[Spike]

One of the few problems i'm still facing with girls is how to get rid of them. Back in my LTR /AFC days i always was a pussy in dumping girls. I used to stay too long in relationships because i was to afraid to hurt the girls feelings or see her cry.

Nowadays, being somewhat of a global player and even though most girls i'm with know what kind of guy i am, i'm still facing this problem after SNL's and girls for a few days.
Even if i had a great night with a girl, after a few days i start looking elsewhere. Especially in the large cities i hang out with lots of options and nightlife i don't wanna be stuck with the same girl all the time.

In 9 out of 10 times the girls are totally hooked to me and want to spent every minute with me. ( this would be a different thing if i was looking for a LTR) Even when i just slightly mention that i want to date other girls or want to go out alone/with friends. I get a shitload of drama, crying and even begging like this morning.

I'm visiting this Spanish girl for the second time in La Paz/Bolivia. The first time i met her i stayed 4 night in her apartment which was pretty cool. Lots of sex and a good time. Now 6 weeks later i'm visiting her again, she knows i'm a player and straight up asked me how many girls i was with in the last 6 weeks ( 5 girls, 3 flags). I've been spending a few days with her now and am kinda fed up with it. Don't like her body anymore and her way of sex ( she's like rape game) and she wants to kiss, hug and fuck all day. i don't !

This morning she begged me to stay another night with her even though we argued during the night. I agreed but i rather go out to find a new girl on a Saturday night in La Paz.

I missed out on quite a few bangs on several occasions this way.

Which techniques or advice can you guys give me without being a total asshole? I don't work so i cant use that excuse.
Whats a good way to weasel myself a way out of a second meeting ?

[gringochileno]

My favorite breakup method is from Bang. Tell her you thought the last time you were together felt purely physical and you didn't feel emotionally connected to her. You often have problems opening up and getting close to people and you need some space to work on yourself before either of you gets hurt. She'll understand, it doesn't put the blame on her, and it opens the door to you hooking up with her again down the road if you want.

If I don't use that, I usually just go with the cold cut-off. But then again I'm an asshole.

[Spike]

(09-03-2011 03:39 PM)gringochileno Wrote:  

My favorite breakup method is from Bang. Tell her you thought the last time you were together felt purely physical and you didn't feel emotionally connected to her. You often have problems opening up and getting close to people and you need some space to work on yourself before either of you gets hurt. She'll understand, it doesn't put the blame on her, and it opens the door to you hooking up with her again down the road if you want.

If I don't use that, I usually just go with the cold cut-off. But then again I'm an asshole.

Great technique but won't the girl try to talk about it ? And what if she see you the next night with another girl ? I've been there and it sucks big time.

I'm looking for different techniques/ways. Can you explain the cold cut off?

[gringochileno]

(09-03-2011 03:49 PM)Neil Skywalker Wrote:  

(09-03-2011 03:39 PM)gringochileno Wrote:  

My favorite breakup method is from Bang. Tell her you thought the last time you were together felt purely physical and you didn't feel emotionally connected to her. You often have problems opening up and getting close to people and you need some space to work on yourself before either of you gets hurt. She'll understand, it doesn't put the blame on her, and it opens the door to you hooking up with her again down the road if you want.

If I don't use that, I usually just go with the cold cut-off. But then again I'm an asshole.

Great technique but won't the girl try to talk about it ? And what if she see you the next night with another girl ? I've been there and it sucks big time.

I'm looking for different techniques/ways. Can you explain the cold cut off?

Tell her you often have problems when you try to get close to people, possibly stemming from a childhood experience or when you've been burned in the past. It's nothing to do with her as a person, you just don't want either of you to get emotionally attached before you're ready for that kind of thing. If she sees you out with another girl, she'll probably be pissed but you can stick to your guns and say it's just a physical thing with the other girl and you don't want to be emotionally involved with anyone right now. Then you can tell your new girl that the first girl is an ex who took the breakup a little hard and set up a nice little jealously plotline where she'll compete to gain your approval.

