My first reaction was what the fuck?
My game is about as chill as you can be,
"Hey, hows your night?"
That's my opener.
If girls bite, we talk. If not I dip and tell them to enjoy their night.
Simple as that.
So anyway, I like this bar it has a good vibe and the people are for the most part cool (albiet hipsters) I know some of the staff but this one cat, seems to have it out for me.
I went there tonight after seeing a garbage burlesque show and I saw two girls who seemed cool. I went up, said "hows your night" and we started talking. Her one friend started puking (she was underage lollll) and I grabbed the others number, clearly she was into me.
There was another girl there, with her boyfriend, the boyfriend went to take a piss and I grabbed a chair and purposely sat as far away from the girl as possible and we started talking about the girl that just threw up all over the place. She was laughing, the conversation had a good vibe and I had 0 intentions of picking her up I was just being social.
Mid-way through conversation, the bartender tells me to see him so I do. The boyfriend comes back and looks like he wants to fight me. I sort of wish he did, he was easily 200lbs and I'm 150 on a good day. Go ahead..fight me, prove to your girlfriend that you are intimidated by a 150lb guy. Anyways..
This was what the bartender said to me.
"Hey man, what's your deal you talk to every girl here don't you see she has a boyfriend, I've had girls complain about you and if it keeps up you will have to leave."
Straight up, this shocked me.
I told him, look dude I like girls. I'm not gonna bullshit you. Then I asked him what the girls looked like that "complained"
Told me he doesn't remember....yea right.
Then he said my approach was "aggressive"
Then he told me this bar doesn't deal with problems, we remove them.
Alright...
I'm just sort of confused.
A) I don't talk to every bloody girl at the bar. If a group or girl seems cool, I'll talk to them. Simple as that.
B) My opener is "hows your night?". How is that aggressive? I'd understand if I said, "I want to fuck you" or something else, but how the fuck is "hows your night?" aggressive.
This just seems silly. I can look from his perspective and see where he's coming from..but is talking to a girl really a big deal? It seems petty honestly.
Did girls really go up to the bartender and say "this guy is making me uncomfortable?" , I'll admit my game isn't amazing but I can't think of any instance where I felt the girl was uncomfortable. I usually dip before shit gets to that point.
The funny thing is, I thought this bartender was a cool cat I thought he knew the game and so on. Now I have my doubts. I wonder if he's just jealous and a pussy white knight.
He's been there for a very long time and I'm in a smallish town. Word will travel fast, if I fuck things up here then there goes my ability to lock down the bars which is why I didn't call him out tonight. Plus, it's a very popular bar with the girls I'm into. If I get banned, it's gonna fuck things up.
I'm pretty new to night game, I'm sure this isn't an uncommon thing so I want other cats to weigh in.
What's the move? Stop talking to girls at this bar? What if word has travelled? How do I avoid this in other bars? Maybe I need to use nightlife for dates, instead of meeting girls.
Part of me wishes I had 3 models at my disposal right now to bring to this bar and give this guy a big fuck you in the best way possible, but unfortunately I don't.
Anyways, whats your opinions?
My game is about as chill as you can be,
"Hey, hows your night?"
That's my opener.
If girls bite, we talk. If not I dip and tell them to enjoy their night.
Simple as that.
So anyway, I like this bar it has a good vibe and the people are for the most part cool (albiet hipsters) I know some of the staff but this one cat, seems to have it out for me.
I went there tonight after seeing a garbage burlesque show and I saw two girls who seemed cool. I went up, said "hows your night" and we started talking. Her one friend started puking (she was underage lollll) and I grabbed the others number, clearly she was into me.
There was another girl there, with her boyfriend, the boyfriend went to take a piss and I grabbed a chair and purposely sat as far away from the girl as possible and we started talking about the girl that just threw up all over the place. She was laughing, the conversation had a good vibe and I had 0 intentions of picking her up I was just being social.
Mid-way through conversation, the bartender tells me to see him so I do. The boyfriend comes back and looks like he wants to fight me. I sort of wish he did, he was easily 200lbs and I'm 150 on a good day. Go ahead..fight me, prove to your girlfriend that you are intimidated by a 150lb guy. Anyways..
This was what the bartender said to me.
"Hey man, what's your deal you talk to every girl here don't you see she has a boyfriend, I've had girls complain about you and if it keeps up you will have to leave."
Straight up, this shocked me.
I told him, look dude I like girls. I'm not gonna bullshit you. Then I asked him what the girls looked like that "complained"
Told me he doesn't remember....yea right.
Then he said my approach was "aggressive"
Then he told me this bar doesn't deal with problems, we remove them.
Alright...
I'm just sort of confused.
A) I don't talk to every bloody girl at the bar. If a group or girl seems cool, I'll talk to them. Simple as that.
B) My opener is "hows your night?". How is that aggressive? I'd understand if I said, "I want to fuck you" or something else, but how the fuck is "hows your night?" aggressive.
This just seems silly. I can look from his perspective and see where he's coming from..but is talking to a girl really a big deal? It seems petty honestly.
Did girls really go up to the bartender and say "this guy is making me uncomfortable?" , I'll admit my game isn't amazing but I can't think of any instance where I felt the girl was uncomfortable. I usually dip before shit gets to that point.
The funny thing is, I thought this bartender was a cool cat I thought he knew the game and so on. Now I have my doubts. I wonder if he's just jealous and a pussy white knight.
He's been there for a very long time and I'm in a smallish town. Word will travel fast, if I fuck things up here then there goes my ability to lock down the bars which is why I didn't call him out tonight. Plus, it's a very popular bar with the girls I'm into. If I get banned, it's gonna fuck things up.
I'm pretty new to night game, I'm sure this isn't an uncommon thing so I want other cats to weigh in.
What's the move? Stop talking to girls at this bar? What if word has travelled? How do I avoid this in other bars? Maybe I need to use nightlife for dates, instead of meeting girls.
Part of me wishes I had 3 models at my disposal right now to bring to this bar and give this guy a big fuck you in the best way possible, but unfortunately I don't.
Anyways, whats your opinions?