First post here on the forum and I hope I´m putting it in the right thread.
I have 2 kids, they´ll soon be teens. Soon they will be living with me full time. I´ve had a few gf that I´ve had to cut loose because me having children seemed to be the root of some issues for them. I´ve heard the term baggage used as an example. Maybe its because they felt I´d never put them in 1st place, because my kids come first. If they caught wind of a conversation I had with my ex, that usually led to me being asked when I´m moving back in with her... WTF?
Now I´ve been seeing this chick thats more then 10 years younger then me, she is 25 no kids. A situation came up recently where I´m forced to take action and move my kids in with me. This action is unavoidable and for most sane people a 100% understandable action on my part. This has opened the door to so much drama from this girl I´m seeing, even if she says she is cool with me doing it. Earlier tonight I got a confession out of her that my kids where an issue for her. My reaction was, see ya later bitch and have a nice life which sent her hamster into a frenzy.
I think I just lost the last bit of respect I have for women. Where I come from, as a man you must except if a woman has children from a previous relationship, at least that is the feminist doctrine, oddly enough that does not seem to apply to men.
I am left wondering here if this is a general problem for women or if I´m just attracting the wrong crowd. I´m pretty straight up with what my life is with these chicks. I know it goes against all logic to be honest with women, maybe thats my mistake. They are always initially attracted to the "honest guy" but then it always comes back to haunt me in the end. In my mind I see it as a kind of filter for finding a suitable LTR material but I might be approaching this the wrong way.
I´d really appreciate some advice from more experienced guys here and or any thoughts you have on this subject. Am I better off going it alone? Will a woman ever except a guy in a situation like I´m in for a LTR or marriage?
I have 2 kids, they´ll soon be teens. Soon they will be living with me full time. I´ve had a few gf that I´ve had to cut loose because me having children seemed to be the root of some issues for them. I´ve heard the term baggage used as an example. Maybe its because they felt I´d never put them in 1st place, because my kids come first. If they caught wind of a conversation I had with my ex, that usually led to me being asked when I´m moving back in with her... WTF?
Now I´ve been seeing this chick thats more then 10 years younger then me, she is 25 no kids. A situation came up recently where I´m forced to take action and move my kids in with me. This action is unavoidable and for most sane people a 100% understandable action on my part. This has opened the door to so much drama from this girl I´m seeing, even if she says she is cool with me doing it. Earlier tonight I got a confession out of her that my kids where an issue for her. My reaction was, see ya later bitch and have a nice life which sent her hamster into a frenzy.
I think I just lost the last bit of respect I have for women. Where I come from, as a man you must except if a woman has children from a previous relationship, at least that is the feminist doctrine, oddly enough that does not seem to apply to men.
I am left wondering here if this is a general problem for women or if I´m just attracting the wrong crowd. I´m pretty straight up with what my life is with these chicks. I know it goes against all logic to be honest with women, maybe thats my mistake. They are always initially attracted to the "honest guy" but then it always comes back to haunt me in the end. In my mind I see it as a kind of filter for finding a suitable LTR material but I might be approaching this the wrong way.
I´d really appreciate some advice from more experienced guys here and or any thoughts you have on this subject. Am I better off going it alone? Will a woman ever except a guy in a situation like I´m in for a LTR or marriage?