Quote: (01-27-2018 08:04 AM)The Alpha Virgin Wrote:
Quote: (01-27-2018 12:04 AM)Dulceácido Wrote:
I see what you're saying. My validation, obviously, is getting the girl. What does that validate? The more than 20 PUA books I've studied religiously, all the time I devoted to learning these things, how it changed my life (for the better).
I have two guys that I'm reading onto Game. One guy has done a complete revolution in the way his life was going. He hadn't been laid in 3 years and after 3 months of me giving him tips, he has banged 3 chicks in the last two weeks. Game just changes your life in so many positive ways. The inner game part and just becoming a better person is a great feeling.
Are you saying it's more that you're proud of your own hard work and dedication to get out of your comfort-zone? I would get that and it seems reasonable to get validation from the fact that you've taken a lot of action.
But I suppose there's a difference too. Sometimes you can be on a dryspell for a very long time, just get rejections and have awful results with girls but still put in the hard work. Do you feel down and worse about yourself then?
I mean, if a guy builds his self-esteem on just the results with girls and getting external validation from western sluts women I think he is in for some problem.
Quote: (01-27-2018 03:32 AM)ShuaiGe Wrote:
Quote: (01-26-2018 11:30 PM)The Alpha Virgin Wrote:
Do you ever feel like a badass for fucking women like a badass?
Yes.
What kind of thread is this?
Ok I believe you. And here's actually a post I found from you (you don't have that many posts so was easy)...
Quote: (12-16-2017 11:50 AM)ShuaiGe Wrote:
I am beside myself right now I'm so happy, i have never had 3 new notches within a week. 14th of my life.
Also Today I woke up at a past girls house and we had sex just after waking up, so today is also my first time ever to have sex with two girls in one day. I'm pumped about it.
So it's clear to say that you are obviously very happy about yourself that women like you and you think it's absolutely fantastic how you managed to sleep with two seperate girls in one day. This external validation you get from women wanting to be with you makes you feel fulfilled in life.
But question is what kind of girls are the ones you're with really?
Are you getting validation from being able to sleep with a virtous, righteous girl with morals, no or low notch count who would almost never dream of having sex before marriage if it wasn't because she liked you for who you really was as a person?
I believe it would make more sense to be proud that so many good women wanted to sleep with you in particular then.
What I'm kind of guessing though is that you slept with girls who are what lot of guys on this forum and in general are complaining about - easy western sluts who has fucked a lot of other dudes besides you and choose their sex partners on shallow criterias.
What makes you really that unique or a badass then if many other men can already do the same thing?
Man, you're taking this shit too seriously.
Okay let's get deep.
I grew up in a home where religion was the foundation of everything, later I realized that the story Christianity doesn't make logical sense. despite my desire to believe that my life had God given meaning and my desire to believe in an afterlife, I lost that comfort, I lost that source of validation. In short, it was crushing because my life suddenly had "no meaning". But later I realized it's total bullshit to say that because life is so precious.
The important lesson I learned that allowed me to pull myself out of that feeling of emptiness was this: You give your own life meaning, you have value as a person because you say so, and that is irrefutable. I love myself because in my eyes I'm great, and due to us all equally having no God given value, there's nothing you can say that will convince me that what I consider important or validating isn't important and validating, including having sex with women.
Your original post sounds like you're suffering from that feeling of emptiness, and that's a very human thing to do so that's fine. But, what do you care why the people here are fucking? I certainly don't care why you are, but, @Alpha Virgin, I hope that you and I and everyone can improve our game of skill to get that girl into bed when she comes around. If something else is important to you, you should go diligently pursue that thing.
Finally, in my opinion, the best ways to demonstrate one's love for oneself is through self improvement. One of a handful of ways I like to demonstrate that self love is I hit the gym, because I believe that if I don't then I'm cheating myself out of what I deserve because I'm me and I say that I'm worth it.
Do this logic sound repetitive? That's because it is. It's a positive cycle and I encourage you to use it.
I believe I have value because I have value because I believe I have value because I have value because I believe I have value because I have value.
And anyone who wants to challenge that idea, they don't bother me at all, because they aren't where I get my sense of self worth from. My actual reason I'm trying this out is to help you or someone out there reading this, so you're welcome, @Alpha Virgin.