I'm sure this situation comes up fairly often, and curious how people deal with it.
In this specific situation, about 6 months back a family I'm very good friends with casually suggested we go camping this summer since all national parks are free in Canada this year. I said that sounded like a good idea, and that there was something interesting going on at one of the parks near where we live. Because they were all free and anticipating high demand, I was up at 7am and booked two sites the day they were made available in Jan, for this weekend coming up. Let work know I'd need to be home this weekend (I work away from home).
They had casually mentioned potential other plans in the last few months when we'd meet up, but when pressed kept saying "oh yeah, shouldn't be a problem, we're still planning to go".
Now as it's crunch time since it's a 3 day cancellation window and the booking is on my card, and since I hadn't heard anything I check to make sure everything is still a go, and of course its "oh no, I don't think we can, blah blah blah BS excuse".
While there are some costs involved for booking and cancelling(~$20) I likely wouldn't even have bothered asking for the camping fees since neither of us really care about $50 one way or the other if we went. I'm more annoyed about the fact that I made these plans, committed to time off, and it seems like they weren't even prepared to let me know that the reservation I've made and paid for wasn't going to be used. It's like they took it as a free option to go or not to go, refused to commit 100% so they had the open choice, and then forgot all about it.
I'm curious how other people would handle this sort of thing? By nature of trip planning, one person will invariably be more invested in the process and costs of putting it together, and the other with therefore simply not care as much about going since they haven't invested anything. I still can and may go by myself, but it's simply not the trip I wanted, and wouldn't have done this trip if it was going to be alone from the outset. .
In this specific situation, about 6 months back a family I'm very good friends with casually suggested we go camping this summer since all national parks are free in Canada this year. I said that sounded like a good idea, and that there was something interesting going on at one of the parks near where we live. Because they were all free and anticipating high demand, I was up at 7am and booked two sites the day they were made available in Jan, for this weekend coming up. Let work know I'd need to be home this weekend (I work away from home).
They had casually mentioned potential other plans in the last few months when we'd meet up, but when pressed kept saying "oh yeah, shouldn't be a problem, we're still planning to go".
Now as it's crunch time since it's a 3 day cancellation window and the booking is on my card, and since I hadn't heard anything I check to make sure everything is still a go, and of course its "oh no, I don't think we can, blah blah blah BS excuse".
While there are some costs involved for booking and cancelling(~$20) I likely wouldn't even have bothered asking for the camping fees since neither of us really care about $50 one way or the other if we went. I'm more annoyed about the fact that I made these plans, committed to time off, and it seems like they weren't even prepared to let me know that the reservation I've made and paid for wasn't going to be used. It's like they took it as a free option to go or not to go, refused to commit 100% so they had the open choice, and then forgot all about it.
I'm curious how other people would handle this sort of thing? By nature of trip planning, one person will invariably be more invested in the process and costs of putting it together, and the other with therefore simply not care as much about going since they haven't invested anything. I still can and may go by myself, but it's simply not the trip I wanted, and wouldn't have done this trip if it was going to be alone from the outset. .