How do I balance "Kindness" and "Hustle"?
I am huge fan of Gary V and he talks about many human attributes including, but not limited to "kindness" and "hustle"...
One of the main epiphanies or lessons that I learned last two months is to employ humility on so that you reflect on yourself, which gives you an anchor to grow and not just "I am the best in the world". I realized that that kind of delusional confidence does has time and place to be utilized, but when you are trying to grow and learn, it's not the most effective mentality to have.
Then I realized that I need to be empathetic to the other person, which gives me the power to leverage "kindness" because I understand how others are feeling. Calibration. Overall, I think it's a good trait to be "nice" unless you are a push-over and you are coming across as someone who is too innocent or naïve. (I am not like that and people can tell until I help them with 1 small thing and then I feel like people just immediate judge based on that act.)
My questions is, when I am being "nice" to another person whether it's a text message that I am sending wishing someone good luck on something or just helping someone out in a very trivial way, I feel like I am automatically labeled a "nice guy" and people try to take advantage of that.
I used to have this mentality of "Assholes finish 1st", "Hustle so hard and just dominate", "Stop giving a f about others" to the extreme. In other words, I was pushing "hustle" too hard. Now I want to change because I realize that when you give value to people, you attract them, and people want to be around you. That is what I learned from people who are successful, powerful, and popular. The people who just give off "good vibes". These people are actually fucking nice and kind.
One thing I noticed was that those people are actually coming from a pretty high value position. Ex. A guy making 6~7figures is helping out a guy making mid 5 figures, that is just pure value. Is it possible to give off "good vibes" when my value is lower than the other person?
TLDR: How do I become that person and give good vibes and someone who gives off value without being perceived as a person that will be advantage of? Even though I help people on a lot of things, I feel like I am not giving off good vibes and attracting people naturally.
I am huge fan of Gary V and he talks about many human attributes including, but not limited to "kindness" and "hustle"...
One of the main epiphanies or lessons that I learned last two months is to employ humility on so that you reflect on yourself, which gives you an anchor to grow and not just "I am the best in the world". I realized that that kind of delusional confidence does has time and place to be utilized, but when you are trying to grow and learn, it's not the most effective mentality to have.
Then I realized that I need to be empathetic to the other person, which gives me the power to leverage "kindness" because I understand how others are feeling. Calibration. Overall, I think it's a good trait to be "nice" unless you are a push-over and you are coming across as someone who is too innocent or naïve. (I am not like that and people can tell until I help them with 1 small thing and then I feel like people just immediate judge based on that act.)
My questions is, when I am being "nice" to another person whether it's a text message that I am sending wishing someone good luck on something or just helping someone out in a very trivial way, I feel like I am automatically labeled a "nice guy" and people try to take advantage of that.
I used to have this mentality of "Assholes finish 1st", "Hustle so hard and just dominate", "Stop giving a f about others" to the extreme. In other words, I was pushing "hustle" too hard. Now I want to change because I realize that when you give value to people, you attract them, and people want to be around you. That is what I learned from people who are successful, powerful, and popular. The people who just give off "good vibes". These people are actually fucking nice and kind.
One thing I noticed was that those people are actually coming from a pretty high value position. Ex. A guy making 6~7figures is helping out a guy making mid 5 figures, that is just pure value. Is it possible to give off "good vibes" when my value is lower than the other person?
TLDR: How do I become that person and give good vibes and someone who gives off value without being perceived as a person that will be advantage of? Even though I help people on a lot of things, I feel like I am not giving off good vibes and attracting people naturally.
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