[balistik12345]

Hello guys. I have been lurking on this forum for awhile now getting inspired as well as gathering tools and putting them to use out in the field. I'm 33 (but I've been telling the young chics I'm 23) recently divorced. Now I'm back in college while working fulltime and trying to once again enter the field of hunting for pussy. Right now I need some specific advice. Please help.

There is an 18 yr old chic in my college english class whom I purposefully began sitting next to and making small talk with. A couple days ago I asked for her help on a paper and she went out of her way to help me on it. She basically created the entire template I needed to properly format my essay. She then gave me her number in the email she sent me and told me to contact her if I have any questions. Next time I see her in class she is tired from staying up till 3am working on hmwk. So I invite her to starbucks after class for coffee. We talk and hangout for about 2 hrs. In which she tells me she has a BF. I ignore it for the most part but I ask her some logistical questions about where he is etc... He is 2 hrs away at another college but they see each other once a week. So I tell her we should hangout again and I tell her I will text her later.

Here are the texts:

Me: Did you survive music class?

Her: Lol barely. There is this terribly annoying guy in there that really likes to push everyones buttons, and my patience for it is wearing thin. But yeah i did and escaped to some chicken alfredo.

M: Yum. Im hungry. Who cooked?

H: Me, I had to cook it first, but it was worth it.

M: Oh cool. You can cook. You are talented Im going to make myself some chicken tacos. Do you want to come over and check out my cool pad. You can listen to my awesome playlist or throw on a movie from my extensive library.

H: Honestly I would love to that sounds fun, but I think i'm gonna stay home tonight. I've got some stuff that I need to get done before tomorrow. I'm sorry Maybe tomorrow though after i get off work.

M: That's cool. Im going to get some rest and be fresh for my game tomorrow. What time do you get off?

H: Oh yeah, good luck tomorrow! I get off at 5.

M: I'm sore from my game. come over and keep me company. We can make each others evening more interesting. I'll cook you dinner.

H: i actually already ate, i was starving after work and got some chick fillet. How did your game go?

M: It was good. We played 2 won 1. I threw 2 TD's. But really I'm just trying to get you to come over and hang out. I enjoyed our convo Friday and wanted to continue.

H: Can i ask you somethin first?

M: Yea

H: We're hangin out strictly as friends right? I mainly ask bc other guys have tried to "hang out" and they tried takin it too far, and I have a bf that i'm in love with and i will not do anything to ruin our relationship. I mean i'm not assuming that you will i just want to be sure.

M: I'll be honest I think your attractive but I have had many attractive platonic female friends in the past so I will respect your boundaries and keep it strictly friends. Right now Im just trying to meet and get to know people in the area and I think your cool to hang with.

H: Ok sounds good where do you live? I might be able to come.
(i then give her directions)
H: Ok. I can't stay long though bc i've got loads of hw to work on :/
M: Ok that works
H: Ok, i just have to do a few things online real quick and ill let you know when i'm on my way. Does that work?
M: ok

I know I might have already fucked it up but how should I proceed? How should I interepret this situation? Right now I don't know many people in my area at all so I thought maybe she can at least become apart of my small cirlce and possibly I can get in hers.

Please critique my texts also. I have made it to texting with many females (from meeting them online and in person) but many times end up fumbling. Lately my strategy is just pushing to get them over my house. So far no success.

Thanks for help and input.

[moneysexpower]

You'll need to cool off.

You're now essentially in a 'slow burn' so If she comes over do not make any moves and pay as little attention as possible to her and her comfort. She expecting you to make sexual moves on her dispite what was said so its important that you are not predictitable. No kino, nothing. If she doesn't come over to your place keep up the friendly banter in class but begin to cool off but not overtly...She will begin to question why you're not hitting on her and whether or not there is something wrong with her or she'll realize that she misses your attention so see if she trys to WIN BACK your attention after you've cooled it off, reward her good behavior with your attention.
See if she gets jealous when you flirt with other girls.

You may have to just move on if she just won't cheat on her boyfriend. Use her to pick up other women. Then again, she's 18, and very impressionable so make her laugh and do not talk about her boyfriend. You'll feel it when she's ready.

Question: why not hide the fact that you're 33? Age won't scare anyone, in fact college maybe the first time an 18 yr old chick can freely experiment with an "older man".

