I met this Korean girl in the US over 5 years ago, back during my very inexperienced beta days, and we went on two dates with pretty much no action before she had to return to Korea. We've kept in touch occasionally over the years, and recently she expressed interest in visiting me in Japan and traveling around the country a bit together. These days I have no interest or motivation to plan and execute typical tourist trips, so I figured having her do most of the work and have a travel buddy would be a good fit for me. And of course, I want to get something more out of it — and she may feel the same way too.
In total, we'll be together here for about 10 days, splitting travel costs evenly. She'll be staying with me at my place (I live alone in a studio apartment), and we'll be staying in Airbnbs in other parts of the country. I asked her to research Airbnbs and give me her preferred places; some of the places she liked had two beds, which I figured were good for us both due to easy plausible deniability, but the places she liked the most (and that we ultimately booked) only have one double bed that we'll share. Interesting.
Most of our conversations the past few weeks have been about the trip, with some unrelated banter thrown in and mild flirting. I have avoided being too overtly sexual because I don't want to scare her off: she was a typical innocent Asian girl when I knew her many years ago, though maybe that's changed. I recall her mentioning a boyfriend that didn't last long, but I don't know anything else about her relationship or sexual history. She knows that I was in a long-term relationship over the past several years and that I broke up with my girlfriend earlier this year.
Regarding strategy, the main things I have in mind are not to be too aggressive and to make certain not to show any disappointment at failure; time is on my side since every night is an opportunity, and a huge fuck-up could ruin the enjoyment of the trip for both of us. But at the same time, I have to counter the friend-zoned vibe I gave off when we spent time together many years ago. It's a tricky situation for me, and I'd like some tips about how to best handle this situation. Thanks in advance.
In total, we'll be together here for about 10 days, splitting travel costs evenly. She'll be staying with me at my place (I live alone in a studio apartment), and we'll be staying in Airbnbs in other parts of the country. I asked her to research Airbnbs and give me her preferred places; some of the places she liked had two beds, which I figured were good for us both due to easy plausible deniability, but the places she liked the most (and that we ultimately booked) only have one double bed that we'll share. Interesting.
Most of our conversations the past few weeks have been about the trip, with some unrelated banter thrown in and mild flirting. I have avoided being too overtly sexual because I don't want to scare her off: she was a typical innocent Asian girl when I knew her many years ago, though maybe that's changed. I recall her mentioning a boyfriend that didn't last long, but I don't know anything else about her relationship or sexual history. She knows that I was in a long-term relationship over the past several years and that I broke up with my girlfriend earlier this year.
Regarding strategy, the main things I have in mind are not to be too aggressive and to make certain not to show any disappointment at failure; time is on my side since every night is an opportunity, and a huge fuck-up could ruin the enjoyment of the trip for both of us. But at the same time, I have to counter the friend-zoned vibe I gave off when we spent time together many years ago. It's a tricky situation for me, and I'd like some tips about how to best handle this situation. Thanks in advance.