Introduction
Long time lurker, first time poster.
As this counts as my introduction to the forum, I may as well write up a little background on myself.
As above, I've been "on" the forum for around 7 years after being introduced to Roosh by my Dad. Back then, I spent most my early days - when I was a teenager - in the Lifestyle section. I credit that forum and the posters to a huge portion of where my life is today.
I'm self-employed, live life on as much of my own terms as possible and I'm in the best shape of my life.
(Slight detour - just some of the things I've picked up on the Lifestyle forum (before it was called 'Life') include: fixing a nagging muscle injury because of a simple warmup stretch I've never seen anywhere else, getting the direction that's led to where my career is today, style advice, and much more. I think my next new thread will compile the most important parts I implemented when I was a teenager, so others can get the same kick-start but in one place.)
As for game, I've been developing some kind of fundamental proficiency since school. My introspective nature and self-improvement bent has meant I've improved my game by trial and error.
Since I discovered RVF all those years ago, I've been in a couple LTRs for a total of 6 years. So really anything game-related I've looked at here has been with a focus on LTR management (before the Family forum).
As of September/October 2017, I've been single and more focused on game than ever. Details on my successes since are below.
I'm journaling my approaches/failures/successes here for a number of reasons:
Statesman's Logistics and Info
- I'm in one of the top 10 largest cities in the UK (not London) with a population of 400,000+. There's two large universities here and a thriving "young culture".
- Self-employed and work from my laptop. Most of my game is focused on day gaming. It fits with my lifestyle.
- Low-mid twenties. 5ft 10. Fairly good-looking. In decent shape (not jacked, but not out of shape at all). My most attractive feature is probably my smile (I didn't say I'd stop brown-nosing myself...).
- I live around 20 mins from the centre of the city, however I'm close to a lively road and there's plenty of students around.
- Big fan of travel - and now that I'm single I intend to travel a lot more.
- My style tends to be simple. Good-fitting jeans, t-shirt and high quality shoes. I'd say I'm closer to "pretty boy" than "rugged man" because of genetics, but my aim is always to dress (and hold a posture) in a way that conveys masculinity. It isn't hard, because my city's style isn't masculine. And that's why I do it. To stand out.
What Statesman's Game Looks Like - a Self-Assessment
Right off the bat, I'd say my biggest strength is gaming women when they're comfortable with me (with the caveat that there's always room for improvement) and my biggest weakness is approaching.
For the former, I take the piss. A lot. I'm able to display high value because of my life (I'm out the house and around my city 2-3 days a week, closing business deals, successful projects, etc.) I also think I'm able to balance the game/comfort stuff quite well too.
For the latter, I can really easily talk myself out of it. I'm still new to cold approaching, but it's definitely something I'm developing systems for fixing (i.e. starting the day socially, trying to talk to as many people as possible etc).
Since dedicating myself to learning and improving my game, my efforts have mostly been split between Tinder and day game. With a small amount of night game.
Here's how that's broken down in terms of lays:
Tinder: 3
Day game: 1
Night game: 1
Other social: 2
As of right now my two focuses are:
1. More day game approaches, less Tinder.
2. To not come on too strongly (playful, smiley) too early with girls I cold approach.
Why Day Game Over Night Game?
I know some will think it's wrong I focus on day game over the night time. Maybe they're right. However, for me the equation is simple...
Day game supplements my lifestyle. Night game doesn't.
I'm not a big drinker, I have a sleeping schedule and diet tailored to boost my professional performance. Etc. Etc. That's not to say I don't go out, but that I'm able to integrate day game with my general lifestyle (i.e. working in a coffee shop, reading in the park, whatever).
My Theory Reading and Progress So Far
I've already broken down my successes, but let me paint a bit more colour to what steps I've taken to improve my game.
Books I've read:
Night time approaches: 2
Times I've gone out to day game and bottled it completely: 3+
What to Expect from this Thread
I'll be logging every approach I do - and even ones I wimp out on - with as much detail as I can give. I'll share my experiences and take feedback/criticisms/whatever from anyone on the forum.
For now, thanks for reading and time for me to make some approaches...
And if anyone wants to PM me, go ahead.
Long time lurker, first time poster.
As this counts as my introduction to the forum, I may as well write up a little background on myself.
As above, I've been "on" the forum for around 7 years after being introduced to Roosh by my Dad. Back then, I spent most my early days - when I was a teenager - in the Lifestyle section. I credit that forum and the posters to a huge portion of where my life is today.
