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05-18-2018, 07:08 AM
After the n-th post here about "I can get 7s but 8s are out of my reach" or "just marry a plain 6 and nobody will flirt with her" I thought it was time to add my insights on the subject:
Game is NOT linear, the degree of hotness of the girl is not the only factor in play to determine the level of game required to get her.
But guess what, if you still think like it, you will never get quality girls as you (subconsciously) are firing on your foot. We men like simplicity, but life especially humans are not linear.
Some personal experiences on the matter:
I was once in a nightclub and saw a legit whale, really obese and whatnot. She was dancing alone with 4 betas around her, all of them trying to get her. I'm sure each of them thought "she's ugly so I have my chance with her".
Another time, I was speaking with a really hot girl (8+ easily) and when I dig deep, I learned how alone she felt, how she hadn't been with a guy for 2 years and thought guys were either scared to talk to her or were doing bad game as they were intimidated.
As 95% of guys have low self esteem and think "she's ugly so she's easy", I believe that if we knew the reality, we would see that a lot of sub-average girls are chased like crazy and some hot girls way less than we would think.
Real game is not just learning simple tricks to bed women, otherwise they will leave sooner or later. That's why it's vital to slowly change your core and get to a level where you really believe you deserve a quality girl.
No matter who you choose, there will always be some other guys trying to get her. Work on your value, learn to deal with your insecurities and be firm from time to time if the girl is getting out of line. Remind her too that she has reason to be jealous, you're an attractive man with options after all.
Now, I'm not saying everyone can get a 10, but everyone with the right mindset can get quality girls.
Tip: It helps to see her as a normal human being, with some things you don't like but can tolerate.
Now if some guys still think it's all theory, I will finish by saying that my ex was an 8 and due to her situation, she had 2-3 new guys each day hitting on her. I never felt jealousy, but laughter and sadness by seeing all these pathetic men disrespecting themselves. I kept an eye open of course, but I felt safe and never had a problem.
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05-18-2018, 01:58 PM
Funny how it works.
When I got divorced, I figured I'd go for the 5s and 6s to "learn". I had a relatively low opinion of my ability to meet women. (This is before I got into game).
Some successes, many failures. Many failures. I felt like it almost confirmed my opinion of my ability to meet women.
Then I read every book on game I could find. After having a bit of successes, I started going after hotter chicks, and even getting them. My game got way better, and I became completely at ease around hot women. Touching them, flirting with them, asking them out. My social circle also became filled with hot women. Five years later, talking to and hitting on hot women is easy.
I found that in general, they're much more pleasant to be around. They're also surprised by men who aren't intimidated by them, and won't bend over backwards for them. (though sometimes they end up going with these total betas, and you wonder what happened). They're usually fun and easygoing.
However, I also observed that they can coast by in life because orbiters will always buy them drinks, presents, give them easy jobs, etc. Bartenders give them free drinks and clubs never charge them a cover. (some places require a certain ratio). They can also always "model" on Instagram, be a waitress, stripper, bartender, "in advertising", etc. If they own a business or are in sales, they can simply flirt (or sleep with) customers / clients. It's insane how much men will bend over for hot women that they're not even banging. That's also the reason they're usually fun and easy going -- they don't need any real responsibility.
People talk about "white male privilege?" "Hot female privilege" is an actual privilege. Men work hard jobs; hot women can do whatever they want. I don't know any voluntarily unemployed hot women, and I knew very few with jobs that are challenging.
In any event, tangent aside, you're correct -- game is not linear. I've gotten blown out by more 6s than 8s.
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05-18-2018, 02:10 PM
I'm wondering how credible is the statement that many seem to make that hot girls don't go hit on as much and get as much attention as ugly girls? People often say hotter girls have lower self esteem and I'm wondering if these statements have any truth to them.
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05-18-2018, 07:57 PM
Not sure how accurate this is anymore with the advent of dating apps and social media. 18-22 yr old girls have grown up with social media from a very young age. Unless your 8+ girl lives on a farm in the middle of nowhere this just doesn't happen anymore, although this wouldn't have been unheard of 20 years ago. 8+ western girl without social media in 2018? I'd have to call that a unicorn.
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05-18-2018, 08:17 PM
Agreed that game is not linear.
You can meet a 5 who gives you a ton of BS due to delusion or an 8 or above who is into you right off the bat.
This is why you should approach any girl you find attractive. You simply do not know how she will react & you might be her type.
What game can be, however, is systematic. This is critical for hard newbies who have no intuitive sense of how to interact with women.
To mold your identity from a straight-cut, well-rounded dude to a red-pilled player takes a massive amount of patience, discipline, & tenacity. (Ironically, you're becoming a worse person to get these girls. I really don't believe game makes you a better guy. All the top players I know are some kind of messed up in the head. It does, however, make you a guy who is better able to navigate society to get what you want.)
Just because the 8 or above is into you right off the bat doesn't mean you can disregard game. In fact, you NEED game to convert that interest into a result. That's all game is really. Conversion of those who are into you + those on the fence into a close.
Extreme players who want a challenge target those who are way, way on the fence. Whether that's a good use of your time depends on your game goals.
Learning game takes an incredible amount of effort + self-awareness. Effort without self-awareness leads to plateaus & frustration. Self-awareness without effort leads to overthinking & no results. A healthy balance of both is required to continually improve at game.
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05-18-2018, 09:23 PM
Attraction is a funny thing.
If you got that strange collection of quirky things that rings an 8's bell she will go for it, meanwhile a fat SMV-3 chick will brush you off because she doesn't like untattooed dudes or something else random.
Also, its tempting to game 5-6 because of laziness or fear of rejection, but once you go fishing for 6-8 and you catch a few, its no looking back!
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05-18-2018, 09:52 PM
What makes leads you to think game makes you a worse person?
Id say it gives you access to more choices all with varying degrees of difficulty and short/long term repercussions. To generalize: bad choices are usually easier and more impulsive and if you have the tools to make more of them and you do it's something you should think about. I wouldn't lay the blame on game alone.
It may be just me but when speaking about strategic long term Machiavellian shit I find the more honest options easier and less stressful
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05-18-2018, 10:27 PM
It was an old school way of teaching game to make it easier to understand for newbies.
There is now so much material,you could go in any direction.
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05-19-2018, 01:57 AM
You guys are all kidding yourselves if you think that 8s and 9s are not getting hit on a hundred times per day.
The reason for this is that the info is coming from the girls themselves...they really mean "I rarely get hit on by guys I consider good enough for me".
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05-20-2018, 06:51 PM
I can only agree that eventually, if you see a girl you like, doesn't matter a 6 or an 8, just go for her.
At this point in my game journey, I prefer to not think at all about a sittuation, and stick to a textbook program (they are all the same in the end) with minor adjustments.
There are so many factors in play, that trying to make general rules is futile.
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