[duedue]

He is a 50 year old tall and good looking guy with a totally alpha demeanor (but unfortunately politically a liberal). He has an Asian girlfriend who is in her 20s AND his wife (living in another state) has not divorced him. I've asked for his advice for a variety of topics (this is another aspect of his alphaness) and the opposite sex has come up more often than not.

He's surprised that I who have a good job and am "not worse looking than the average guy" am not good with girls. I thought I give him an example of how finicky dating can be so I told him about a girl whose number I got by cold approaching in a park. I told him the last text I sent her was "what were you writing about your memories" (She told me she was writing about her memories when approached) and got no response.

He said she was a deep girl and I shouldn't waste my time with this kind of girl. Said people just wanted to laugh and have fun; that I overcomplicated things and should just use my reptilian brain. (I'm paraphrasing here.) Now I'm not sure my reptile brain is still functioning! My job makes heavy use of my cortex and I'm basically analyzing things all the time.


On one hand I think he is a natural and a good looking one for that matter. Moreover he's not had to deal with Western girls for at least the past decade so he doesn't understand the situation of an average looking guy like me. But on the other hand I tell myself this guy has always had the winner mentality as opposed to me who's had the looser mentality for the most of my life (and still have quite a lot of it with me. It's in my family actually.) So I benefit from listening to him.

[Repo]

"Said people just wanted to laugh and have fun"

The truth. And that was a boring ass text you sent. If your not going to joke or have something actually interesting to say over text, use texting strictly to set up a meetup.

[Cobra]

My advice: Take his advice and stay close.

Taking him out to lunch wouldn't be a bad idea once in a while. You could learn a lot.

[subterfuge]

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

and should just use my reptilian brain.

What does that actually mean in practice? What sort of things does he think you should be saying to girls? Just be super direct?

[blck]

(08-19-2017 09:46 AM)subterfuge Wrote:  

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

and should just use my reptilian brain.

What does that actually mean in practice? What sort of things does he think you should be saying to girls? Just be super direct?

A dude come at you all arrogant and shit, testing your virility, trying to bring you down in front of everyone ?
A woman come at you all sensual, teasing you and "inadvertently brushing" your manhood ?
A small dog is barking like it weight 100pounds ?
What would it be if you listen to your primal self intead of rationalizing each of those encounters ?

Now ask yourself why low IQ guys keep athing in pussy juice while high IQ dude have to deconstruct everything they face ?

[HankMoody]

(08-19-2017 09:46 AM)subterfuge Wrote:  

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

and should just use my reptilian brain.

What does that actually mean in practice? What sort of things does he think you should be saying to girls? Just be super direct?

Here, watch this video. How to Have a Conversation like a Man -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI

Nick Sparks is a master conversationalist.

I'd actually watch all the Nick Sparks's videos if you're new at this. They're on YouTube. These ones are good:

How to Approach -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBhxkOai2HM

How to get Sexual -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nuvL7Dk8x8s

I'm a lawyer so I tend to overanalyze everything myself. The good news is that eventually all this stuff becomes second nature.

In terms of conversation, you'll find that when a woman is into you, you can basically take the conversation anywhere you feel like taking it. The important part is generating initial attraction. There isn't much you can say that will build attraction - it's all your body language, eye contact, smile, dress, smell, confidence, etc.

If you're bored one night, watch the movie Crazy Stupid Love. Though these YouTube clips are all you need to see as it relates to game:

An epic approach:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioSh29_FeBs

On closing:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qU6mOhPxYAQ

Some good scenes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RWJd1jaYaeU

Notice that Gosling, whose style and frame are completely on point, can basically approach and say whatever he wants in the first video. If a schlubby, unkempt nervous dude tried that, he would be blown out in like two seconds.

Square away your frame, style, fitness, and finances, and you'll find that the rest just flows naturally. I haven't thought about crafting a text message or the topic of my conversation for years.

