Ive got a new hairstylist thats about 10/10 on the "looks" scale. Right out of a Maxim magazine. Anyway, she's in a new relationship with an insecure and needy tool of a bodybuilder who is on steroids. I hit the gym about 5 days peer week myself and am pretty rock solid with a decent amount of size but Ive never actually thought about doing a cycle of steroids because i don't think its worth it. Anyway, Im friends with this new Hairstylists close girlfriend and she told me that she's only attracted to "very huge buff guys." From my own experience this may be true when a woman is out and about at the bar but I also know that women are attracted to dominance and Alpha presence. Can a girl like this be cracked? I have the ability to get to know her since ill be seeing her once per month for an hour. I want to get in there because I know this clown is too insecure to keep her and I want to be the branch she swings to. How should i approach this?
Women into very muscular guys only
Girls look for many qualities in men and not all girls look for the same!
For sure big muscles may be interesting for a girl (as you like big boobs), but they look also eye color, your hands, your butt, your personality, sometime your money etc.. if you ask me what is the main aspect is the personality. I'm also pretty sure that not all girls want the "Alpha male", I'm sure everywoman is different.
What you are asking is how to set the strategy with a girl, it depends on her personality, and also other aspects. If I want to fuck a girl that has a rich boyfriend who works a lot as a manager, very busy with full of money and well dressed, I may try to present myself to her as a "funny guy" who doesn't care so much about responsibilities, in other words giving to her something different from what she already has. On the contrary if a girl has a student boyfriend (without money) I may tease her with lifestyle which her boyfriend can't afford. This a strategy sometimes works other times not. There's no a standard procedure for getting her, we can give you advices but everyone will tell you different ones and you'll get mad, so try what can work for you. A taken girl can be harder, than a single girl.... but if she worths a try and if boyfriend is an idiot.... go into action!
For sure big muscles may be interesting for a girl (as you like big boobs), but they look also eye color, your hands, your butt, your personality, sometime your money etc.. if you ask me what is the main aspect is the personality. I'm also pretty sure that not all girls want the "Alpha male", I'm sure everywoman is different.
What you are asking is how to set the strategy with a girl, it depends on her personality, and also other aspects. If I want to fuck a girl that has a rich boyfriend who works a lot as a manager, very busy with full of money and well dressed, I may try to present myself to her as a "funny guy" who doesn't care so much about responsibilities, in other words giving to her something different from what she already has. On the contrary if a girl has a student boyfriend (without money) I may tease her with lifestyle which her boyfriend can't afford. This a strategy sometimes works other times not. There's no a standard procedure for getting her, we can give you advices but everyone will tell you different ones and you'll get mad, so try what can work for you. A taken girl can be harder, than a single girl.... but if she worths a try and if boyfriend is an idiot.... go into action!
Don't worry about a girl's type just use your normal game (assuming you have decent game, and if not read a book and start going out and approaching as much as possible). So many women have a type but then end up getting fucked by men that aren't anything like their type.
Women get turned on by different things, and find different traits attractive. It would be boring if they were all the same.
There are some general rules, but there is a lot of scope for variation in womens preferences.
Some chicks are really into the skinny hipster look, others the unwashed hippy look, others like a steroids dude.
Good Game can overcome some of difficulties of not having the look and vibe she is into, but why not find a chick thats into your look/vibe?
There are some general rules, but there is a lot of scope for variation in womens preferences.
Some chicks are really into the skinny hipster look, others the unwashed hippy look, others like a steroids dude.
Good Game can overcome some of difficulties of not having the look and vibe she is into, but why not find a chick thats into your look/vibe?
You ever stop to consider the chick you were talking to was blowing smoke up your ass? She might feel competitive with her, maybe she likes you, or a number of other reasons.
First of all, adjust your scale. 10/10? Really? 10's don't work as hairstylists. 10's don't work.
Secondly, get your hair cut every 2 weeks instead of once per month. You'll look better, feel better about yourself, and therefore exude more confidence. Additionally, you'll get to see the girl twice as often.
Third, doing a cycle of steroids isn't as bad as you think if you do it properly and don't over do it. I'm not encouraging you to do it, just putting it out there. Lots of dudes on the forum are on testosterone therapy. There's an entire thread about it. Look it up.
And finally, if the girl really and truly only likes muscle-heads, you're doomed, but I wouldn't accept that just because her friend said some stupid shit. Chicks say stupid shit all the time. Most girls don't have exclusive "types" of dudes and even if they do, they will venture outside that realm if they get gamed properly. How many times have you heard a girl say, "I'd NEVER date a black guy!" Then some suave brutha comes along and swoops her. If you're going to try to poach this girl from this guy, you're going to need more interaction with than 2 hours a month--a LOT more. Friend her on Facebook and start chatting there or (a little more ballsy) ask her--very nonchalantly--if she'd like to grab some lunch. Don't ask her to dinner, that has implications of a real date. Don't do that. Schedule your next haircut in the morning and casually ask if she'd like to grab some lunch with you when she gets her lunch break. Give yourself a false time constraint so she doesn't think you're going to talk her head off. Something like this: "Hey, I'm really busy so I can't spend a lot of time, but how about we grab a quick lunch this afternoon?"
