[Vill@in]

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In our current political climate, the term "cuck" -- short for "cuckservative" -- has become an insult of the so-called alt-right, aimed at men they view as spineless and emasculated. The slur has its roots in the concept of cuckolding, or having an adulterous partner.

But, according to a recent study by David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cuckolding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples, and hardly a sign of weakness.

References to cuckolding appear in literature as early as the 13th century, usually in the form of male characters who fear that their child has been sired by another man during an act of infidelity. Today, however, cuckolding has become fetishized into a powerful sexual fantasy for some men, who get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. Women also share this fantasy, but less so than men.

"This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality," said Ley, whose book "Insatiable Wives" addresses cuckolding in heterosexual couples. "But we're hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy."

Indeed, the numbers suggest that cuckolding, or at least thinking about it, is more common than you might imagine. For his forthcoming book, "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life," Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and found that 58% of men and about a third of women had fantasized about cuckolding.

"Men are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding, and they do it more often -- but there are a number of women who have these fantasies as well, which points to the need for more research focused on women's cuckolding desires," Lehmiller said.

Initially viewed as a heterosexual phenomenon, it's increasingly prevalent among gay men, too. "I'd long gotten letters from straight couples into cuckolding (usually initiated by the husband), but none from gay couples until after marriage equality began to gather steam," explained writer and activist Savage. To learn more, Savage joined with Lehmiller and Ley for a study of cuckolding fantasies and experiences in 580 gay men.

Their findings suggest that there are similarities between the way gay and straight men view cuckolding, but clear differences, too. Most notably, interracial and BDSM themes don't appear to be as common in gay men's cuckolding fantasies as they are among heterosexual men. The motivations behind these fantasies may also be different.

Part of what makes cuckolding arousing for heterosexual men is that they tend to view it as a taboo act. "In a society or culture that idealizes monogamy, the cuckold fantasy is a current narrative that is available to people to conceptualize their sexual fantasies," said Ley.

But that may not be an influence for everyone. "For gay men, cuckolding isn't quite as taboo because the norm of lifelong monogamy isn't so strong in the LGBT community; however, it can still be arousing for a number of other reasons," said Lehmiller. For instance, fantasies about voyeurism and group sex seem to overlap with those about cuckolding in these men. "It's a sexual desire that can be easily customized to meet a wide range of sexual needs and desires, whether it's taboo sex, novelty, voyeurism or something else," he told me.

And the emotions surrounding seeing your partner with someone else can add to the turn-on, explained Savage. "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation or denial," he said. "Our erotic imaginations have the ability to turn shame lemons into delicious kink lemonade."

As a sex therapist, one of the more intriguing findings from this study involves the impact of cuckolding on relationships.

"Overall, our research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behavior," said Ley. "It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one's partner." But there's an important caveat, added Lehmiller. "We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cuckolding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues, who lack intimacy and communication, and who aren't careful, detail-oriented planners, acting on a consensual non-monogamy fantasy could very well be a negative experience," he said. "In other words, not everyone who has a cuckolding fantasy should think about acting on it."

Remember that sometimes just sharing a sexy thought can be arousing enough -- you don't have to follow through. If you are thinking about acting on a cuckolding fantasy, it's worth stepping back first and making sure your relationship is in a good place and that you have strong sexual communication skills.

"For men and couples considering the issue of cuckolding, it's important there be honesty, integrity, communication, mutuality and shared values," advised Ley. "I've seen men who try to trick their wives into cuckolding them, and this never, ever ends up well."

For couples who do decide to move forward, it's important to take things slow. "The reality of watching your spouse have sex with someone else -- or knowing they're doing it, if you're not there -- is often very different than the fantasy. It can dredge up powerful emotions, so take baby steps and keep talking and communicating," said Savage. "That said, the rewards can be amazing, according to couples who have successfully folded cuckold play into their relationships."

https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/25/health/cu...index.html

[Robert High Hawk]

"Delicious kink lemonade."

That doesn't sound very yummy at all.

[Jetset]

(01-25-2018 09:47 AM)Vill@in Wrote:  

But, according to a recent study by David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cuckolding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples, and hardly a sign of weakness.

Well, no shit. I'm guessing that having a woman act on the man's fantasies is almost always a good way to keep him interested.

