[Jetset]

No Fap is bizarre. I did it for a few weeks and wasn't that thrilled, but it had definite side effects.

1) Started spontaneously saying shit to random women that I maybe should not have said.

2) Developed Terminator-like vision scanning for women's asses, homing in on a 4 in shorts from two blocks away.

3) Isolated a coworker and took her out for a couple glasses of wine. It was going to work until she remembered I had an LTR and wanted to go home. She didn't speak to me for two years.



Went back on the All Fap Program that very night.

[Nelson254]

Cheers for the support.

Will continue with the gym and the no fapping. It will force me out of my comfort zone.

I am better positioned now than last year but much more to do. Constructive criticism and advice is what I needed to hear. Sometimes you learn more from people you don't know than the so-called people we have around us.

[giama]

Good stuff man, you can turn your life around. It does pay off.

I went through a phase of self improvement, i would treat the gym like a church. No distractions. A good pair of headphones and the gym. I was religious about diet often eating the same exact things for days. It was freeing having that break and being at one with yourself. a medidation if you like.

1 thing that worked for my mind was travelling, when i went to the Dominican Republic and realised how beautiful the women were, it completely changed my perspective on women in London. The pedestal was completely removed. Even when you do get your body into the shape you want, you are going to likely have years of confidence building which has been destroyed by London females and given you approach anxiety.

When you smash and have access to beautiful women in the 3rd world (Wether that be colombia, thailand or whatever floats your boat), it will then give you the 'i dont care how this situation pans out' attitude that you need to deal with London women effectively. Your probably worried about the outcome because you feel they have the pussy and they have all the control. No your the man you have all the control. They are just girls who dont have nothing to bring to the table.

I worked out and harnessed the abundance mentality, now i dont really care about the outcome and women can sense 0 thirst within me, I cant really get genuine 8s and 9s in London for the most part not many guys can (6s and 7s all day long). But the 8s and 9s in London have no mental hold over me, because i can get them when i travel with no fuss. I can let one pass me by or i can go in for the kill, it has no change on my emotion what happens.

At some point your going to first have to get used to being in the presence of very attractive women and thats why i recommend travelling to a good destination where they will treat you with Value. Even if its false or inflated value, it is what it is. Your going to have to programme yourself to believe that these women are here to serve you and if they dont want to serve you then they can disappear.

As you slowly transition this inflated confidence into UK society your going to trick your mind in to believe this is how all women should treat you, with respect and that they should value your presence. You will still get rejected here and there its not personal. but slowly your going to trick your mind into being a confident individual. You will pick up a hobby and get good at it, martial arts, boxing, whatever. This will give you even more confidence.

Eventually women will pick up on this and your value will improve. and you will find it easier being around women as you are not trying to qualify for them, but you are making them qualify themself to be with you.

Your likely scared of the rejection and are scared to pull the trigger. When you realise how insignificant and over rated the majority of london females are it liberates your mind, and you will just go for what you want. Without fear of consequence.

At some point please start to get out there, i understand going to work on yourself is good. But if you want to get good at something you need to practice it.

Keep the gym up.

[Nelson254]

Thanks dude.

I will continue with the gym. I refuse to be obese and be stereotyped as a man with no self control.

I will give the GLL program a try as well as continuing with my quest to acquire a social circle.

Are there any European countries that you recommend or is it just South America or Asia for White beginners? My Spanish is beginner at the moment as I've just started.

[Breaking The Beta]

(09-21-2017 02:30 PM)Nelson254 Wrote:  

I thought about going on the bar meet ups. Did one in November last year and it was a disaster but have thought about going on a few more.

What was disastrous about the experience? Did you at least walk away with some notes and think "Ok, I learnt the following...."

At the end of the day and as horrible as it may have felt at the time, it's progress. You stepped out of your comfort zone and took the step. Well done. Build the momentum!

[Nelson254]

Hey man.

I just didn't connect with anyone. Long time ago but from what I remember everyone was in their own little group. I got along with the organiser for a few minutes but he had to make sure the group was ok, so I just left.

I'm going to another meet up this Friday in Covent Garden London. We'll see what that brings. I remember a post from someone else saying if you fail with this group, learn and then move on with another new group.

It's quite embarrassing to be honest. I mean what's so hard going up to someone random and saying hi and talking to them? I understand that rejection is inevitable for a beginner like me. Just have to bite the bullet and realise it does get easier. Like learning to swim.

I'm not giving up, I'm confident there is a social circle out there somewhere.

My Spanish is coming along nicely too.

Thanks for your input so far.

[Cyr]

Don't write your coworkers off just because theyre 'liberal'. Having banter with people from work and making friends with them will be good for your social skills. Also, instead of going to meetups and hoping to slot into a social group, start a new activity (dance, rock climbing something like that). I think thats an easier and more organic way to make friends.

[h3ltrsk3ltr]

I'm not a fan of being too deliberate with the no fap thing but I do think porn fucks with your brain and I feel a lot more focused after a week or two of not jerking off. It's probably just the benefits of forcing yourself to focus on something more worth your while than masturbating. Consistent mental discipline = mental toughness and not jerking off is a pretty good tool (ha) for training that skill.

How's learning spanish going? Have you tried watching your favorite TV shows in spanish or french? I work with a bunch of mexicans who don't even speak english so that helps a lot too.

[Turnus]

Why are still living at home at age 30?