I'd go with the Facebook game first. Or, figure out a way to ask her for her number like, "Mind if I grab your number so I can see when you're working in case I need an emergency hair clean-up?" Then you can very slowly, very methodically start text gaming her. At first, just send her a funny meme or something maybe once a week. See if that doesn't spark some conversation and casual chat.
She has a boyfriend, so you're gonna have to keep your frame tight. Not to mention he's huge and if you jump the gun and start hitting on her without her showing any interest in you, he might stomp your head in.
Give me some feedback if you follow my advice and how it works out for you. Good luck.
Secondly, get your hair cut every 2 weeks instead of once per month. You'll look better, feel better about yourself, and therefore exude more confidence. Additionally, you'll get to see the girl twice as often.
Third, doing a cycle of steroids isn't as bad as you think if you do it properly and don't over do it. I'm not encouraging you to do it, just putting it out there. Lots of dudes on the forum are on testosterone therapy. There's an entire thread about it. Look it up.
And finally, if the girl really and truly only likes muscle-heads, you're doomed, but I wouldn't accept that just because her friend said some stupid shit. Chicks say stupid shit all the time. Most girls don't have exclusive "types" of dudes and even if they do, they will venture outside that realm if they get gamed properly. How many times have you heard a girl say, "I'd NEVER date a black guy!" Then some suave brutha comes along and swoops her. If you're going to try to poach this girl from this guy, you're going to need more interaction with than 2 hours a month--a LOT more. Friend her on Facebook and start chatting there or (a little more ballsy) ask her--very nonchalantly--if she'd like to grab some lunch. Don't ask her to dinner, that has implications of a real date. Don't do that. Schedule your next haircut in the morning and casually ask if she'd like to grab some lunch with you when she gets her lunch break. Give yourself a false time constraint so she doesn't think you're going to talk her head off. Something like this: "Hey, I'm really busy so I can't spend a lot of time, but how about we grab a quick lunch this afternoon?"
I'd go with the Facebook game first. Or, figure out a way to ask her for her number like, "Mind if I grab your number so I can see when you're working in case I need an emergency hair clean-up?" Then you can very slowly, very methodically start text gaming her. At first, just send her a funny meme or something maybe once a week. See if that doesn't spark some conversation and casual chat.
She has a boyfriend, so you're gonna have to keep your frame tight. Not to mention he's huge and if you jump the gun and start hitting on her without her showing any interest in you, he might stomp your head in.
Give me some feedback if you follow my advice and how it works out for you. Good luck.
Facebook approach is for gays.... if you have the chance to see her in person talk to her. She may think you are without balls if you contact her on FB instead of talking...
Many girls that I know showed me thousands of messages of horny men the get on their socials ALL THE TIME, so it may happen that also she can't see your FB message, or can see it with 2 weeks delay. But as I told there is no a standard procedure.... do what can work for you.
Many girls that I know showed me thousands of messages of horny men the get on their socials ALL THE TIME, so it may happen that also she can't see your FB message, or can see it with 2 weeks delay. But as I told there is no a standard procedure.... do what can work for you.
My neighbour is like this.
She knocked on my door last month when my girlfriend was away because she needed to do her makeup and had a date. She got locked out so my place was the next logical step.
This was followed by her showing me pictures of this dude who looked like a fridge and explaining how she only goes for the buff guys.
This whole 30 minute interaction, with me working on some spreadsheets at my desk had her blabbering about why she likes these guys, what he does/is so cool and how she hates the whole process of putting on makeup.
Points of note:
- I infer she is insecure because she spent 30 minutes doing her makeup and straightening her hair (she was already dressed to the nines)
- she is a 6/10 and became quite hotter with the makeup which creates a self-perpetuating cycle of insecurity (crutch) -> this is why 6's and 7's are so hard, the sheer amount of time their looks to overcome that handicap gives them a false illusion of pickyness -> translates into entitlement and bitch walls (I didn't put an hour of my time into looking like this to bang -him-)
People are professionals at projecting their insecurities on others and as I wrote in the relationship thread, you attract what you are.
Well, courting women seek what they are and have a habit of sticking to the same kind of guys (their 'type'); this is something that's kinda bullshit as attraction doesn't discriminate.
Similar to a gambler/investor's 'escalating commitment', especially with women 25+ who have come out of bad relationships and go for the same kind of men.
Either way, don't stress about the type. Every interaction is intelligence gathering on the girl you are deciding if she is worth the intimacy/effort to fuck.
Given your interaction, think about all the different data you have collected (about her and yourself):
- she only goes for buff guys -> insecure (not necessarily aesthetic, she seeks feeling protected)
- if he really is on steroids etc. -> she's bad at making decisions that impact her crucial time before settling down
- her colleague/mate is disqualifying you outright -> she could be into you or just really honest
- you are comparing yourself to her current choice -> qualifying yourself as a potential partner (normal but within her frame and you even justify why you ain't on steroids)
Now, onto banging her.
