[Cortez]

Ok here's the deal. I have a situation on me.

I had this girl that I caught feelings for and she is probably the hottest girl I have ever been with. I mean I put her on a pedestal to the max. Nice Mexican girl with a cute face and nice body. I mean she was everything for me.

Went out with her for about 2 years until she eventually I guess just wanted to leave. Last words she told me was that I had a small dick and went with somebody else.

This really took a toll on me mentally. I gained 50 pounds since and lost my job and Im back at my parents house just a fat mess. I went to see a psychologist and they diagnosed me with depression and taking an anti-depressant. It really affected me that much.

So far I have been with other girls but not at the quality of my ex. She even saw me with another girl and made a comment of "you have bad taste and your girl is super ugly". Shit of that nature.

Any advice on how to forget this girl and get my life back together. Thanks.

[bgbusiness]

I had a huge one-itis before like you and it was with a chick that I haven't even slept with.

She was the most beautiful girl I have ever met in my life that time (it was 2.5years ago, so IDK how she will look now.) My lay count was virtually a zero back then also so I just put her on the pedestal to the max and never fucked her obviously. I also fell into depression for about 6months and after 6 months was still thinking about her almost daily. Yeah, super bad.

I realize that I needed to take action and go fuck 10 other girls, which I did and she doesn't come to my mind as close to before. Probably like once a week or so, but it's a memory of not missing her, but just realizing how much I have come through and how she has "crushed me" emotionally and mentally.

What you have experienced doesn't even come close to what this girl named Jenna has done to me.
I would just go out and start approaching and go monk mode.

[churros]

(10-07-2017 09:04 PM)Cortez Wrote:  

Went out with her for about 2 years until she eventually I guess just wanted to leave. Last words she told me was that I had a small dick and went with somebody else.

Seems likely you are trolling.

[Alpone]

-Start lifting and dieting. Your weight is influencing your self-esteem. Looking in the mirror and seeing fat is probably making your depression worse. If you want to do cardio, running is a natural anti-depressant.

-Keep fucking other girls. Eventually you'll find one you like more than your ex.

-IMO anti-depressants are a temporary fix. Have an escape plan - don't get hooked on them for life. They can also cause weight gain.

-Get a job even if it's not ideal for the time being. Unemployment also causes depression.

-Get hobbies if you don't have any. Get out into the world and meet people and do stuff and make yourself useful.

[Cortez]

(10-07-2017 09:18 PM)churros Wrote:  

(10-07-2017 09:04 PM)Cortez Wrote:  

Went out with her for about 2 years until she eventually I guess just wanted to leave. Last words she told me was that I had a small dick and went with somebody else.

Seems likely you are trolling.

No. That was actually true.

Long story short, I got her mad after she left me, started doing some revenge stuff against her and she told me how she really felt.

[Cortez]

(10-07-2017 09:17 PM)bgbusiness Wrote:  

I had a huge one-itis before like you and it was with a chick that I haven't even slept with.

She was the most beautiful girl I have ever met in my life that time (it was 2.5years ago, so IDK how she will look now.) My lay count was virtually a zero back then also so I just put her on the pedestal to the max and never fucked her obviously. I also fell into depression for about 6months and after 6 months was still thinking about her almost daily. Yeah, super bad.

I realize that I needed to take action and go fuck 10 other girls, which I did and she doesn't come to my mind as close to before. Probably like once a week or so, but it's a memory of not missing her, but just realizing how much I have come through and how she has "crushed me" emotionally and mentally.

What you have experienced doesn't even come close to what this girl named Jenna has done to me.
I would just go out and start approaching and go monk mode.

Thanks for sharing that. Im still in the stage of still thinking about her everyday. Every once and a while I will stalk her facebook page. At least once a month or so. And everytime I do it, I get depressed even more.

Thanks for sharing.

[churros]

The hottest girl I ever banged was when I was 19 and didn't know any game. When we broke up, I was a fucking mess for a year.

If I knew game, and the basic psychological principles it contains, things would have been far better.

So you are very lucky you're here. Here's what to do.

Cut this girl out of your life. Do not think about her, do not text her, forget she even exists.

Keep fucking other women. You got lucky with this one. Develop your powers until hotter girls are within your reach, and until you deserve them.

Develop your network of friends. Keep socialising. Keep working towards school/colllege/job etc.

Get to the gym several times a week, or pick up a sport, preferably several to keep yourself occupied.

GET OFF THE MEDS

If you follow these principles, you will be fucking girls like her several nights a week in your thirties (like I just did right now). Keep an eye on the long game. Women don't have this luxury.

[BigTony]

Well, no one wants to be told that they are inadequate in the love making department. That was a bitchy thing for her to say to you. Not only that but she practically dumped you and kicked you in the balls on the way out. I understand how you feel but don't give that cunt power over you. In life, you have to take lemons and make lemonade.

Do you know how many times I was told that I was a nobody, a loser or I would never amount to anything in life? From that point on, I was determined to be successful. I will not boast about how I am doing in life but I am happy.

Let this be a turning point for you Cortez. Life will get better. First you need to get back on your feet. Get back in the job market and start stacking your paper. If you have a passport already, then you should plan on a nice international trip in the coming year. Going to a foreign country should take your mind off the past.

Do the things in life that make you happy. Once you have your life together, the women will come.