A cold cutoff is when you just stop contacting her and don't respond when she tries to contact you. Sometimes they'll call or text a few times but eventually they get the hint.

[Wizard]

(09-03-2011 03:32 PM)Neil Skywalker Wrote:  

One of the few problems i'm still facing with girls is how to get rid of them. Back in my LTR /AFC days i always was a pussy in dumping girls. I used to stay too long in relationships because i was to afraid to hurt the girls feelings or see her cry.

Nowadays, being somewhat of a global player and even though most girls i'm with know what kind of guy i am, i'm still facing this problem after SNL's and girls for a few days.
Even if i had a great night with a girl, after a few days i start looking elsewhere. Especially in the large cities i hang out with lots of options and nightlife i don't wanna be stuck with the same girl all the time.

In 9 out of 10 times the girls are totally hooked to me and want to spent every minute with me. ( this would be a different thing if i was looking for a LTR) Even when i just slightly mention that i want to date other girls or want to go out alone/with friends. I get a shitload of drama, crying and even begging like this morning.

I'm visiting this Spanish girl for the second time in La Paz/Bolivia. The first time i met her i stayed 4 night in her apartment which was pretty cool. Lots of sex and a good time. Now 6 weeks later i'm visiting her again, she knows i'm a player and straight up asked me how many girls i was with in the last 6 weeks ( 5 girls, 3 flags). I've been spending a few days with her now and am kinda fed up with it. Don't like her body anymore and her way of sex ( she's like rape game) and she wants to kiss, hug and fuck all day. i don't !

This morning she begged me to stay another night with her even though we argued during the night. I agreed but i rather go out to find a new girl on a Saturday night in La Paz.

I missed out on quite a few bangs on several occasions this way.

Which techniques or advice can you guys give me without being a total asshole? I don't work so i cant use that excuse.
Whats a good way to weasel myself a way out of a second meeting ?

As my game has improved I've had this problem, and end up just telling them flat-out I'm not looking for a relationship. There just doesn't seem to be any pont in trying to string it along. I tell them I'm always open to new friendships, and obviously a friends with benefits thing, but I make my point absolutely clear.

Naturally with women there is drama, but I tend to just ignore it and not feed into it. I don't really think of this as an asshole move, as I'm being honest. An asshole would try to give them some sort of false hope for a relationship.

My 2cents.

[Lumiere]

Here is an idea.

How about you forget about techniques and just tell her the truth.

[Moma]

(09-03-2011 03:32 PM)Neil Skywalker Wrote:  

Which techniques or advice can you guys give me without being a total asshole? I don't work so i cant use that excuse.
Whats a good way to weasel myself a way out of a second meeting ?

I think a poster in here mentioned it already, but how about you hit her in the pockets?
Tell her you are short on making a purchase and could she break you off with some bread until you get back on her feet.

If you keep hitting her pockets, she will start dodging your calls soon enough.

[rockdaspot]

being too increasingly busy for her / a flake or two / then a "I met someone else..." usually works pretty well.

[metalhaze]

as zan said a player doesnt dump he is just not around....so get busy and let her know how busy your life is and your career is important to you... if she keeps persisting tell her that you don't see yourself as a good fit together as you have different interests and needs in life.

ps: it is advisable not to promise a women a relationship when you know you just want to bang her so don't start telling her you love her or that you want a relationship with her. keep it casual.

[Spike]

Thanks guys, all of you are giving great advice !

As a traveler its often hard to vein being busy. As i am visiting the city, there's not much else to do than sight seeing when you're a traveler.Usually i come up with the excuse that i need to write my stories or do online business but that doesn't work for the night.

I don't wanna say i'm sick or something because that makes me look weak and would be awkward when a girl would see me hang out with others.

i think i just have to toughen up and say it to them straight and possibly not answer calls or texts.

