Gentleman, I ask for your opinions on this situation in my LTR
My girl is great, we have so much love together. I will say up front that I don't cheat or lie to her. Honesty is a two way street with us. She is attracted to women and we have discussed bringing other women into bed since early on. We recently discussed me getting to have sex outside the relationship (with and without LTR) in exchange for some steps towards stability for her (moving in together and such). We had not gone into detail about rules or plans.
Not long before this, I exchanged information with a woman from my bank. I told my LTR about her when we met. Post having the conversation about sex with other women, I texted this new contact more frequently. The conversations were flirtatious and alluded to spanking etc, but were not outright sexual. I also met the contact for lunch but did not tell LTR at the time.
To make a long story short, LTR asked me if I was interested in this girl. I told her possibly. A few days later she sees the extent of the texts (we don't hide our phones) and learns about lunch. My LTR is now livid. She feels like i moved ahead without discussing how we were going to manage this. She also feels like I lied to her about my interest level.
My question is, did I fuck up? I'm worried that this upset her so much I won't get another chance to game for a long time, if ever. I'm not convinced that what a I did was totally wrong, but I have to handle this gently. I'm pretty new, but I felt my situation needed more seasoned opinions than other Newbies could offer. Your perspectives on how to handle this are appreciated.
My girl is great, we have so much love together. I will say up front that I don't cheat or lie to her. Honesty is a two way street with us. She is attracted to women and we have discussed bringing other women into bed since early on. We recently discussed me getting to have sex outside the relationship (with and without LTR) in exchange for some steps towards stability for her (moving in together and such). We had not gone into detail about rules or plans.
Not long before this, I exchanged information with a woman from my bank. I told my LTR about her when we met. Post having the conversation about sex with other women, I texted this new contact more frequently. The conversations were flirtatious and alluded to spanking etc, but were not outright sexual. I also met the contact for lunch but did not tell LTR at the time.
To make a long story short, LTR asked me if I was interested in this girl. I told her possibly. A few days later she sees the extent of the texts (we don't hide our phones) and learns about lunch. My LTR is now livid. She feels like i moved ahead without discussing how we were going to manage this. She also feels like I lied to her about my interest level.
My question is, did I fuck up? I'm worried that this upset her so much I won't get another chance to game for a long time, if ever. I'm not convinced that what a I did was totally wrong, but I have to handle this gently. I'm pretty new, but I felt my situation needed more seasoned opinions than other Newbies could offer. Your perspectives on how to handle this are appreciated.