[not_dead_yet]

> Seems likely you are trolling

Because girls never say mean shit in a break up?

[RedBeanWarrior]

She's done you a huge favor. You were to weak to dump her bitchy ass so she did it for you. No man should have to put up with that shit.

Use this to beat yourself up into a better man. Take up martial arts, lose that belly fat, work your ass off, and make her sorry she ever dumped you... but by then it'll be too late for her because you're fucking pussy that's hotter, younger and tighter.

[BlackFriar]

Find another girl. Get said girl pregnant. Bingo! Problem solved. I guarantee that you will never have to worry about thinking about that other girl ever again. :-)

[Cortez]

(10-08-2017 09:37 AM)BlackFriar Wrote:  

Find another girl. Get said girl pregnant. Bingo! Problem solved. I guarantee that you will never have to worry about thinking about that other girl ever again. ?

Can you elaborate more on this? How does getting another girl pregnant help?

[augen sehen]

You just have to discount every mean thing a breaking-up or broken-up ex says to you. You can't take anything seriously because women will say (and do) anything under the sun just to get under your skin. They will sleep with your best friend so you don't have any friendship to fall back on, they'll tell everyone you raped her, they'll spread rumors about you and nasty shit.

In the grand scheme of things, her telling you you have a small dick should be looked at for the pathetic attempt at undermining you that it is. It's not even very imaginative. Tell her to call you back when she has something better than 14 year old you would say.

[questor70]

For some women, the only way for them to handle a breakup is to demonize and marginalize their ex. If you see this immature pattern repeat enough you'll learn that it's them, not you. As long as you acknoweldge this and not take what they say too literally then you'll be able to deal with it.

Unfortunately she can seem like the most emotionally open and honest and considerate person in the world and STILL snap into petty burn-bridges mode in the end. There's really no way to know.

There had to be a foundation for a relationship there otherwise it never would have started in the first place, but if it were meant to be then the breakup wouldn't have started. You need to be able to separate out whatever it is you could do better next time from the things she says just to twist the knife.

[Rhyme or Reason]

I'm wondering why was the OP banned?

[Soma]

(10-08-2017 02:01 PM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  

I'm wondering why was the OP banned?

Previously banned troll.

[churros]

(10-07-2017 09:18 PM)churros Wrote:  

(10-07-2017 09:04 PM)Cortez Wrote:  

Went out with her for about 2 years until she eventually I guess just wanted to leave. Last words she told me was that I had a small dick and went with somebody else.

Seems likely you are trolling.

I even called this troll out, and I still fell for it.

What is their motivation here exactly?

[bigolteddies]

(10-08-2017 10:19 PM)churros Wrote:  

(10-07-2017 09:18 PM)churros Wrote:  

(10-07-2017 09:04 PM)Cortez Wrote:  

Went out with her for about 2 years until she eventually I guess just wanted to leave. Last words she told me was that I had a small dick and went with somebody else.

Seems likely you are trolling.

I even called this troll out, and I still fell for it.

What is their motivation here exactly?

Idk if he's trolling. My gf and I broke up a few weeks ago, we were texting about a week after the breakup seeing if wed want to get back together. Then out of the blue she says how she fucked this guy already (monkeybranch ofc) so I told her about how I fucked a girl that week too. She responded saying yeah well his dick is bigger than yours and then I blocked her and went no contact. So not saying OP's not trolling but weird how my ex said the same shit.

[Sombro]

Bang her friends. Especially if she's the jealous type.
This is the quickest way to Oneitis Detox.

[Jetset]

(10-11-2017 07:49 PM)Sombro Wrote:  

Bang her friends. Especially if she's the jealous type.
This is the quickest way to Oneitis Detox.

Detox is beside the point.

Bang her friends for sport.

[Nordwand]

(10-08-2017 12:12 PM)augen sehen Wrote:  

You just have to discount every mean thing a breaking-up or broken-up ex says to you. You can't take anything seriously because women will say (and do) anything under the sun just to get under your skin. They will sleep with your best friend so you don't have any friendship to fall back on, they'll tell everyone you raped her, they'll spread rumors about you and nasty shit.

In the grand scheme of things, her telling you you have a small dick should be looked at for the pathetic attempt at undermining you that it is. It's not even very imaginative. Tell her to call you back when she has something better than 14 year old you would say.

Made me think of:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fsv7yK6AknA

[qwertyuiop]

go to thailand and take pictures of all of the girls you do and send them to her.

[Grizwald1400]

Delete

[MaceTyrell]

Still moderately dealing with the after effects of a breakup from 10 months ago.

The cliche “it gets better with time” is unfortunately the best I can offer. Just give it time. I’ve gotten four new notches and have schemed in almost countless women since the breakup, and I still find myself 10 months later thinking about her, jealous of the idea that some other guy might be hitting it raw right now...

Feel free to PM me for other thoughts - I’ve actuslly been thinking about typing up a Long post on it around year-end for the newbie thread, as the relationship, fallout, and post-breakup reflection has been a crucial experience for me to understand the value of “red pill” thinking, despite still having SO MUCH to learn about it.

Edit: Well damn...guess I should have actually read the OPs post haha.

Regardless, I’ll be posting that write up in the newbie section around year-end. Hope it’ll trigger a really enlightening convo.

[RatInTheWoods]

Three weeks in Thailand. happy to help.

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