I just had dinner with my friend/wingman. We talked a bit about the fact that my approaches have gone way down. I told him about a girl I met while waiting outside my professor's office last Monday. I could tell she was sexually aroused and found me attractive. We wound up having coffee after we met with our professor. Granted now I had stayed home from work that day due to a miserable cold but while I was having coffee with her I became acutely self-conscious of how I was turning this girl off completely in spite of myself. We talked about this a bit, he suggested it was an inner game issue.
We parted ways he went home and I went to our usual practice bar/beer garden which had a good number of women who presented themselves well enough for me to find attractive and interesting, however the most I could manage to do was tell a only one girl I liked her coat, in spite of the fact that I observed signs of interest such as hair touching after making eye contact from more than one woman. This doesn't feel like approach anxiety it feels more like approach paralysis. While I was sitting against the back wall completely alone it occurred to me that the reason why I was unable to approach anyone was probably because deep down I consider myself superior to them in some way shape or form, and the thought of being socially rejected by them is something I'm unwittingly trying to protect my ego from. The game hasn't been fun, all I've been experiencing lately have been unpleasant realizations about myself such as these, which I've never had much difficulty coming up with on my own.
This sux,
Scud
We parted ways he went home and I went to our usual practice bar/beer garden which had a good number of women who presented themselves well enough for me to find attractive and interesting, however the most I could manage to do was tell a only one girl I liked her coat, in spite of the fact that I observed signs of interest such as hair touching after making eye contact from more than one woman. This doesn't feel like approach anxiety it feels more like approach paralysis. While I was sitting against the back wall completely alone it occurred to me that the reason why I was unable to approach anyone was probably because deep down I consider myself superior to them in some way shape or form, and the thought of being socially rejected by them is something I'm unwittingly trying to protect my ego from. The game hasn't been fun, all I've been experiencing lately have been unpleasant realizations about myself such as these, which I've never had much difficulty coming up with on my own.
This sux,
Scud