This is probably equally true of men who have cuckolding fantasies, of men who want her to dress up like a French maid to do the dishes, and of men who want her to bring home a busty, bi-curious sorority girl with no gag reflex. Keep his balls empty and do it with a smile and you probably won't end up on the curb next to a box of other unwanted household items. The real takeaway here: "If he tells you he wants something in bed, get over yourself and do it. It can strengthen your relationship."

The question is why men who have cuckolding fantasies have them, as opposed to all the other fantasies in the world.

[Vill@in]

Ways to a man's heart:

Beginning of Time-2013: Suck his dick.

2013-2018: Suck another's man's dick in front of him and humiliate him.

[Sam Malone]

[Easy_C]

It being more common is no surprise. Most men have spent countless hours having their brains trained to get off to watching someone else bang a chick they find attractive as they watch.

[nomadbrah]

Not surprised

[yankeetravels]

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Fuck my life I gotta learn how to get these gifs directly here but the link is accurate to this article

[Leonard D Neubache]

(01-25-2018 10:16 AM)Easy_C Wrote:  

It being more common is no surprise. Most men have spent countless hours having their brains trained to get off to watching someone else bang a chick they find attractive as they watch.

Lads, if you absolutely gotta watch that shit, watch POV stuff exclusively.

[captain_shane]

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But, according to a recent study by David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cuckolding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples, and hardly a sign of weakness.

These people have an obvious agenda.

Here's David Ley:

Here are some article headlines from Lehmiller's website:

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Porn Use Is Linked To Lower Sexual Satisfaction In Men—But Only If They’re Religious

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What Was Popular In Porn In 2017?

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Straight Men’s Same-Sex Friendships Are Surprisingly Intimate

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Monogamy Can’t Be Assumed—It Needs To Be Negotiated And Defined

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Porn Isn’t The Reason Millennials Are Having Less Sex

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Till Porn Do Us Part: Why You Should Be Skeptical of the New Study Claiming Porn Kills Love

And some from Dan Savage's website:

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Savage Love Letter of the Day: Fuck Me With a Harness, Dude

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Savage Love Letter of the Day: Hairy Shithole

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Fragile Masculinity Watch

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South African Judge Refuses to Allow a Gay Couple to Adopt

All three are faggots trying to subvert hetero relationships.

[DamienCasanova]

Not surprised this shit came from CNN, they are officially the Cuck News Network now.

[RoastBeefCurtains4Me]

The article is true, in the sense that there are men who actually get off on knowing their wife is out getting fucked, or on going to a swinger party and actually seeing her get fucked. However, these men are all losers.

As Leonard and Easy_C point out, men have been conditioned to be turned on by this stuff in porn for a number of years. There may be some natural built-in wiring for some people to be turned on by this kind of thing, but the real life practice of it has certainly been enhanced by portrayals of it in porn, movies, fetish websites, and all kinds of other areas.

Swingers have been a known thing in America at least for 50 years or more. My Grandpa had coworkers trying to get him into the swinging scene back in the 60's. He was a committed Christian, and had nothing to do with it. He finally moved to a different office to get away from it. Swinging has been a primary storyline in porn scenes from the beginning. It's no wonder that anyone with the slightest inclination towards that kind of thing has been conditioned to try it, then keep doing it again.

One thing is for sure. The idea of being a cuck is a fetishization of being a loser. A winning man doesn't share his women, they share him. Any kind of cuckery is all about getting turned on by having a more dominant man fuck your woman. That's strictly for betas and losers. Not for red pill men whatsoever.

[Blancpain]

I hate fapping to porn and always use my imagination, maybe thats why I never had a fucked up fantasy like this. The minute I need some visuals I go to my thaifriendly profile and message bunch of women.

[EndsExpect]

(01-25-2018 09:54 AM)Jetset Wrote:  

The question is why men who have cuckolding fantasies have them, as opposed to all the other fantasies in the world.

I had this question too so I turned to Google and looked around. Current Psychological research shows that the top reason for Cuckolding fantasies is that the man is Bi-sexual. He wants to suck that dick and get pounded in the ass, and he get's off imagining himself in his wife's position.

The second set of guys that enjoy cuckolding enjoy it because it affirms to him that his wife is desirable and attractive. This subset is why so many cuckold's wives are old and fat. After a cuckold session they report experiencing higher attraction levels to their wife and better sex.

If you look outside of porn... at the actual couples that are into this shit, you will find 9/10 women are below a 4.

[RIslander]

The author is Ian Kerner. Guess his religion.

