I dislike snooping through phones and second guessing red flags. I just try to get her to tell me everything.
I think the trick here is to be unreactive or even welcoming to her red flag behavior. That's how you get all the dirt. Girls only lie if they think they will be judged. If you come across completely non judgemental, you won't even have to dig. She will tell you everything.
I was seeing an 18 year old recently for a few months. When the topic came up on relationships, she glossed over the fact that she was "young" and that she had dated "quite a lot" of guys for an 18 year old. This was a test obviously.
I just said, "Well, one of my best friends lost her virginity when she was 13 and she's really mature and amazing...I actually admire her..I tell her everything...bla bla."
Something like that.
Obviously I don't have a friend like that, I just made it up. Your tone of voice and body language is probably even more important.
After disarming her with more comments like this, she actually felt like her slutty past would raise her value in my eyes, so she started telling me everything. She lost her virginity at 14 to a 35 year old married guy and was his side chick for a year. She used to sneak out after her parents fell asleep and fuck him in his car outside their house. She told me every detail. That was her first "relationship". She told me about her random fuckbuddies, all her exes, how many dicks she'd had. All the way up to the "anal Christmas sex" she had with an ex because she was horny, about 2 months before we met.
The whole time I didn't flinch, just kept the act going.
"Oh that's cool. Did you have fun? Sounds like a cool guy."
"Why do you feel bad about it? You shouldn't. Everyone does that, it's normal."
Every time she told me a story and I just said whatever I could to make her feel good about herself.
By the end of the week she had told me her entire past, thinking I admired her for being so "experienced". All I was doing was screening her for LTR material; which she clearly wasn't. But you can never find this stuff out by asking directly. Every girl lies about her cock count when asked directly. You need to make them want to tell you. I had been spending a lot of time with this girl, but after hearing her past slut stories I was able to make a decision that I would never let it get serious. Nexted her after a few months.
This has held true for all girls I interact with, whether they are LTRs, fuckbuddies or just regular female friends.
Most guys get butthurt when a girl brings up this stuff. "Oh my... Did you go down on him? How many guys have you slept with?? That's kind of a lot!"
If you act like that, she's not telling you shit. She'll just lie and never bring it up again. Try the opposite and you won't need to dig for anything, she'll give it all to you.
I think the trick here is to be unreactive or even welcoming to her red flag behavior. That's how you get all the dirt. Girls only lie if they think they will be judged. If you come across completely non judgemental, you won't even have to dig. She will tell you everything.
I was seeing an 18 year old recently for a few months. When the topic came up on relationships, she glossed over the fact that she was "young" and that she had dated "quite a lot" of guys for an 18 year old. This was a test obviously.
I just said, "Well, one of my best friends lost her virginity when she was 13 and she's really mature and amazing...I actually admire her..I tell her everything...bla bla."
Something like that.
Obviously I don't have a friend like that, I just made it up. Your tone of voice and body language is probably even more important.
After disarming her with more comments like this, she actually felt like her slutty past would raise her value in my eyes, so she started telling me everything. She lost her virginity at 14 to a 35 year old married guy and was his side chick for a year. She used to sneak out after her parents fell asleep and fuck him in his car outside their house. She told me every detail. That was her first "relationship". She told me about her random fuckbuddies, all her exes, how many dicks she'd had. All the way up to the "anal Christmas sex" she had with an ex because she was horny, about 2 months before we met.
The whole time I didn't flinch, just kept the act going.
"Oh that's cool. Did you have fun? Sounds like a cool guy."
"Why do you feel bad about it? You shouldn't. Everyone does that, it's normal."
Every time she told me a story and I just said whatever I could to make her feel good about herself.
By the end of the week she had told me her entire past, thinking I admired her for being so "experienced". All I was doing was screening her for LTR material; which she clearly wasn't. But you can never find this stuff out by asking directly. Every girl lies about her cock count when asked directly. You need to make them want to tell you. I had been spending a lot of time with this girl, but after hearing her past slut stories I was able to make a decision that I would never let it get serious. Nexted her after a few months.
This has held true for all girls I interact with, whether they are LTRs, fuckbuddies or just regular female friends.
Most guys get butthurt when a girl brings up this stuff. "Oh my... Did you go down on him? How many guys have you slept with?? That's kind of a lot!"
If you act like that, she's not telling you shit. She'll just lie and never bring it up again. Try the opposite and you won't need to dig for anything, she'll give it all to you.