I'm self-employed, live life on as much of my own terms as possible and I'm in the best shape of my life.
(Slight detour - just some of the things I've picked up on the Lifestyle forum (before it was called 'Life') include: fixing a nagging muscle injury because of a simple warmup stretch I've never seen anywhere else, getting the direction that's led to where my career is today, style advice, and much more. I think my next new thread will compile the most important parts I implemented when I was a teenager, so others can get the same kick-start but in one place.)
As for game, I've been developing some kind of fundamental proficiency since school. My introspective nature and self-improvement bent has meant I've improved my game by trial and error.
Since I discovered RVF all those years ago, I've been in a couple LTRs for a total of 6 years. So really anything game-related I've looked at here has been with a focus on LTR management (before the Family forum).
As of September/October 2017, I've been single and more focused on game than ever. Details on my successes since are below.
I'm journaling my approaches/failures/successes here for a number of reasons:
- To be held accountable. I'm an introvert learning to be an extrovert - and it's going quite well - but sometimes I make excuses and won't approach for weeks.
- For no-BS advice from the RVF crew. Like I said above, I can credit this forum to massive amounts of my personal development. There's no other collection of like-minded people I'd rather learn from. That's my last brown-nosing.
- To log and learn from each approach. I've got my own log elsewhere, however I tend to skip on writing in it. I figure if there's multiple reasons to logging here (feedback, my own self improvement) then I'll be more inclined to.
Statesman's Logistics and Info
- I'm in one of the top 10 largest cities in the UK (not London) with a population of 400,000+. There's two large universities here and a thriving "young culture".
- Self-employed and work from my laptop. Most of my game is focused on day gaming. It fits with my lifestyle.
- Low-mid twenties. 5ft 10. Fairly good-looking. In decent shape (not jacked, but not out of shape at all). My most attractive feature is probably my smile (I didn't say I'd stop brown-nosing myself...).
- I live around 20 mins from the centre of the city, however I'm close to a lively road and there's plenty of students around.
- Big fan of travel - and now that I'm single I intend to travel a lot more.
- My style tends to be simple. Good-fitting jeans, t-shirt and high quality shoes. I'd say I'm closer to "pretty boy" than "rugged man" because of genetics, but my aim is always to dress (and hold a posture) in a way that conveys masculinity. It isn't hard, because my city's style isn't masculine. And that's why I do it. To stand out.
What Statesman's Game Looks Like - a Self-Assessment
Right off the bat, I'd say my biggest strength is gaming women when they're comfortable with me (with the caveat that there's always room for improvement) and my biggest weakness is approaching.
For the former, I take the piss. A lot. I'm able to display high value because of my life (I'm out the house and around my city 2-3 days a week, closing business deals, successful projects, etc.) I also think I'm able to balance the game/comfort stuff quite well too.
For the latter, I can really easily talk myself out of it. I'm still new to cold approaching, but it's definitely something I'm developing systems for fixing (i.e. starting the day socially, trying to talk to as many people as possible etc).
Since dedicating myself to learning and improving my game, my efforts have mostly been split between Tinder and day game. With a small amount of night game.
Here's how that's broken down in terms of lays:
Tinder: 3
Day game: 1
Night game: 1
Other social: 2
As of right now my two focuses are:
1. More day game approaches, less Tinder.
2. To not come on too strongly (playful, smiley) too early with girls I cold approach.
Why Day Game Over Night Game?
I know some will think it's wrong I focus on day game over the night time. Maybe they're right. However, for me the equation is simple...
Day game supplements my lifestyle. Night game doesn't.
I'm not a big drinker, I have a sleeping schedule and diet tailored to boost my professional performance. Etc. Etc. That's not to say I don't go out, but that I'm able to integrate day game with my general lifestyle (i.e. working in a coffee shop, reading in the park, whatever).
My Theory Reading and Progress So Far
I've already broken down my successes, but let me paint a bit more colour to what steps I've taken to improve my game.
Books I've read:
- Day Bang - Roosh
- Bang - Roosh
- The Rational Male - Rollo Tomassi
- The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene
- Conversation Casanova - Dave Perrotta
Night time approaches: 2
Times I've gone out to day game and bottled it completely: 3+
What to Expect from this Thread
I'll be logging every approach I do - and even ones I wimp out on - with as much detail as I can give. I'll share my experiences and take feedback/criticisms/whatever from anyone on the forum.
For now, thanks for reading and time for me to make some approaches...
And if anyone wants to PM me, go ahead.