[Robday]

This is my first post on the site but do check up on the site regularly. I have been seeing this chick I met at a college party for a little more than a month. Since then we hit it off and we have banged numerous times everything was going well until last week. We were supposed to go out and when I went to pick her up, I knocked and I noticed she was not even in her room. I called her and she told me she was out shopping (we were supposed to meet at 7... it was 7:10) I asked her what happened to meeting at 7 and all she could say was that she had not seen the time. She then said she will text me when she gets back and she never did. Now I have been with other girls and obviously if this was a girl i haven't banged or just met I would definitely next her and thats that. However we have been seeing each other for a month and everything seemed fine so the sudden change in attitude does not make much sense to me. We have not talked in a bit more than a week, my gut tells me to ghost her but I also think I should try to contact her again.

[fitness2569]

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[PapayaTapper]

(12-07-2017 11:43 PM)Robday Wrote:  

We have not talked in a bit more than a week, my gut tells me to ghost her but I also think I should try to contact her again.

Technically you cant ghost someone that already ghosted you. Its like trying to quit a job you've already been fired from.

Its human nature to want to know the "why" of some things like why this girl went from hot (banging you) to cold (flaking) on you.

She met someone else? ...Maybe
She thought you were getting too "boyfriend/ girlfriend" ? ...Maybe
She decided to be a born again virgin? ...Maybe
She's on "one new dick per month while I'm in college" program? ...Maybe

...The list of possible explanations goes on and on and on.

The fact that she "forgot what time it was" when she was supposed to be meeting you tells us a lot: Meeting you was a lot less important to her than you meeting her was to you...and now youre thinking about her. Girl game recognized

Guaranteed she's not thinking about you

Rule #1

"The power of a relationship lies with whoever cares less" -Uncle Wayne

Rule #2

Nothing makes you care less than having other options (chicks)

Welcome to the game

[TTQQTT]

A month isn't shit. Don't think about it too much and move on.

[questor70]

(12-08-2017 04:58 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

If life were fair Michael Douglas would have won an oscar for this.

[PapayaTapper]

(12-11-2017 12:31 PM)questor70 Wrote:  

(12-08-2017 04:58 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

If life were fair Michael Douglas would have won an oscar for this.

He was definitely the best part of that movie. There were a number of "game knowledge nuggets" dropped in that movie by him and Mathew McConaughey before it ultimately devolved into the standard Hollywood blue-pilled cheese.

Here's another Uncle Wayne scene with too many funny quotes to list

"Took her to the coat check room and found out she had a ten pin up her dress?....Dont worry, happens to all of us"

[BadgerHut]

I've been through this too, with a gal I was really into (LTR-style). No one can have a good explanation for your specific case but know that you are not alone.

There's this cultural myth floating around for generations that sex for women is this deep, meaningful experience that means they are really bonded to a guy (we even talk ourselves into it with the evo-psych explanation of how eggs are expensive and the cost of children is high so they are biologically programmed to take this stuff seriously and on and on).

The collective experience of guys shows that that is a bunch of bull shit nonsense. Having a few bangs with a guy doesn't mean shit to girls today, she can wake up one morning (in your bed no less) and decide she wants some other kind of novelty, or she met some other dick the previous day, or write you off because she doesn't like your movie collection or how you cook your eggs.

There's *some* shortcuts/techniques to getting "hand" and securing that sticking-in-her-mind-forever, but in general, all of us are playing the odds.

Obviously it's really insulting and degrading that a chick you've been bumping uglies with and probably doing other interesting shit with too (activities, deep talks) decides you're not even worth a real talk of "it's been nice but I'm going to move on." But that's just another sign of their inflated self-esteem and how they've been raised in this society to have zero respect for men.

You'll never know the truth, so put aside any thought of "figuring it out"; even if she told you something you (and probably she) would have no idea whether it was the real explanation.

[ksbms]

(02-25-2018 12:04 PM)BadgerHut Wrote:  

Obviously it's really insulting and degrading that a chick you've been bumping uglies with and probably doing other interesting shit with too (activities, deep talks) decides you're not even worth a real talk of "it's been nice but I'm going to move on." But that's just another sign of their inflated self-esteem and how they've been raised in this society to have zero respect for men.

You'll never know the truth, so put aside any thought of "figuring it out"; even if she told you something you (and probably she) would have no idea whether it was the real explanation.

[BadgerHut]

Great gif.

[BadgerHut]

Also, "met at a college party" is a recipe for flakiness...the college scene is a gold mine, but that also means a gold mine for girls too, so you've got shitloads of new people coming in and out all the time. Once people graduate and get into busy working lives, their chances at continuously meeting new interesting people is diminished so you have a *little Bit* more structural security with any women you charm into the sack.

[Keepiticy2]

my best advice is to ALWAYS have options. Usually, lack of sex or lack of attention turns guys into "clingy" simps. Girls know this.

Forget her, just go ghost (which isn't really going ghost cause she left first) work on yourself, and have fun with life.

Stoicism teaches somethings are unavoidable. She might have had a bad day and just wanted to go ghost from the world, she might have gotten a bf, Her friend might have gotten an std and now she's scared to be a slut. It could be any combination of reasons or no reason at all. HOWEVER, you can't dwell on it. It'll only make life worse for you

OR she's doing what almost every girl does and have options.Whether it's for food, sex, sexual tension, emotional support, or romantics. She gives each of those guys a specific amount of time and will trade them out with no remorse. (That's why i believe if girls were more logical they would be MUCH better managers and such than us) Sadly you might have been traded or let go. You can't dwell on it.


In my experience, if a woman does this then you have to just leave it alone. If you contact them they won't respect you, if you try to get her back she's going to feel more valuable than you and treat you accordingly. Simply get new women and learn not to form bonds with them


She isn't your girl, its just your time

[PapayaTapper]

She treated OP exactly like OP treated this thread. Coincidence?

[Keepiticy2]

(02-25-2018 03:45 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

She treated OP exactly like OP treated this thread. Coincidence?

Just noticed the date this thread started. Hillarous