[Gmac]

You can either be firm and end it swiftly or cut off all contact. It's up to you, but those are the methods that work best for me. No need to drag things out or get more emotions involved.

[rockdaspot]

of course you can be busy as a traveler. don't travelers visit tourist sites far and near? don't travelers meet and spend time with other interesting people? don't travellers run out if credit on their mobile or forget to answer it from time to time?

combine being busy with "I love spending time with you but I want to meet other people too..." and you should be good to go IMO

[el mechanico]

I have a huge problem with this as well. Half the time girls will act like they never heard what you said the next day.
I think CJ said to keep pushing the threesome or keep borrowing money.
It seems like most girls just hate being dumped so much that they try to figure any way to refuse it.Today a girl that I turned loose two weeks ago texted me That she's done with my bullshit.I haven't answered a call or message from her in weeks.

[worldwidetraveler]

I bet she wouldn't have a problem breaking up with you if someone better came along.

[el mechanico]

(09-04-2011 07:29 PM)worldwidetraveler Wrote:  

I bet she wouldn't have a problem breaking up with you if someone better came along.

I'm sure something did or tried too. The point is they don't like to lose. They would rather go down in flames than lose gracefully.
Its still not over until she gets her revenge now. I think that's the final stage of a break-up.

[worldwidetraveler]

(09-04-2011 07:39 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I'm sure something did or tried too. The point is they don't like to lose. They would rather go down in flames than lose gracefully.
Its still not over until she get her revenge now. I think that's the final stage of a break-up.

No doubt. I think it is more of a matter of not being able to control the situation that gets people fired up. Kind of like not really caring if you see someone until they dump you.

[satanova77]

Most non dramatic way is the cold cut off....if she txts you and dont reply ...any self respecting woman will start getting the hint.....specially if she leaves voice mail and you dont call back....that cements it...most girls are insecure so she will start blaming something she did or one of her body parts she hates and leave you alone...one crazy bitch did call me 17 times in one evening after i went cold and along with about 17 txts...but then complete silence....(and i just made out with her but figured she is crazy and not worth fucking and dumping)....

I have never had luck with explaining reason for a breakoff....hours of argument and brain damage for me listening to bullshit....women love the chance to "communicate" and dissect what went wrong....so now I never gave the chance to do so....crazy thing is even 3 months after doing cold cut off...if I txted one of them I still had a 50% chance of getting a reply for another rendezvous if the service from my side was exemplanary....

[guey]

3 words: Separate cell phone.

Or use Google voice accounts that forward to your cell.

Give out the Google Voice number to girls that you most likely will keep short term and never talk to again. When one starts to get too clingy, stop talking to her altogether and set up a new Google voice number. Text all the other girls with the new Google Voice number saying, "Got a new phone, here's the number!"

Awesome part is, you can use Google Voice for texting too.

Problem solved.

This is easiest for short-term girls. (Under a couple months) Longer term girls can be tricky. Shouldn't keep more than 1 of these anyway. Too much headache.

When doing these things, bear this in mind:

Quote:

I bet she wouldn't have a problem breaking up with you if someone better came along.

[Parlay44]

I just don't want my tires slashed.

[guey]

(09-05-2011 11:44 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

I just don't want my tires slashed.

I have never ran into issues like these. I think it's because I keep a separation between myself and new girls until I am comfortable they are not psycho. I don't bring them to where I live unless I am confident they are not completely insane.

By the time I feel comfortable with bringing a girl home, she knows me well enough not to do such foolish things.

Pictures of your penis in her mouth and her mom's address help this incentive.

[rockdaspot]

has anyone ever tried passing them of to a friend?

I'm thinking of doing it with one of mine. I'm thinking just introduce them, let them get friendly, then slowly disappear.

[Spike]

Just came back from a 3 day jeep tour across the Bolivian saltflats, was awesome. I read your answers again and will use the ignore and cut off technique from now on.