[Durden]

I am the biggest fan of cold approach out there but when it comes to getting a girlfriend it might not be the best way. I think there is a science to having a woman fall in love with a man and it takes time. I think she needs to see you in your environment being comfortable and confident. She needs to observe you from afar as she slowly desires you. Cold approach does not offer the best option. Online game has to be the worst option for this. In fact the dating apps almost do the opposite as they herd people toward fake, surface sexual relationships which never give the women time to fall head over heals in love with a guy.

No wonder all these guys who sold there soul for digital have such a tunnel vision view of women.

[456]

All of my longer term relationships have come from cold approach, since about 2010.

The whole point of "getting a girlfriend game" is that it's really just "getting a girl" game.

When you get her in the fun, "who knows?" mode, it's far easier to convert her to a girlfriend.

When you get her and exude "I want to take this seriously", you change the framing up and now she's in a different space. "This is supposed to be boring and conventional right?" "This is DIFFERENT than fun guys right?"

The point is, swoop in via alpha fux and then you can be her "both in one" guy after she's lustfully/lovingly falling for you.

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Also: NEVER suggest exclusivity or relationship until she broaches it. She should be quietly hoping for it for weeks, then she can't stand it any longer and asks you. Then you decide whether to let it go there.

I believe this sets the proper ground, as she won't be able to think of you as "settled for boyfriend mode, found this guy", because you started as a spark / fling, and you LET HER WIN YOU OVER.

HOW you met her, in my mind, does not really matter.

[torridon747]

Another thread with no substance.

thread-69118.html

Is it necessary to shit up the game section with badly thought out diary entries? If you are trying to contribute you could post a data sheet, or go into more detail about the concepts you're choosing to discuss starting from the bottom up. Your posts are cynical, bragadocious and don't actually contribute anything other than what seems to half-baked opinions. If you want to paint yourself as married super player supreme cool, but back it up with something of value.

Why is cold approach not good? Because it's low yield? What are you trying to encourage here night game for a girlfriend hunting? Social circle game? You do realize that online dating moves offline fairly quickly right. Yeah a lot of online skews to neurotic vapid women but it also allows you to screen quickly and provides a prospect that's disconnected from your life and therefore easier to lay game down on. I Don't think anyone is saying cold approach or online is the holy grail here, but it is useful. If It's not useful to you outline why and start a discussion.

[Durden]

(07-10-2018 10:05 AM)456 Wrote:  

All of my longer term relationships have come from cold approach, since about 2010.

HOW you met her, in my mind, does not really matter.

Interesting and good to know. All the women who have fallen hard for me have been the ones who were observing me in my world from afar. They became Alpha widows.

[Durden]

(07-10-2018 10:13 AM)Eugenics Wrote:  

Another thread with no substance.

thread-69118.html

Is it necessary to shit up the game section with badly thought out diary entries? If you are trying to contribute you could post a data sheet, or go into more detail about the concepts you're choosing to discuss starting from the bottom up. Your posts are cynical, bragadocious and don't actually contribute anything other than what seems to half-baked opinions. If you want to paint yourself as married super player supreme cool, but back it up with something of value.

Why is cold approach not good? Because it's low yield? What are you trying to encourage here night game for a girlfriend hunting? Social circle game? You do realize that online dating moves offline fairly quickly right. Yeah a lot of online skews to neurotic vapid women but it also allows you to screen quickly and provides a prospect that's disconnected from your life and therefore easier to lay game down on. I Don't think anyone is saying cold approach or online is the holy grail here, but it is useful. If It's not useful to you outline why and start a discussion.

You lost all credibility dude. Your butt-hurt paragraph about me and my no substance post...then you jump right into your opinion on the subject. WTF
Learn to read the rules and OBEY them. Stop being so butt-hurt, it looks bad. People that run around critiquing other forum members are like fucking poison. In real life I cut these people out of my life fast.

