[treypound]

Anyone have this happen to them recently?

I met this girl through a mutual friend at a Superbowl party, and hit it off talking during the game. She travels for a living (flight attendant) so I knew seeing her would not be something consistent.

Fast forward to 2 days ago. She starts texting me unsolicited, making small talk, which turns into suggestive texts. I offer up meeting up tonight, which she agrees to. Right before I go to bed that night she sends me a pic of her half dressed (thong, bra) asking me for my opinion about a dress laying on her bed.

Of course all of this has me thinking tonight is gonna be a one and done. Today, she has gone radio silent. No replies to messages, and no answer on the call.

I would normally chalk up this to a girl flaking, but having someone new go from texting about what she wants to do with me/to me to going silent seems strange.

[birthday cat]

I avoid suggestive texting before banging a girl because something like this usually happens.

Some of these girls are crazy, playing games, and seeking attention. Some might get cold feet and let their anti-slut defense take over.

The best thing to do is withdraw attention.

[PapayaTapper]

^Birthday Cat is correct. Dont overtly sexualize a convo pre first bang*. You're defusing any sexual tension you've built up and risking her ASD kicking in. How did you respond to that thong / bra shot?

By the way "messages" as in multiple? Plus a call? ...in one day? She might be busy obtaining a restraining order


*Lastly...Not to be pedantic but...Technically she's not even a plate unless youve banged and in some type of rotation

[Winston Wolfe]

Like PT said if you haven't banged her (several times) before, she's not a plate.

She's a girl. This is what girls do. They seek attention.

Before you meet her, there is really no point in entertaining her through text. Let her beta army take care of that. Just keep the texts short and with the sole purpose of figuring out logistics. No flirting, sexting and any of the sort if she's just fishing for attention.

Now, what if she's a plate already? They disappear, man. It's how it goes. A plate doesn't owe you anything since she's not in committed relationship with you.

The way to keep them around as long as possible is to destroy them in the bedroom every single time. You have to be her best option sexually.

But then still, they'll disappear at some point. Either because they can't get you to commit to a relationship or because someone else did. Maybe they moved to a different city. Maybe their dog died and they need time on their own. Maybe they found a better dick.

Such is life. Move on and find the next one

[treypound]

(03-01-2018 08:03 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

^Birthday Cat is correct. Dont overtly sexualize a convo pre first bang*. You're defusing any sexual tension you've built up and risking her ASD kicking in. How did you respond to that thong / bra shot?

By the way "messages" as in multiple? Plus a call? ...in one day? She might be busy obtaining a restraining order


*Lastly...Not to be pedantic but...Technically she's not even a plate unless youve banged and in some type of rotation

Thanks guys for the replies.

When she sent the pic, I said Red is my favorite color (the color of her thong/bra). She sent a couple kiss emoji faces and thanks

Re: the messages, I sent one mid morning which she replied to, and then one toward late afternoon trying to confirm that night.

[birthday cat]

I think this question was too easy for PapayaTapper so I have a related but more difficult scenario.

Night game. Specifically, late night in a dance club and everyone has been drinking. You are very aggressive with a girl that is more attractive than most of the girls you bang. You pull her. The sex is a little rough, talking dirty, dominating her, etc.

You want to see her again because she is hot. She wants to see you but you can feel that she is a little embarrassed about going home with you so quickly. She has already had rough sex with you but you don't know anything about each other. She is an upper class girl that has an inner whore but she is probably reserved about that inner whore.

You can tell that the wheels are turning in her head. She likes you and is interested in you but she is a little embarrassed and the ASD is kicking in.

What is your strategy?

[PapayaTapper]

(03-02-2018 10:56 AM)birthday cat Wrote:  

I think this question was too easy for PapayaTapper so I have a related but more difficult scenario.

Night game. Specifically, late night in a dance club and everyone has been drinking. You are very aggressive with a girl that is more attractive than most of the girls you bang. You pull her. The sex is a little rough, talking dirty, dominating her, etc.

You want to see her again because she is hot. She wants to see you but you can feel that she is a little embarrassed about going home with you so quickly. She has already had rough sex with you but you don't know anything about each other. She is an upper class girl that has an inner whore but she is probably reserved about that inner whore.

You can tell that the wheels are turning in her head. She likes you and is interested in you but she is a little embarrassed and the ASD is kicking in.

What is your strategy?

Lot of unknowns but:

If she stays the night then Id try to bang her again super early in the morning. If she's resistant then you know it was likely the alcohol that induced the inhibition and she was just carousel-ing.

If she's into it then bang her out again. Wake her with a good pre dawn deep dicking. Then afterwards be direct. "I had a really good time. I want to see you again". If she's super hot then direct with strong dominant frame is the way to go.

If she's a "nice girl" that you "unleashed" this will help allay her fears that you see her as a pump and dump slut and that she's free to let her freak flag fly with you. That's a good thing.

But she needs to see you as worthy of "owning" her. And you cant fake this. She wont believe it if you don't. The toughest part of this is that youre caring about what happens later. Not letting that leak through as any kind vulnerability or weakness is the rub

Ultimately it will largely be dependent on the girls mindset and how she sees you. If she's under 25 and in a self ascribed "fun stage", then you might just have been the dick de jour. Nothing you can do bout that. If you see her out at the club again then you know the score.