[Nelson254]

(09-28-2017 09:59 AM)Turnus Wrote:  

Why are still living at home at age 30?

Hey.

My job income isn't high enough to live on my own at the moment. I was lazy after university while being obese and am only now getting my shit in order.

[Nelson254]

(09-28-2017 07:07 AM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  

I'm not a fan of being too deliberate with the no fap thing but I do think porn fucks with your brain and I feel a lot more focused after a week or two of not jerking off. It's probably just the benefits of forcing yourself to focus on something more worth your while than masturbating. Consistent mental discipline = mental toughness and not jerking off is a pretty good tool (ha) for training that skill.

How's learning spanish going? Have you tried watching your favorite TV shows in spanish or french? I work with a bunch of mexicans who don't even speak english so that helps a lot too.

Going well. I have learnt a few phrases off by heart which means I can switch from English to Spanish immediately. Going to a Spanish learning school every Saturday morning to improve. I have text books JUST in Spanish so that's helping me too. I did watch La Reina de Corazon TV series but there were only two episodes on youtube. Will have to buy other Spanish movies on the weekend and get used to the speed. (Ellos hablan muy rápido) lol

I want to improve my employability by learning Spanish fluently, as well as the access to the Latinas.

[Captain Gh]

... Hopefully start approaching by the End Of December!? My road to Game was so Damn Hard... but I Always took action now. If the Approach Anxiety was too high... I was back on these street the

fallowing day. If you're thinking stays the same... Good luck my friend... cause you'll need it. Self Improvement is good and all... but it's not let sit around a fire singing Koumbaya I'm slowly slowly getting better.

[Guitarman]

Nelson , are you still a virgin???

[Nelson254]

(09-28-2017 05:13 PM)Captain Gh Wrote:  

... Hopefully start approaching by the End Of December!? My road to Game was so Damn Hard... but I Always took action now. If the Approach Anxiety was too high... I was back on these street the

fallowing day. If you're thinking stays the same... Good luck my friend... cause you'll need it. Self Improvement is good and all... but it's not let sit around a fire singing Koumbaya I'm slowly slowly getting better.

Hey man. I am still working on my AA but I assure I will overcome it. I also know my mind set needs changing too.

Good luck with your journey, any tips would be welcome.

[Nelson254]

(09-28-2017 06:26 AM)Cyr Wrote:  

Don't write your coworkers off just because theyre 'liberal'. Having banter with people from work and making friends with them will be good for your social skills. Also, instead of going to meetups and hoping to slot into a social group, start a new activity (dance, rock climbing something like that). I think thats an easier and more organic way to make friends.

Hey man. I am bantering with them for practice. Doing ok to be honest with you but need to be sharper and more cheeky.

I guess the meet up groups are just practice for opening up random people to rid me of the fear of approaching. I was thinking about doing rock climbing. Haven't done it in ages and is not that expensive. 11.50 in Vauxhall which is 25 minutes away from me.

[Nelson254]

(09-29-2017 02:14 AM)Guitarman Wrote:  

Nelson , are you still a virgin???

No, but feel like one lol.

The thirst for hot pussy will help me overcome the approach anxiety. It will just take time. Luckily I'm getting out there but more needs to be done I accept that.

[Dark Emperor]

How was the Covent Garden meetup Friday? Did you meet anyone?

One advice, if there is no opportunity with women at meetup, try to chat to a guy that seems the coolest and down to earth. Just making friends with him may lead somewhere down the line in terms of going out together or even introducing you to people he might know.

One more thing, going to a meetup last November is not a reason to stop. Since you are not at the stage to just go to coffee shops, bars & clubs alone and game. You really need to try more meetups, its much easier to at least start talking to women.

[Nelson254]

(10-02-2017 07:43 AM)Dark Emperor Wrote:  

How was the Covent Garden meetup Friday? Did you meet anyone?

One advice, if there is no opportunity with women at meetup, try to chat to a guy that seems the coolest and down to earth. Just making friends with him may lead somewhere down the line in terms of going out together or even introducing you to people he might know.

One more thing, going to a meetup last November is not a reason to stop. Since you are not at the stage to just go to coffee shops, bars & clubs alone and game. You really need to try more meetups, its much easier to at least start talking to women.

Hey man good to hear from you.

It went ok, it wasn't a complete disaster lol. Was cheeky to one woman who was 40 who received it well. Think I could have got her number if I had the balls to ask. Next woman I will because that positive interaction gave me a little bit of confidence. Also spoke to a few other people, scared to approach others which annoyed me.

Am going to a meet up on Friday to see the Blade Runner sequel and will be having a drink with the people beforehand. It will be another chance to try and socialise and work on my topics of conversation. Will update you on that meet up on Friday as well.

I think I need a wingman to help me but will have to overcome this hurdle myself.

[Dark Emperor]

Okay, well at least you are socialising. That will bring confidence and more opportunities.

But always ask for the number. Remember it's a meetup social so they are almost expecting it. Although it doesn't mean much if you get it as they might think you want friendship. But it's a start.

[RedPillUK]

- No wanking.

- Strong eye contact with every single person you meet.

- No gay communist beliefs

- Going to the gym regularly.

Gives you a more masculine presence and already puts you ahead of 90% of those fucking losers out there.

Well done, now just keep telling yourself that and your confidence should grow everyday. Just remember to practise your social skills as much as possible with men and women, you just need to spot opportunities to talk to girls and ask for their number if it goes ok.