1 hour per month is nothing, you're playing super long term. The simple amount of opportunities that will arise for 'buffman' mean that you have to increase the time you spend around this woman; even more so if she is into his 'type'.
Real talk, you shouldn't be writing about your hairdresser like this if indeed you spend an hour a month seeing her but let's lay it out.
You have to see her for more than an hour
If only an hour, you need to plant seeds and be patient (like 3+ months patient + 110% bang other girls during this time).
You need good conversational skills to direct the conversation into a timeline that you can work with.
You need to plant an anchor in the interaction so when you see her again, you can get her back in to the same emotional state to pick up where you left off.
Bonus points if you manage to get her looking forward to cutting your hair; be memorable and talk about fine line shit that can is ambiguous. The type that if she is a freak, she will think about freaky shit. Not there and then, when she is on her way home etc. You will know this if she takes control, the next time you visit; she will take an interest in you/your news and she will make an effort beyond hairdresser nosyness.
You need to use the above to set up a meet in another environment (builds trust) and somewhere you can play to your strengths. You can't touch her during a haircut. It's emasculating to think of because you're just sitting still and being touched without moving. So meet her somewhere you can actually apply game instead of verbal jiu jitsu.
There was a guy with excellent game who blessed us with a blog that's now defunct, Virgin Kent. He wrote about a thing called python game. Google it, you may come across it. You basically play the long term game and like a python, you constrict slowly. Graphic but it's a good analogy especially with your 1-hour a month allotment.
So figure out the cool shit she may be into and make it mutual, raise a call to action and still be sexy enough without body language to bang her while accepting you won't grow your hair out, ever, until you bang her.
I look forward to your monthly updates.
She knocked on my door last month when my girlfriend was away because she needed to do her makeup and had a date. She got locked out so my place was the next logical step.
This was followed by her showing me pictures of this dude who looked like a fridge and explaining how she only goes for the buff guys.
This whole 30 minute interaction, with me working on some spreadsheets at my desk had her blabbering about why she likes these guys, what he does/is so cool and how she hates the whole process of putting on makeup.
Points of note:
- I infer she is insecure because she spent 30 minutes doing her makeup and straightening her hair (she was already dressed to the nines)
- she is a 6/10 and became quite hotter with the makeup which creates a self-perpetuating cycle of insecurity (crutch) -> this is why 6's and 7's are so hard, the sheer amount of time their looks to overcome that handicap gives them a false illusion of pickyness -> translates into entitlement and bitch walls (I didn't put an hour of my time into looking like this to bang -him-)
People are professionals at projecting their insecurities on others and as I wrote in the relationship thread, you attract what you are.
Well, courting women seek what they are and have a habit of sticking to the same kind of guys (their 'type'); this is something that's kinda bullshit as attraction doesn't discriminate.
Similar to a gambler/investor's 'escalating commitment', especially with women 25+ who have come out of bad relationships and go for the same kind of men.
Either way, don't stress about the type. Every interaction is intelligence gathering on the girl you are deciding if she is worth the intimacy/effort to fuck.
Given your interaction, think about all the different data you have collected (about her and yourself):
- she only goes for buff guys -> insecure (not necessarily aesthetic, she seeks feeling protected)
- if he really is on steroids etc. -> she's bad at making decisions that impact her crucial time before settling down
- her colleague/mate is disqualifying you outright -> she could be into you or just really honest
- you are comparing yourself to her current choice -> qualifying yourself as a potential partner (normal but within her frame and you even justify why you ain't on steroids)
Now, onto banging her.
1 hour per month is nothing, you're playing super long term. The simple amount of opportunities that will arise for 'buffman' mean that you have to increase the time you spend around this woman; even more so if she is into his 'type'.
Real talk, you shouldn't be writing about your hairdresser like this if indeed you spend an hour a month seeing her but let's lay it out.
You have to see her for more than an hour
If only an hour, you need to plant seeds and be patient (like 3+ months patient + 110% bang other girls during this time).
You need good conversational skills to direct the conversation into a timeline that you can work with.
You need to plant an anchor in the interaction so when you see her again, you can get her back in to the same emotional state to pick up where you left off.
Bonus points if you manage to get her looking forward to cutting your hair; be memorable and talk about fine line shit that can is ambiguous. The type that if she is a freak, she will think about freaky shit. Not there and then, when she is on her way home etc. You will know this if she takes control, the next time you visit; she will take an interest in you/your news and she will make an effort beyond hairdresser nosyness.
You need to use the above to set up a meet in another environment (builds trust) and somewhere you can play to your strengths. You can't touch her during a haircut. It's emasculating to think of because you're just sitting still and being touched without moving. So meet her somewhere you can actually apply game instead of verbal jiu jitsu.
There was a guy with excellent game who blessed us with a blog that's now defunct, Virgin Kent. He wrote about a thing called python game. Google it, you may come across it. You basically play the long term game and like a python, you constrict slowly. Graphic but it's a good analogy especially with your 1-hour a month allotment.
So figure out the cool shit she may be into and make it mutual, raise a call to action and still be sexy enough without body language to bang her while accepting you won't grow your hair out, ever, until you bang her.
I look forward to your monthly updates.
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