A recent post over at rationalmale(rationalmale.wordpress.com/2011/09/20/letting-go-of-invisible-friend) got me thinking about LDR's
I travel continuously and most of the relationships I've been in the last 10 years have been a LDR, in one form or another. I've learned a few things in dealing with these "relationships", the hazards and pitfalls etc..
I usually spend at least a few months in a particular country either working or climbing, or some combination of both. I tend to enjoy mini-relatonships to ONS, and if I find a young lady with the right "assets" I tend to keep her around. In the past I've maintained the more valuable LDR's once I've left the country. I have even returned, in some cases, at considerable expense, both financially and emotionally, to keep things going. Those days are long over...I swallowed the red pill a few years back. I have no problem walking if the logistics aren't favorable.
I now find my self in another mini-relationship in Peru, one that has the potential to turn into a LDR once I leave in January to return to North America. I have no interest in maintaining an LDR anymore, but I will be returning to Peru next May permanently when I move my base of operations to South America to have better exposure to the South American mining industry. She has also said she wants to come visit me for a couple weeks in NA.
My question is this...given this scenario, I plan on maintaining the relationship, for all practical purposes, but I am going to do whatever the hell I want, with who I want, while I am away. Am I better off just laying things out to her instead of having my cake and eating it too?
I am interested in hearing others take on the implications, both personal and practical of the situation.
If further clarification is needed, just ask. Don't feel the need to pull any punches, please.
I travel continuously and most of the relationships I've been in the last 10 years have been a LDR, in one form or another. I've learned a few things in dealing with these "relationships", the hazards and pitfalls etc..
I usually spend at least a few months in a particular country either working or climbing, or some combination of both. I tend to enjoy mini-relatonships to ONS, and if I find a young lady with the right "assets" I tend to keep her around. In the past I've maintained the more valuable LDR's once I've left the country. I have even returned, in some cases, at considerable expense, both financially and emotionally, to keep things going. Those days are long over...I swallowed the red pill a few years back. I have no problem walking if the logistics aren't favorable.
I now find my self in another mini-relationship in Peru, one that has the potential to turn into a LDR once I leave in January to return to North America. I have no interest in maintaining an LDR anymore, but I will be returning to Peru next May permanently when I move my base of operations to South America to have better exposure to the South American mining industry. She has also said she wants to come visit me for a couple weeks in NA.
My question is this...given this scenario, I plan on maintaining the relationship, for all practical purposes, but I am going to do whatever the hell I want, with who I want, while I am away. Am I better off just laying things out to her instead of having my cake and eating it too?
I am interested in hearing others take on the implications, both personal and practical of the situation.
If further clarification is needed, just ask. Don't feel the need to pull any punches, please.