[NickDunne]

(08-19-2017 07:43 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Notice that Gosling, whose style and frame are completely on point, can basically approach and say whatever he wants in the first video. If a schlubby, unkempt nervous dude tried that, he would be blown out in like two seconds.

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

He is a 50 year old tall and good looking guy with a totally alpha demeanor

Let's not forget this. Good looking natural alphas can get away with a lot of shit that would get most of us guys who have to work on it rejected immediately.
That is why you must be careful when taking his advice. I used to go out in college with two very good friends, both natural alphas. I was a blue pill mess. It frustrated me to high heavens that I could not replicate their results using their game. It took a few years to realize that mistake.

[Vaun]

(08-21-2017 06:15 AM)NickDunne Wrote:  

(08-19-2017 07:43 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Notice that Gosling, whose style and frame are completely on point, can basically approach and say whatever he wants in the first video. If a schlubby, unkempt nervous dude tried that, he would be blown out in like two seconds.

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

He is a 50 year old tall and good looking guy with a totally alpha demeanor

Let's not forget this. Good looking natural alphas can get away with a lot of shit that would get most of us guys who have to work on it rejected immediately.
That is why you must be careful when taking his advice. I used to go out in college with two very good friends, both natural alphas. I was a blue pill mess. It frustrated me to high heavens that I could not replicate their results using their game. It took a few years to realize that mistake.

well lets be honest, 90% of being "good looking" is just taking care of yourself; weight/physique, skin, wardrobe, hair and healthy emotional state. Fix and maximize these, especially these days, and you can set yourself apart pretty easily.

[NickDunne]

@Vaun

As we get older, yes, for sure. But in college (at least in my part of the world) most of the guys that went out to places which had good women were lean, jacked, did sports and dressed well. It was much more difficult to stand out. Now, in my 30-s, the gym and some fitted clothing really are enough to stand out.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

That's good advice, but unless it pertains to using your leave to go on a flag-hunting trip, why are you talking to your boss about your sex life?

[duedue]

(08-21-2017 06:15 AM)NickDunne Wrote:  

(08-19-2017 07:43 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Notice that Gosling, whose style and frame are completely on point, can basically approach and say whatever he wants in the first video. If a schlubby, unkempt nervous dude tried that, he would be blown out in like two seconds.

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

He is a 50 year old tall and good looking guy with a totally alpha demeanor

Let's not forget this. Good looking natural alphas can get away with a lot of shit that would get most of us guys who have to work on it rejected immediately.
That is why you must be careful when taking his advice. I used to go out in college with two very good friends, both natural alphas. I was a blue pill mess. It frustrated me to high heavens that I could not replicate their results using their game. It took a few years to realize that mistake.

You're to some extent right but when I compare myself to someone like him the main difference is being physically weak (fatigue) and not being a smooth talker.

[duedue]

(08-22-2017 03:21 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

That's good advice, but unless it pertains to using your leave to go on a flag-hunting trip, why are you talking to your boss about your sex life?

Because he is one of the few red blooded friends I have.

[Captain Gh]

(08-23-2017 09:25 AM)duedue Wrote:  

(08-22-2017 03:21 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

That's good advice, but unless it pertains to using your leave to go on a flag-hunting trip, why are you talking to your boss about your sex life?

Because he is one of the few red blooded friends I have.

Take your Bo$$ to lunch once in a while, and study Game at the same time like recommended by Hank. Then you'll see how a natural just
implements this shit easily. But since he used the term "Reptilian Brain" he's probably not a natural... and read on some Krauser a bit just sayin

Btw if you're physically weak... you have to address that!

[germanico]

You talk to your 50 year old boss about girls, and then come to the forum and poist about what your boss said.

I dont see how that could be seen as "overcomplicating". Nope, not at all.

[subterfuge]

(08-19-2017 08:57 AM)duedue Wrote:  

tall and good looking guy

This might have played a part, lol