[torridon747]

I was giving you honest criticisms and showing you ways to improve. Color me unsurprised you cut those people out of your life

[Baphomet]

(07-10-2018 10:24 AM)Durden Wrote:  

You lost all credibility dude. Your butt-hurt paragraph about me and my no substance post...then you jump right into your opinion on the subject. WTF
Learn to read the rules and OBEY them.

Actually, "dude", You need to read the rules :

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-13005.html

2. Don't talk down to members. Don't call someone an idiot, moron, or hater. Don't use condescending language such as "WTF are you talking about?" Don't use textspeak. Don't flood the forum with low value posts. Don't post someone's personal information. Don't be a drama queen. Defer to senior members, who help make the forum what it is.

[kaotic]

Don't feed the troll, he'll get himself banned eventually.

[Ski pro]

(07-10-2018 12:52 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Don't feed the troll, he'll get himself banned eventually.

I wonder which one he is. Dragan, ntp, Nola?

[Sublime0112]

No one here is hating on you, they're just telling you that your post is insignificant, which it is. You talking about "girls observing from afar" and falling for you shows to me that you think you're something special and that girls are gonna gravitate towards you without effort. Cold approaching probably just hasn't worked for you because you don't have any game and they find you boring.

No guy I have ever met with any amount of game recognizes a subsection of "girlfriend game" meant to make girls fall "Head over (heals?) in love" with them like you describe.

[kuqezi]

Why I have a feeling Durden is a girl?
What is this:

"I think she needs to see you in your environment being comfortable and confident. She needs to observe you from afar as she slowly desires you."

Seriously, a girl will desire you physically within 5 mins, or emotionally within hours.
I am quoting PT here in a different post, "attraction is a reaction"!

[blck]

(07-10-2018 09:49 AM)Durden Wrote:  

I think there is a science to having a woman fall in love with a man

Yes there is and intelligence people have mastered it since a really long time.

Anyway this kind of writing and aggressive answering sound really familiar, pretty sure this banned member came back under an other name...

(07-10-2018 10:14 AM)Durden Wrote:  

Interesting and good to know. All the women who have fallen hard for me have been the ones who were observing me in my world from afar. They became Alpha widows.

[Durden]

(07-11-2018 08:31 AM)Sublime0112 Wrote:  

No one here is hating on you, they're just telling you that your post is insignificant, which it is. You talking about "girls observing from afar" and falling for you shows to me that you think you're something special and that girls are gonna gravitate towards you without effort. Cold approaching probably just hasn't worked for you because you don't have any game and they find you boring.

No guy I have ever met with any amount of game recognizes a subsection of "girlfriend game" meant to make girls fall "Head over (heals?) in love" with them like you describe.

Up your game dude, even if it means shaking up your social circle.

[Durden]

(07-11-2018 10:22 AM)kuqezi Wrote:  

Why I have a feeling Durden is a girl?
What is this:

"I think she needs to see you in your environment being comfortable and confident. She needs to observe you from afar as she slowly desires you."

Seriously, a girl will desire you physically within 5 mins, or emotionally within hours.
I am quoting PT here in a different post, "attraction is a reaction"!

So you doxxed yourself as one those guys who has never Alpha widowed a woman.

[Durden]

(07-11-2018 10:52 AM)blck Wrote:  

(07-10-2018 09:49 AM)Durden Wrote:  

I think there is a science to having a woman fall in love with a man

Yes there is and intelligence people have mastered it since a really long time.

Anyway this kind of writing and aggressive answering sound really familiar, pretty sure this banned member came back under an other name...

(07-10-2018 10:14 AM)Durden Wrote:  

Interesting and good to know. All the women who have fallen hard for me have been the ones who were observing me in my world from afar. They became Alpha widows.

http://grouchoreviews.com/content/films/3277/1.jpg

[blck]

(07-12-2018 12:15 PM)Durden Wrote:  

http://grouchoreviews.com/content/films/3277/1.jpg

[torridon747]

Finally, little prick.