[gework]

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The question is why men who have cuckolding fantasies have them, as opposed to all the other fantasies in the world.

(01-25-2018 11:21 AM)EndsExpect Wrote:  

I had this question too so I turned to Google and looked around. Current Psychological research shows that the top reason for Cuckolding fantasies is that the man is Bi-sexual; the second set of guys that enjoy cuckolding enjoy it because it affirms to him that his wife is desirable.

That's what I was also thinking, but my search mainly threw up people saying it's completely normal. It's just a personal preference and we shouldn't assume any deep underlying issues.

There's probably a lot of themes at play, but the deepest would be from Freud's theory on psycho-sexual development. During the early stages the child wants to posses the mother but realises they can't compete for her with the father. These early desires need to be broken down. If they're not they linger into adulthood in things like the Oedipus complex. If you remain stuck in the particularly infantile stages you're going to be left all your life accepting that some other guy should be in your house, all the time, fucking your wife. I think that is the deep basis and there's a whole lot of other factors you can dump on top of it, such as coming from a home where the mother made all the decisions. I see it as in the same category as other destructive behaviours such as drug abuse and cutting your wrists. These are all dysfunctional, self-destructive outlets for problems that have a therapeutic affect. It's easier to let yourself slide down hill and not look at what you are when some tub is wanking on your wife's face while you're in the corner in your cock cage.

Looking at cases of cuckoldry reported in the media the pattern seems to be fat slobs who do little to make themselves more attractive, a wife who think she's a 7+, a lower peg slob husband and a slight upgrade for her stunt cock:



Husband on the right.

As for why the mainstream media are now regularly glorifying such things. I think the main theme is jealous men who can't come to terms with the fact that this is not them:



using their fake news platform to warp the culture to be more suitable to them.

[loremipsum]

(01-25-2018 09:57 AM)Vill@in Wrote:  

Ways to a man's heart:

Beginning of Time-2013: Suck his dick.

2013-2018: Suck another's man's dick in front of him and humiliate him.

Soros must be laughing his ass off. Plan succeeded.

Oh well, more pussy for jerkboys. I'd just rather not have the western civilization collapsing on the side.

[eskimobobseal]

So, it isn't enough for this pathetic excuse of a "news" network to run anti-Trump propaganda 24/7. Now they're promoting cuckoldry as trendy and cool.

I guess I shouldn't be surprised, given that CNN's viewership consists of a bunch of limp-wristed, soy-boy faggot leftists who'd probably enjoy the idea of an openly cheating wife.

[Vladimir Poontang]

Why is it always the ugly people.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Dan Savage is a cuck (heh) par extraordinaire. All of the leftists in my family/social circle adore his "life-changing love and sex talks".

[debeguiled]

(01-25-2018 02:26 PM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

Dan Savage is a cuck (heh) par extraordinaire. All of the leftists in my family/social circle adore his "life-changing love and sex talks".

His columns are unreadable for the hamstering. He has no concept of family, country, philosophy, truth, fidelity, anything.

He has reduced everything down to a single prime mover for the human spirit, and it is not love or meaning.

He preaches constantly that as long as you are getting what you want in bed, life is working. That is the main thing. Get that right, treat it as a priority.

He has coined an acronym to describe the superior individual: GGG.

It stands for Good, Giving, and Game. For Savage, this theory has supplanted all of Western Civilization. There is no honor, there is no sacrifice (Especially not when it comes to having your fantasies fulfilled.), there is no wisdom, no canon, no accumulated culture.

For him it all begins and ends with the groin.

So it is not surprising he has good things to say about cucking.

[Rush87]

[CynicalContrarian]

If the Left / Regressive crowd want to put their beloved natural selection into action.

Not too inclined to stop an enemy from making a mistake of sorts...

[Kurgan]

Thank you CNN for reminding me why I don't watch your network.

[RawGod]

What kind of plan for a happy, fulfilling life path including sex, relationships, parenting and career is a "normal" person supposed to have at this point? I mean, take the average person who imbibes the conventional wisdom from the media, education system, and peers. They can expect just what exactly? There is no path that is somewhat encouraged or assumed that leads to anything like good long-term outcomes. To have any sense of emotional stability, or positive identity, you must grab the bull by the horns and become part of the top 10%, or try to muddle through and either get lucky or be destroyed, with no children, secure old age, or sense of community.

It's all going down, right now. We're not in the stage of warning that something terrible may happen to society, the freefall is here.