[HankMoody]

I pose this question to the forum...

Normally my text messages, FB messages, and everything else are completely non-sexual. It's all normally logistics, followed by some witty banter. Incredibly benign. "hey" "cool" "good stuff" "awesome sauce" etc.

Lately I've been experimenting around and getting way more sexual. "i want to tie you up, blindfold you, and do dirty things to you all night".

Seems to be actually working.

What is your experience with this? How sexual do you get in texts?

[Montrose]

It works and I do it often, but only when I have established that the girl is into BDSM. (Which is consistent with the example you give). It can make girls crazy with excitement.

[HankMoody]

(04-05-2018 01:38 PM)Montrose Wrote:  

It works and I do it often, but only when I have established that the girl is into BDSM. (Which is consistent with the example you give). It can make girls crazy with excitement.

That is what spawned this post.

Girl was like "I'm into BDSM."

Then she was like "I don't know how sexually I'm into you."

So, very outside my nature, I sent her a text saying how I want to tie her up, blindfold her, and go from there.

Suddenly it was on and she came over. We had fun.

I am wondering if i should make these sexualized texts part of my game, or chalk this one up to an outlier.

[kaotic]

Depends, before the bang, it's direct/logistics as it should be.

Post bang - 3 of my plates use the term daddy for me, and it's always sexualized or sexual jokes with those girls.

I will once in awhile make a short sexual text of what I want to do with them - 100% of the time it's been met with a positive response and a question of when will this happen.

With girls I'm unsure of I drop sexual jokes or a spanking line, or something that is suitable for the conversation.

If you were dominant in bed (and she's kinky), it will translate into text when writing them.

The key is toning it down then ramping it up at given times.

[Hypno]

This is very effective because there is less resistance to escalation over text. Then, the woman has a tendency to act consistent with her prior statement. Cialdini has a chapter on this in his book Influence.

The key is you want them to make statements. You have to prompt them, so start with something like "You seem like the adventurous type, am I right?" etc etc. Its not what you say, its what you get her to say.

Second, avoid sexting. Once you go there, they have gotten what they wanted, and the lead will be dead.

[Montrose]

I do a lot of BDSM so I can usually spot if the girl is into it or not. The best predictor is ‘Openness to Experience’ (look for arty emotional girls). In this case they are expecting a proof that you can dominate them, and sexting is a good method. However, if in doubt, avoid. It’s pretty risky. Not to mention that execution is key; if you sound ridiculous and contrieved it isn’t in your favour. If you can get the date without sexting don’t push your luck. But sometimes it will get you the date.

My favorite tactics: when the Tinder match hasn’t responded to my vanilla opening for three days, I go full BDSM sexting. Most of the time I get unmatched. (And sometimes I get banned from Tinder lol)

[YoungBlade]

I usually send a picture of my penis next to a 7-11 big gulp cup

[XXL]

You sent a sexual text to a girl into bdsm. Sounds quite obvious.

There's a place and time for everything so of course if a girl has more sexual in general then such texts work like a charm. As long as you can back it up face to face and deliver the goods.

[Zerdame]

Text game is always a tough topic because its normally the determinant if the girl 'would agree to meet you' and we all don't want to fuck it up by being too overly sexual.

However, look at it the other way, being sexual establishes your frame early into the interaction and its best used for girls that you wouldn't mind banging but wouldnt be kicking yourself in the leg if you didnt.

Its normal to think that by being too overly sexual, it scares the cat but girls love it, especially if they're interested in you. Do it in moderation, add a sexual text every 10 normal messages, done too often and you look like a horny loser who pays for phone sex, done appropriately and it gets her excited for your upcoming date.

[Ice Man]

Quote:

Being more sexually aggressive via text

In my high school days this meant having the girl shove a Nokia 3210 in her vagina on vibrate and me texting her repeatedly.

[S3K2]

Its 2018. The days of "just keep it strictly logistics" are over. You can increase your odds by throwing in some sexual innuendo. As previously said, too much sex talk makes you needy. Done just right turns a maybe girl into a yes girl.

Lets add some value to this thread. One of the many techniques I like to do via text is play this game called WYR or (would you rather) when i'm bored. Basically take two things i.e. going without sex for 2 years or the internet for 2 years (out of experience all females WILL say without tech for 2 years) after this question you have now opened the doors for sex talk. If you dont lead your 1st question with a sex question sex talk should flow beautifully socially. (Making a sex question the 3rd question works best in my experience) Meaning the hamster thinks "well it makes sence were talking about sex because its only natural after I told him I can't go without sex for 2 years". After the question is a perfect time to tease her for being a nympho, or how you want to tie her up and spank her etc.

