera...