Hello everyone ,
I am in Russia , in various cities for the world cup , and later in some others , for tourism and not for football.
I am married and have created a virtual harem months in advance to have as many options as possible for real meet when i m here ( i am here now)
I am quite shy , and I was pathologically shy person before i gained self confidence and eventually got married and have kids. Even though I am a bit shy , I believe I can display some sort of "placid" self-confidence , and with excellent mood , I can be extremely eccentric and can "make the difference"
I have made 1 "real life" approach , to a girl watching alone a match on the big screen in town , i came to her at half time. I don't know if she saw my ring , but it was going well , and then I had a call I couldnt refuse and during that time she took the opportunity to just leave to another row (?!) ... she came back at the end of the match to wish me "the best" and "to have a good time here".
It was a bit rough , as i believe this is the first time of my life i am trying cold approaches. I felt like she was escaping from a monster or something. However it is a progress , one decade ago i would have been sweating and shaking to do this.
the other 2 i met , respectively in Moscow and in Samara. The meetings were initially planned for a few hours until max. 10pm , but I have managed to keep them in a park chatting and talking until 4am and 5 am. As they had been already selected up-front , it was a bit more easy since we knew a bit of our lives but i am still happy about my performances. ( In addition , I have done this only in Russian , which has improved my level a lot)
Both have ended up the next day telling me that they absolutely adore me but that since i am married they dont want anything. They have also both said ( and one told me in real life looking at me in the eyes) that (i quote) "If you weren't married you would already be in my bed".
Is that such a big thing ? Can only married women cheat with married men ? Non-married women will refuse to do anything or they are just using this as an excuse to politely decline me ? I felt like the ultimate victory with "panache" was to get someone in bed without any lie at all.
In addition , I think i am quite a pussy , because I feel that I start to have feelings for one of these two girls .
So , i will try to formulate my questions well ?
- should i push it to get what i want and keep contact with those girls ?
- should i entirely delete from my life the one I may have feelings for in the future ?
- should I lie in the rest of my trip about my marital condition and simply pretend i am single ? I feel that this would totally raise my probabilities but .... I really feel bad about misleading a woman (because yes , usually i do not get in contact with bitches but with more or less respectable women )
Thank you for listening- kindly asking for your help. I feel extremely frustrated to not be able to have good time with women who seem to like me , and with whom I have a strong connection. I feel like they make me "pay" for being married , which i think sums up the pervert personality of a woman.
I am in Russia , in various cities for the world cup , and later in some others , for tourism and not for football.
I am married and have created a virtual harem months in advance to have as many options as possible for real meet when i m here ( i am here now)
I am quite shy , and I was pathologically shy person before i gained self confidence and eventually got married and have kids. Even though I am a bit shy , I believe I can display some sort of "placid" self-confidence , and with excellent mood , I can be extremely eccentric and can "make the difference"
I have made 1 "real life" approach , to a girl watching alone a match on the big screen in town , i came to her at half time. I don't know if she saw my ring , but it was going well , and then I had a call I couldnt refuse and during that time she took the opportunity to just leave to another row (?!) ... she came back at the end of the match to wish me "the best" and "to have a good time here".
It was a bit rough , as i believe this is the first time of my life i am trying cold approaches. I felt like she was escaping from a monster or something. However it is a progress , one decade ago i would have been sweating and shaking to do this.
the other 2 i met , respectively in Moscow and in Samara. The meetings were initially planned for a few hours until max. 10pm , but I have managed to keep them in a park chatting and talking until 4am and 5 am. As they had been already selected up-front , it was a bit more easy since we knew a bit of our lives but i am still happy about my performances. ( In addition , I have done this only in Russian , which has improved my level a lot)
Both have ended up the next day telling me that they absolutely adore me but that since i am married they dont want anything. They have also both said ( and one told me in real life looking at me in the eyes) that (i quote) "If you weren't married you would already be in my bed".
Is that such a big thing ? Can only married women cheat with married men ? Non-married women will refuse to do anything or they are just using this as an excuse to politely decline me ? I felt like the ultimate victory with "panache" was to get someone in bed without any lie at all.
In addition , I think i am quite a pussy , because I feel that I start to have feelings for one of these two girls .
So , i will try to formulate my questions well ?
- should i push it to get what i want and keep contact with those girls ?
- should i entirely delete from my life the one I may have feelings for in the future ?
- should I lie in the rest of my trip about my marital condition and simply pretend i am single ? I feel that this would totally raise my probabilities but .... I really feel bad about misleading a woman (because yes , usually i do not get in contact with bitches but with more or less respectable women )
Thank you for listening- kindly asking for your help. I feel extremely frustrated to not be able to have good time with women who seem to like me , and with whom I have a strong connection. I feel like they make me "pay" for being married , which i think sums up the pervert personality of a woman.