[Vill@in]

(04-05-2018 01:35 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

I pose this question to the forum...

Normally my text messages, FB messages, and everything else are completely non-sexual. It's all normally logistics, followed by some witty banter. Incredibly benign. "hey" "cool" "good stuff" "awesome sauce" etc.

Hank, bro...love your posts. But please, for the love of Christ, eliminate "awesome sauce" from your vernacular.

You might elicit vagina tingles if you use it in a different context: "I can't wait to deposit my awesome sauce on your face" or "Open up and eat my awesome sauce".

Ok, never mind. Just don't use that phrase like, ever.

[HankMoody]

(04-06-2018 08:32 AM)Vill@in Wrote:  

(04-05-2018 01:35 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

I pose this question to the forum...

Normally my text messages, FB messages, and everything else are completely non-sexual. It's all normally logistics, followed by some witty banter. Incredibly benign. "hey" "cool" "good stuff" "awesome sauce" etc.

Hank, bro...love your posts. But please, for the love of Christ, eliminate "awesome sauce" from your vernacular.

You might elicit vagina tingles if you use it in a different context: "I can't wait to deposit my awesome sauce on your face" or "Open up and eat my awesome sauce".

Ok, never mind. Just don't use that phrase like, ever.

I've actually gotten compliments on using that line, believe it or not.

It's completely incongruent with my personality (degrees in philosophy, theology, and law), which is why I think it works sometimes.

That line is the last thing she would ever expect me to text.

Would not recommend it for most people's text vernacular, though. It's situational.

[Quizzical_2]

Hey, speaking of sexually explicit texts, this reminds me of my own little text exchange I had with a female friend. She said she saw me in a dream killing her cat, so I acted real cheeky and said something like "So you're telling me I killed your pussy?" It was pretty corny but kind of endearing, unfortunately though, I sort of acted like a dolt and awkwardly pushed the sexually charged comments so...

You live and you learn; wish I saw this thread a year ago though.

[kiwi12]

(04-05-2018 01:35 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Normally my text messages, FB messages, and everything else are completely non-sexual. It's all normally logistics, followed by some witty banter. Incredibly benign. "hey" "cool" "good stuff" "awesome sauce" etc.

With forum name like that, there is only one phrase you can use. Madafakaaa

[dosequis]

I think the better question is if you yourself get turned on by sexting and if you like it? Don't do it for her.

I've come across a few girls that seem to like this stuff but rarely has it been that fun for me. I know a whole bunch of thirsty guys who do sexting with girls though because they think that's going to make the girl turned on and wanna fuck. If she's into that she probably already have other dudes she's doing that to.

So I think you want to establish a deeper connection and have fucked her at least once if you're doing it.

I remember once though, where I was playing this Star Wars scenario with this girl and making references where I was Darth Vader who was going to bang my daughter Leia ("I find your lack of faith disturbing", "I'll lick your wet pussy until you swear your allegiance to the empire and join the dark side").
That was alright, but it was more for me than it was for her and it was for my own amusement and something that happened in the moment, if that makes sense? Never like I would I set up a plan that I'm going to spend Thursday night sexting girls to get them all horny for the weekend.

And few girls are gonna be able to play along to the point where they crack jokes that makes me laugh and I'm not the type that get turned on by some text from some girl unless it's something extraordinary about her desperately wanting to come over to suck my dick. That rarely happens to me though.

[Catch 22]

This girl told me she's submissive and wants a dom, so I texted her "If you get yourself off tonight, I want you to imagine me cumming in your ass right when you get off." The last time I fucked her I gave her a finger in the ass to prepare it for anal, and she totally tensed, so I was thinking of building a positive association. She said she's open to anal but hasn't enjoyed it the 2 or 3 times she's tried it.

She completely ghosted a couple days later. I'm going to go back to avoiding sexual texts, too risky, and save that shit for in person.

[lunchmoney]

bumping this for 2019...

[EwartGrogan]

Just discovered this thread. I usually open sexting with chicks in their very early twenties writing "Do you want a Quiz?" and then sending 3-4 pictures from https://www.instagram.com/petitesluxures/ asking "What would you choose?" and then carry on with more explicit texts. Works like a charm for me for some reason (probably it's the sweet spot between sensuality and sexuality for younger girls).

[HD668B]

Good question. Thinking about it, I burned myself more often by sexualizing on messages than I gained from it.

The logic is simple, because of internet, every chode beta male sitting on his toilet seat can sexualize by IMs or Tinder like he was a real life alpha chad. So its hard to differentiate yourself. But in real life, since you can hold eye contact more than 2 seconds, you are ok.