[joaolamp123]

Hi everybody!

Had 3 dates with the sister of a friend, she was clearly interested in the beginning! First date we almost had sex, but the other two she started to take things slow... On the 3th date she complained that I was escalating too fast, what kind of surprised me.
She works in another city, what makes things a little bit difficult to set dates ( she only returns to my city on the weekends, which it is terrible to maintain my behavior a challenge without taking things extremely slow!!!)
I had to travel because of my work and we stayed 3 weeks without seeing each other... I started to delay my replies when she texted me, and she started to do it too (she is not a fast texter, but her delays started to be longer!!)
When I returned, I set a date with her (asking if she was on the weekend at my city) and she delayed the response saying that she was almost sure that she would return ( and that we could do something on saturday)... I was expecting another behavior since we were 3 weeks without seeing each other, so I just replied her that if she really decide to return she can send me a message ( and cut the contact!!!).
She sent me a message only on Saturday morning saying that she returned to my city but she was with her family (her brother was visiting her), asking if I was there too on Sunday... I said to her that I was going to visit my family in another city and I was not sure if I was able to returned on time to do something!!!
That's when she texted me saying that we could do something even at Sunday night, and I could send her a message the moment I return!!! I said ok and I would confirm only on Sunday... then on Sunday afternoon I sent her a message saying that I was able to get back on time, and we could do something... That's when she texted me saying she scheduled something with her friend because she thought that I would not return on time (saying sorry!!), which for me it is clear a BS...
I tried to take things cool and replied saying it was OK, but I am deciding to go no contact and not reply her texts anymore... I am spinning more plates, so it is not a big problem if she decides to not talk with me anymore...
What do you think about the situation and what I did to turn her off?

[crispytaco]

There is not enough information to know why she is not engaging. Some will shoot opinions, maybe she feels you aggressive, maybe she is seing other dude or simply her cycles. Understand that unlike men, their libido and attitude changes every day.

[Sonoma]

I'd flake on anyone who uses that many exclamation points.

It's possible you said or did something that indicated you get around, so she's being careful to try to make sure you earn it.

Or you had a window of her interest and that window is certainly tightening

[General Stalin]

Well she hasn't stopped texting you, and judging from all the back and forth it sounds like she is still somewhat interested in talking to and you and seeing you. I wouldn't give up yet especially since she isn't your only prospect (though she is likely your most attractive which explains why you are so invested in closing with her)

Believe it or not, some girls are not down with fast sex. Some girls like to wait and feel like a "whore" if they bang a dude after just a couple dates.

Restart her this week and try to set up another date. Don't say "Hey lets hang out X day" - say something like "Hey lets get together this week, whats your sched like?"

[joaolamp123]

My gut tells me she has the kind of behavior that you are talking about, that's why I am still thinking of not giving up on her yet. Your idea of asking about her schedule it is good, but due to the fact that she usually has only the weekends free (when she returns to my city) I still think I will have a lot of work to hide my cards and maintain challenge.
I am considering the idea of waiting her to contact me so I can game her properly...

[Off The Reservation]

You are too available and you are communicating neediness. Not to mention you may have been friend zoned. Do a search for what is called "thirst" on this forum.

[joaolamp123]

I thought that we were here to discuss things to improve our games, analyse situations and become better men... If you think I was friendzoned it really doesn't bother me, because I will not think twice on dumping her if this is the case.
If you have great tips or similar situations to tell me I will be welcome to have a great discussion!

[General Stalin]

(07-31-2017 05:54 PM)joaolamp123 Wrote:  

Your idea of asking about her schedule it is good, but due to the fact that she usually has only the weekends free (when she returns to my city) I still think I will have a lot of work to hide my cards and maintain challenge.

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I am considering the idea of waiting her to contact me so I can game her properly...

You've only seen this girl 3 times. Don't let on like you know her schedule (even if you actually do). Ask her what days/nights she is free.

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If you don't want to bang her then stop texting her, sure. But don't hold your breath that she will restart you. Restarting her costs you nothing but a 5 second text.

[joaolamp123]

Actually she already restarted with a lame opening (something that I discussed with her about her running performance), trying to break the ice of what happened... It was quicker than I imagined, but I didn't reply because all of this back and forth on texting is only giving her the validation that usually sinks my game... To be honest, I'm in a situation that if I get the bang it will be great, but if I don't it will be OK too. I will wait and see what happens...