Also, since this is a slow burn, maybe go buy Robert Greene's 'The Art of Seduction' and see if you can pin point her personality type, create tri-angles, contradict...etc etc

[tenderman100]

She's obviously conflicted. She likes you, but feels she needs to be monogamous.

Get her isolated at your place, and do kino escalation. Alcohol is great to lubricate. Neg her playfully. "I'm cooking for you, isn't that you're job?" "Boy every time I've asked you to get together, it's work work work. You sure having fun like this is OK or are you really letting yourself down here."

At some point, you might say, "You know, ever since I sat down next to you, I imagined that we'd be here, laughing, touching (you touch her) enjoying each other's company. I never want to impose...but I have to say I want to REALLY enjoy each other's company."

[moneysexpower]

ha, of course, two seemingly contradictory posts written at the same time.
Yes she is conflicted, however, it sounds like this will take more than one occassion were the two of them are alone were kino escalation will work. Her Anti Slut Defense will be in high gear the first time she comes over and Buyers Remore could prevent her from coming over again if she gets all hot & horny, but not hot & horny enough to fuck. So Mr. Bailistick123 will have to pay very close attention to whether or not she's reciprocating kino's before he escalates.

Which is why I say to step back, play on her young emotions during the day until it drives her crazy. She'll invite herself over when she's ready to put herself in a situation where she'll know that the man will take her further over the line than she is herself.

[Smitty]

"Do you want to come over and check out my cool pad. You can listen to my awesome playlist or throw on a movie from my extensive library."

I don't think you should ever say anything like that again. Purge that type of talk from your mind. Cool pad, awesome playlist, extensive library. You're trying to impress her but it comes off as pathetic.
You'll get many takes on this but my opinion is that girls who are in love (or who THINK they're in love) are doable, but you need to take it a little slower and show her you're "different." She doesn't seem like an overt whore, so you need to take some time and show her that she does indeed have an inner whore. Be cool, laid back and don't push anything. She'll drop her pants a lot quicker.

But for the love of God, stop trying to impress her with your "cool" pad.

[BLarsen]

I'm paraphrasing a line from Iceberg Slim's book "Pimp"

"the way you start with a bitch is the way you end with a bitch."

You just agreed to be her friend, so... thats that.

I recommend u read that book, it's great.

[balistik12345]

Thanks for the replies. She came over only stayed for an hr. I kept my word and kept my hands off her except for a bullshit hug before she left. She sent me a text today saying that she probably wont be coming back over because she felt awkward since the only guys house she ever goes to is her boyfriend. She said she hopes she didn't offend me blah blah etc...

Looking back now maybe I should have played the game slower but it was at the very least the first time I got a chic in my house since my wife and I split. According to your comments it sounds like I agreed to put myself in the friend zone too so that was another fuck up. I have alot to learn and much trial and error but I'm going to keep moving forward till I get this down to a science.

[balistik12345]

(09-18-2011 02:04 PM)BLarsen Wrote:  

I'm paraphrasing a line from Iceberg Slim's book "Pimp"

"the way you start with a bitch is the way you end with a bitch."

You just agreed to be her friend, so... thats that.

I recommend u read that book, it's great.

That shits deep right there. Lesson learned.

[balistik12345]

(09-17-2011 10:34 PM)Smitty Wrote:  

"Do you want to come over and check out my cool pad. You can listen to my awesome playlist or throw on a movie from my extensive library."

I don't think you should ever say anything like that again. Purge that type of talk from your mind. Cool pad, awesome playlist, extensive library. You're trying to impress her but it comes off as pathetic.
You'll get many takes on this but my opinion is that girls who are in love (or who THINK they're in love) are doable, but you need to take it a little slower and show her you're "different." She doesn't seem like an overt whore, so you need to take some time and show her that she does indeed have an inner whore. Be cool, laid back and don't push anything. She'll drop her pants a lot quicker.

But for the love of God, stop trying to impress her with your "cool" pad.

I was actually being sarcastic and trying to make it obvious that I just wanted to get her to my place but she didn't bite. She probably didn't even catch the sarcasm. Your input is taken and I appreciate it. I've been out of this shit so long. I know my game sounds lame. I'm working on it.